Dating Thread 239 - spring fling

[Thisisworsethananticpated]

I couldn’t think of a decent as it’s been so fractious ! Will post rules shortly

I don't think MN is necessarily a safe space as people think. I remember posting years back about a simple thing like clothes and the comments i got, really put me off. Mila, what id say is although most are supportive, there are many going through their own sagas of pointless dates, being ghosted, trying to look after children with SEN, so I think naturally some may be jealous when you talk about all the rich men being so adoring of you and maybe question how truthful you are being/make snidey remarks.

LostidentityM

its NOT a safe space and we have to remember that
risks range from daily mail , to malicious posters and to being identified

and we had that wierd juju recently when someone had the ‘same boyfriend ‘ - remember that
fuck knows - but I think someone might have been very upset as an outcome

Yes, there were the two apparently new posters who shared the same boyfriend, the lurkers. I actually think some posters are fantasists who are pretending to be people they arent, or pretending to have partners. Or even men.

I agree @LostidentityM. Some of us have had meet ups and are in touch IRL but this space isn't vetted or moderated heavily.

@Mila14 sorry to inadvertently make things worse. I genuinely believed you were single. I must remember to RTFT in future

LostidentityM

that (lurker + same bf) freaked me as it was fiendishly clever if was what I think it was !

and fortunately no one could do that to me as (a) I’m single AF and (b) I don’t share that much detail

Or even men.

Pretty sure I’m an a man 👨

Me now 🤐

Noooooo

Ohmygod

You didn't say!!!

Oh yes 🤐

Who knows who is on here am sceptical...I missed the bit where 2 posters said they had the same boyfriend that is weird ! 🙄

Never really saw how the "dating the same man" saga ended.....

@NoDatingForOldMen I think you have interracted with others though offline. Some have met others. But I sometimes read posts and think do they have mental health issues and maybe there are fantasists making up a life they want to have rather than perhaps behind a screen with nothing else in their lives.

With the two dating the same man, I'm guessing fantasists and also the same poster. A standard poster here would be dissecting it here for months but no, both disappeared.

LostidentityM

aha 🤔
yes

@LostidentityM

I may have said I was Gary Lineker on Twitter 😳

But the idea of creating an argument with yourself baffles me. But then quite a lot baffles me.

i have represented myself honestly here. Perhaps too honestly. I wish everyone well. You have helped me immensely during my OLD journey which was quite an eye opener… and a massive failure!
I don’t know what will happen with Mr Ex but we love each other and hopefully he will get over this last issue.
I am closing this account and de lurking. I no longer feel ok sharing so much but I am grateful to everyone helping me with my journey these last almost a year
I felt totally daunted by OLD and have learnt a lot
thank you 🙏

Mila14

im sorry
for what it’s worth you have been very kind to me , many times
so thanks from a virtual stranger xxx

you might want to hang around and name change but I get you feel upset right now

Sorry you feel you have to leave @Mila14 but thanks for all your support. Also - I'm assuming @OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss has left too as haven't heard for a while?

as ever I come to things days after they’ve happened but also wanted to say thanks to @Mila14 you gave me some great advice as I navigated OLD

also @OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss hope things are still going well with your person ❤️

She seemed to stop posting when i and others cautioned her about the incredible speed and intensity of her "world changing romance" (her words).

Tuilpmouse

I think the problem is people chat and post and chat away , like a mental offload

and they forget we are on a very public website and people lurk

and I suppose when a poster gives a razor sharp criticism , or an opinion - and maybe bursts a bubble you had

I think it makes people feel really shitty and sad 😞

I think it’s really a shame to lose voices and opinions like @Mila14 and @OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss and @ibelieveinmirrorballs (who hopefully will still occasionally post). I hope they will still be active on here. My OLD was short lived because after joining and having 3 dates in quick succession in September, the third ended up very quickly becoming a relationship. I could probably speak of it in similar terms to Oncey but it has also had various problematic aspects that we are working through - largely due to the baggage of past relationships. I certainly don’t doubt the sincerity of people’s positive experiences and I think it’s lovely to get an insight into those heady early days, even if it is likely not to be entirely sustainable. So Mila, Oncey, please don’t go!

True, but I don't think any poster gave @OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss any particular criticism, especially not of the "razor sharp" kind, more just friendly "happy for you but just be careful" type posts.

Anyway, if she's happy in her relationship, and it's as serious as she portrays it, she's moved on from the world of dating so it's no surprise she's left this Board behind...

Of course, she could just be too busy to engage as frequently and she'll pop back shortly.

@Tuilpmouse from my experience, many don't like even the slightest hint of doubt that things might not be as amazing as they seem. And I think it's important to also not be so jaded to have doubts, I enjoy seeing happy outcomes.

Tuilpmouse

maybe not razor sharp

but some people do chat away very openly , and have a stream of consciousness - maybe more openly than I would

do when people call on that I think it makes people feel vulnerable

it’s not a criticism of anyone just what I think 🤔 happened 🤷‍♀️

Shwingbada

hey that’s nice news ! When I read that it makes me realise maybe that’s what I want to have too .., love ❤️ more than 🍆 👻

my iron updates are thin

Sordid sex date from last weekend sent me a meme yesterday - not only unfunny but one he’s already sent me ! Did not reply

might have a date Monday (let’s see )

funnily my overseas obsession from 2021 keeps texting me ! But I don’t fancy his profile pic anymore - shallow . But it’s making me realise that my outpouring of love and affection were actually appreciated - albeit too late 😂
i was so Limerent about him
and now he’s limerent about me
Life hey 🤷‍♀️

Hi guys I saw the shout outs come in yesterday during a high octane afternoon (drunk teen, lost cat found after 3 months lost and an elderly mum excursion) I'm still here but haven't had the time or the inclination to check in due to medical emergencies and starting a new senior role.

Really very sorry to miss @Mila14 leaving and the opportunity to wish her well on her formal departure from the thread or work out why she's decided to. She became a favourite poster of mine here with her sage words plus her sharing of her love story with MrEx helped me realise when previous irons were not the real deal. I'm grateful for all the info and help she provided plus her optimism and enthusiasm.

Meanwhile MrM and I continue to be 500% head over heels in wondrous love with one another. We are almost identical in humour, intelligence, ethics, parenting styles, films, food and music tastes. He have mind blowing sex approx 2-3 times each time we see each other 3-4 times a week. He is heaven.

I'll take a read through the thread now