Weirdest/Most Grim OLD experience

RiverRobin · 2023-03-04T20:17:04+00:00

I don’t know why I do this to myself, I’m back OLD (early 40s, children, divorced) looking for friendship/sex/nothing too serious. Only rejoined yesterday, started chatting to what I thought was a reasonable option, after a while he asks ‘would you be shy to fart in front of me’, bit weird but I reply ‘yes, not something I would expect from somebody’. Next thing I know, long fantasy sent from him about is desire to have someone fart on him, how he loves the sound/feel. I just want a pleasant, normal exchange leading to a possible meeting! Instead I end up feeling sick.

Pseudonamed · 04/03/2023 21:25

I had a guy who had golden shower fantasies. It was years and years ago. He turned me off dating for ages.

winterbegone · 04/03/2023 22:33

One guy I was speaking to on an app said he wanted to tickle and tickle me and not let me go, unmatched him right away...

Another joked that he wasn't a weirdo that would tie me up and put me in the boot of his car, when we discussing a first date. I wasn't taking any chances and blocked him.

Maze76 · 04/03/2023 23:02

@RiverRobin Thats weird! What site please, so I can avoid!

Thisisworsethananticpated · 05/03/2023 08:23

You need nerves of steel !

but better sooner than later you know

this is why I’m on FEELD as at least they are bloody honest

I don’t find this necessarily grim (FEELD is eye opening ) but it’s frustrating when they pretend and have this fake persona

morethanspice · 05/03/2023 11:53

Went back to a man’s flat to order a taxi home having made it crystal clear I wasn’t up for staying over on a first date and he had a knife lying out on his living room coffee table. He did not have a reason for it being there as he’s told me he was tidying up in case I popped in. He then turned music up so loud the taxi came and went and when I phoned they told me taxis wouldn’t attend that address again as I hadn’t come out. I finally got away but it was grimmer than grim and obviously lessons learned.

ShakespearesBlister · 05/03/2023 12:11

I met a psychologist once with more kinks than I even knew were possible. He revealed more and more about what he was 'in to' which was really pretty grim. I don't even know how so e people make a sexual connection with so e of these weird kinks. He wanted to sit in the bath and be urinated over and have used knickers regularly sent to him and he didn't mind if something was left inside them. It almost wouldn't have been as gross if we were just talking about leaving front deposits left inside them....yep, it was that bad! Be careful out there, these people even work in healthcare.

mrsfennel · 05/03/2023 12:14

@Thisisworsethananticpated what is FEELD?

Plenanna · 05/03/2023 12:14

morethanspice · 05/03/2023 11:53

Went back to a man’s flat to order a taxi home having made it crystal clear I wasn’t up for staying over on a first date and he had a knife lying out on his living room coffee table. He did not have a reason for it being there as he’s told me he was tidying up in case I popped in. He then turned music up so loud the taxi came and went and when I phoned they told me taxis wouldn’t attend that address again as I hadn’t come out. I finally got away but it was grimmer than grim and obviously lessons learned.

Oh god, this reminds me of when I was in my 20s. I couldn’t find the scissors so used a big chopping knife to open a parcel, then left it on the coffee table. My boyfriend came over later on, and as he sat on the sofa I spotted the knife and picked it up to take it back in the kitchen. What are you doing with that? he asked. And I, thinking I was cracking a joke because it was a couple of days before Halloween, did my best serial killer face and said “gonna chop you up”. He absolutely freaked out! Obviously I was mortified and thankfully he saw the funny side!

Thisisworsethananticpated · 05/03/2023 12:17

morethanspice

thats ducking horrible and scary
I hope you are ok and managed to process it

Thisisworsethananticpated · 05/03/2023 12:26

ShakespearesBlister

there are kinks and there are kinks

I would not like that BUT I wouldn’t judge his kinks either actually
golden shower ,pant sniffing
very common 🤷‍♀️

where do we draw the line from one link to another ?

i have some fantasies and I know I’ve pinged some of the men on FEELD who share them

mrsfennel
it’s a OL app

Rachael95 · 05/03/2023 14:09

I’ve indulged in several kinks with different partners, always just thought it was part of the relationship?
My husband has a few kinks, he likes to watch me with other men, among other things?

NotyourMrs · 05/03/2023 14:14

I had walked away with my computer on, which made it look like I was still online, after half an hour I went back to a stream of increasing angry messages, sent within seconds of each other for half an hour, from a guy who thought I was deliberately ignoring him, saying how funny I must be finding it but he wasn't, and how he was going to beat me black and blue.

He was fucking crazy.

Jooliusreezer · 05/03/2023 15:04

Rachael95 · 05/03/2023 14:09

I’ve indulged in several kinks with different partners, always just thought it was part of the relationship?
My husband has a few kinks, he likes to watch me with other men, among other things?

That must be fun for you. 😬

MishaBukvic · 05/03/2023 17:39

I've mentioned this on another thread before but my weirdest OLD experience was a guy who bought his child to our date !

The most grim was a hook up from OLD , we barely had any foreplay before he shoved my head down to rim him ! It was a total no no and he got the huff and left.

