Red heart emoji on a teams work chat...

[Ineedaslap]

So, DH has been messaging a lass in his IT dept about some equipment he needs.

She has red hearted all his messages, and in his last message where he thanks her he has put a red heart emoji in the message.

I've seen the messages and they are innocuous, he says he has never spoken to her before but I am a bit aghast and annoyed at the red hearts.

He says I am being ridiculous and need to sort my jealousy issues out and that it means nothing.

But as someone who wouldn't use a red heart in a message to anyone other than DH then I am not so sure.

So people of Mumsnet, how would you have reacted to this?

I remember the days when people actually spoke to one another on the phone!

Teams is used for almost all communications within our team. The exception would be if we're circulating a formal document or forwarding something on that we've received by emails. Individual projects have Teams channels or a dedicated Teams chat.

Emails would be used widely for comms outside of the team, but even then if it's just a quick message to someone it would often be via Teams.

Most companies work like this these days I think. If not Teams then Slack or whatever, but email seems to be reserved for more formal communication.

It doesn’t sound like this meant anything at all: why are you reading his work messages anyway? I probably wouldn’t heart emoji men I work with but I have for women - it doesn’t literally mean I love you with an undying passion 😃

I much prefer a Teams call to a phone call. We're a "cameras on" team and often call each other to run an idea past someone/give someone a quick update/just have a natter. When you WFH and rarely see each other in person (but actually all like each other and are quite close) it's far nicer.

I actually tend to agree with you OP, I would not be happy about this either. I find the love heart on the messages rather than a thumbs up ok however, inserting an actual heart into a message I would be annoyed about and actually find rather disrespectful. We all have our own standards, so you are not over reacting if it has offended you or made you feel any sorts of way ! Rather just say to your DP you don’t really appreciate that, and hope he does not do it again ! I think your feelings are valid.

Ha I'm with this!

I wasn't policing, if you read my earlier post he was sat right next to me whilst messaging, he works from home.

If you press the smiley with the plus sign you can access all the emojis and respond with any, just so you know!

I'm not, he WFH and was sat next to me at the time.

The Thumbs up emoji to me feels really passive aggressive. My boss, who is lovely, uses it all the time and I know she uses it to mean thanks/good idea but it makes me laugh as it just looks like “sure whatever” 😂

@GoodChat ooh mind blown!

Ugh if I had to ring people all the time I’d never get anything done - everyone is in constant meetings

Not on a teams chat it's not. I think it is one of the preset responses, and similar to an insta like (not love). There is no thinking behind it.

why are you reading his work messages anyway?

he’s working from home so she think his messages are fair game

This is standard in the two work places I have used MS Teams in.
If you haven’t used Teams before it can seem strange I guess. But just putting a thumbs up when someone has done some work for you etc seems a bit miserable.

.That is not what I said!

He was sat right next to me on the sofa. We were chatting and I glanced and saw it.

I DO NOT and NEVER HAVE looked at either his work or personal phone messages. I have the codes to get on them but I have never felt the need to do so,

In my slack it seems to be
❤️ = thanks or liking something like an idea.
👍 = I've now acknowledged this now please stop bothering me.

What a pile of wank 😂

That might be what it means to you personally but that's absolutely not universal. Fucking emojis reserved for "romantic love", what planet do we live on?

Thanks for all the responses so far, where I work we don't use Teams a great deal, and emojis are not a thing.

I do use emojis for personal use so that is why I was surprised, however it seems that it is standard practice in a lot of places so I stand corrected.

And again, I will state, I did not go looking at his messages, he was sat right next to me on the sofa. It was an innocent glance over when I saw it.

Congratulations on being able to remember the dinosaurs, I guess.

Teams IM is a totally normal, fast, and convenient way to communicate quick messages, and red-hearting the messages on there just means "love the content of your message", usually because it says "I'll sort that for you" or "let's have a drink after the client meeting" or something. It's a rapid acknowledgement and appreciation, no more, no less.

Totally normal for me. Red heart, laugh, thumbs up, etc.. all get used. None of us are in any sort of a relationship with another. My is 25 folks across the EU all between 30 and 60. All highly qualified professionals and all work from home. I’m off to count how many hearts I got today now!!

I use the red heart sarcastically sometimes.

"Thank you so much for sending me that 32 page assessment at 4pm that I need to complete by 5pm, shove this red heart up your arse"

I have just sent a red heart back to my (male) boss as i got a payrise. My other boss (female) red hearts my messages often. I do use thumbs up frequently. Oh dear the etiquette of emojis!

I only got 2 red hearts today! One from my boss and one from a lady in sales I’ve not met before but who appreciated my help!

Do you work?

I think this is something you would only understand if you work in an office setting. We ask for advice or info via teams whilst wfh all the time. A lot of people red heart each other to say Thanks. I don’t, only because I prefer not to, as it’s not me (I don’t even put kisses on my messages to family, so wouldn’t red heart anyone), but I don’t think anything sinister about others who do it.