Tuilpmouse · 05/03/2023 17:47

Rachael95 · 05/03/2023 14:09

I’ve indulged in several kinks with different partners, always just thought it was part of the relationship?
My husband has a few kinks, he likes to watch me with other men, among other things?

Shagging other men whilst your DH watches is most definitely not "just part of the relationship"'for the VAST majority of couples 😕

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 05/03/2023 17:55

Not OLD but years ago I’d been on holiday with a friend and got chatting to two men who were on friends and on holiday and we went on a few day trips with them and to restaurants.

We swapped numbers and one of the men arranged a date with me when we got back in central London. We went to a restaurant and I asked the usual questions around his career, where he lived, car he drove etc. I kept on getting really rude and aggressive answers from him, accusing me of being a gold digger. After half an hour I left. Came home via tube and not long after he turned up at my home (we’d swapped addresses too) having driven straight there! Luckily my flat mate answered the door and refused to let him in on my instructions.

mrsfennel · 05/03/2023 18:38

@GonnaGetGoingReturns very weird he turned up at your home. However asking what car someone drives I wouldn't class as a usual question.

Tuilpmouse · 05/03/2023 21:14

mrsfennel · 05/03/2023 18:38

@GonnaGetGoingReturns very weird he turned up at your home. However asking what car someone drives I wouldn't class as a usual question.

It's not in my top tier of date questions, but I'm wouldn't think twice if someone asked me that.

HereIsMyHat · 05/03/2023 22:17

I had several people offer to be my slave. Which was very much out of nowhere!!! I am 6ft tall though, so there might be a 'giant woman to rule me' vibe I accidentally give off?!

ImJustMadAboutSaffron · 05/03/2023 22:42

Rachael95 · 05/03/2023 14:09

I’ve indulged in several kinks with different partners, always just thought it was part of the relationship?
My husband has a few kinks, he likes to watch me with other men, among other things?

Never happened to me!

quietnightmare · 05/03/2023 22:57

Met a guy online he seemed nice

Had 2 day dates with him and he was so normal and charming and funny you get the picture

Then...

Date 3 - we went out for dinner and ended up going to a few clubs before I knew it the club was closing and the queue for the taxis was so long.

He said he lived around the corner so we walked to his and he offered to sleep on the sofa while I had his bed. I decided to snoop and opened his cupboard there was A4 loves of paper on the inside of the doors with girls names on and some had been scribbled off and loads of disturbing things about what he has done/will do to women and how we should all die. Also in the cupboard was random handbags, high heel shoes in a size 10, loads and loads of tissues and a picture of a dog where he had popped the eyes out of.

I called a taxi and tried to be so quiet while I waited and then when the taxi came I was sneaking through to the front door and there he was wide awake wearing only a hoodie which was not long enough if you get what I'm saying and reading a book using the light from his phone

I said I had to go and he did try and convince me to stay but I told him I would text him, which of course I never did

Aussiegirl123456 · 05/03/2023 23:00

ShakespearesBlister · 05/03/2023 12:11

I met a psychologist once with more kinks than I even knew were possible. He revealed more and more about what he was 'in to' which was really pretty grim. I don't even know how so e people make a sexual connection with so e of these weird kinks. He wanted to sit in the bath and be urinated over and have used knickers regularly sent to him and he didn't mind if something was left inside them. It almost wouldn't have been as gross if we were just talking about leaving front deposits left inside them....yep, it was that bad! Be careful out there, these people even work in healthcare.

Omg I actually think I know this man!

Aussiegirl123456 · 05/03/2023 23:04

quietnightmare · 05/03/2023 22:57

Met a guy online he seemed nice

Had 2 day dates with him and he was so normal and charming and funny you get the picture

Then...

Date 3 - we went out for dinner and ended up going to a few clubs before I knew it the club was closing and the queue for the taxis was so long.

He said he lived around the corner so we walked to his and he offered to sleep on the sofa while I had his bed. I decided to snoop and opened his cupboard there was A4 loves of paper on the inside of the doors with girls names on and some had been scribbled off and loads of disturbing things about what he has done/will do to women and how we should all die. Also in the cupboard was random handbags, high heel shoes in a size 10, loads and loads of tissues and a picture of a dog where he had popped the eyes out of.

I called a taxi and tried to be so quiet while I waited and then when the taxi came I was sneaking through to the front door and there he was wide awake wearing only a hoodie which was not long enough if you get what I'm saying and reading a book using the light from his phone

I said I had to go and he did try and convince me to stay but I told him I would text him, which of course I never did

Oh my gawd, thank heavens you got out! He sounds strange (understatement).

Reddress2023 · 05/03/2023 23:12

Thisisworsethananticpated · 05/03/2023 08:23

You need nerves of steel !

but better sooner than later you know

this is why I’m on FEELD as at least they are bloody honest

I don’t find this necessarily grim (FEELD is eye opening ) but it’s frustrating when they pretend and have this fake persona

Don't agree! I think that the people on Feeld are the least honest lot I've met yet. The whole ENM blah is just BS and an excuse to knob who you want. I tried it and was lied to and manipulated and left in a really vulnerable state as a result.

GreenLampOfLove · 05/03/2023 23:20

Well there was the "interesting" message from Mr Licky.