DP has “fifa rage” is this acceptable

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DP gets very angry when playing fifa. If he loses he tends to shout at me and dc telling us to “shut up” and that the game brings out the worst in him when he loses so he needs to concentrate. He won’t let me talk or sing to dc when he is playing because it distracts him. When losing he has punched his phone, threw his phone, kicked whatever’s in his way e.g. kids toy box and drawers, smashed his controller. He has also raised hand to dc as if to smack him but he never actually hit him.. he just does it to sort of scare him into being quiet so he’s not distracting him from his game. I told DP that this anger isn’t acceptable and he can’t play the game if he is going to behave that way. However he tells me “fifa rage” is normal for most gamers and he’s not going to stop playing it just because losing frustrates him. Is this acceptable behavior for playing a video game? Does anyone else DP shout at them or dc or hit things when playing video games?

Protect your child. Choose your child over this vile creature.

Of course it's not OK to verbally abuse you, damage property and threaten your children.

He has to quit the game or get out. Living in fear because of a game isn't Ok.

Oh and my partner plays FIFA sometimes. The most he does when he loses is a 'ahhh damn' sort of medium loud yell. As you would when losing a tennis game. Then he puts the controller down and gets on with his day.

Neither him nor any of his mates who play fifa get angry... slightly frustrated maybe but it doesn't impact their mood or make them abusive

How long will it be before his anger causes him to lash out and hit you, or your kids?

Bloody hell, I didn’t read the title properly and thought this was going to be about your child. A grown adult acting like this? I couldn’t respect a man like this and personally couldn’t stay with him. The way he is behaving is disgusting and unacceptable. I would end this relationship, your children should not be subjected to the behaviour of such a jerk and neither should you. It is completely unacceptable.

Fucking hell, this is chilling.

No, most gamers do NOT get aggressive if they lose a game. We all game here, pinnacle of rage is a quiet, huffy "Oh ffs. Right, I'm getting a cuppa"

Your DP sounds violent and abusive, and is using gaming as an excuse.

Get your kids out of there asap.

DS is 13 and doesn't shout or get angry.

I don't think he would behave this way in front of friends or work colleagues. He's dominating the house & also not actually helping much.

Honestly it's like you have another child to deal with. I think your home would be nicer without him there. His tantrums are not normal.

OP, I am so sorry you are living through this.

You've gotten involved with an abusive, angry, controlling misogynist. There are quite a lot of them out there, and it's not your fault is he what he is.

But now you need to think of yourself and your dc. About how much better your life will be without the shouting, the intimidation, the constant need to bury your own wants and needs for a man who physically threatens his young children.

He is making your home a misery.

The best thing he can do for you is walk out the door.

You must be worried about money - I would be. How are you placed?

Result! Get rid of the abusive mentally stunted bullying immature inadequate fool.

It's not game rage. It's him. You've admitted to yourself that he behaves like this every time he is angry.

You honestly should leave the relationship. He won't change. He doesn't want to.

How pathetic over a game. One of you could get hurt. Also not being able to sing or talk, this is abuse.

Absolutely not. My DH is an avid gamer and if he feels himself getting in a grump because he's losing he quits the game and has a cup of tea.

Question - how does he react in everyday life when things don't go his way? Does he explode with temper when traffic lights or roadworks get in the way or he can't find his keys? How is he with shop or restaurants workers?

Reason 1,578 why you should never embark on a relationship with a "gamer".

Emotionally stunted, immature, antisocial losers who should have put the PlayStation back in their toy box once they left school.

Bless you, sucks when you can't master something. Maybe just stick to snap. There's no shame in it.

😂yeah, I'd love to spend 18 hours a day locked away in my bedroom trying to "master" some shitty little video game!

Absolute losers!

I’m not a gamer, but this sounds so embarrassing and pitiful. He’s a grown man! That would give me the ick x 1bn

He’s always telling me it’s normal for men to react this way to video games.

Well he would say that, wouldn't he? It's not true. My dh and my 14yo ds both play games and they do not behave like your bullying arsehole of a 'd'p. It is disgusting that he treats you and your child this way.

Is 18 hours a day in an alternative universe of yours or do you just know strange people?

I'm sure you have a more superior hobby to keep you entertained. 😉

My DH is so laid back he's practically horizontal... until he plays FIFA. It's an awful game and probably responsible for far more beatings and deaths than the likes of Grand Theft Auto. I honestly don't know what it is but he shouts and swears like a teenager while playing but refuses to get rid.

Then the problem is your dh, not the game. Any sensible, rational person would get rid of a game that made them behave that way.

He’s abusive. Leave.

I'm shocked and so very sad that you have to ask if this is acceptable.

He shouts, throws things, threatens to hit your children.
He puts a game ahead of his family's happiness.
He tells the children to shut up because his game is more important than them having fun.
He doesn't do his share, not by a long shot. Meaning you don't get any down time (the only fair way is for you both to get equal down time).
He plays games and watches TV while you look after the children and the home. So he thinks your job is to run around after him and the family, while he sits and plays games. Is he 13?????
How can you respect or be attracted to a man who sits on the sofa playing games or watching TV while you parent your children?? A man who doesn't parent his own children? A man who is happy for you to run around (rather tip toe around) while he lays around? A man who threatens your children with violence?

Please leave this horrible man. I'm worried for your poor children.

And no, his behaviour is NOT normal. I don't know anyone who reacts like that to gaming (or any hobby in fact).

I’m not sure if it’s an acceptable way to behave in response to video games

Of course it isn't. Would it be an acceptable way to respond to a board game, or an actual game of football? It's not an appropriate way to behave about any game.

Christ on a bike. This is terrible behaviour, totally unacceptable. Would he act like that at work? I bet not.

He needs to go.

Why do people post like this.

I dont care if he was raging about smarties.

He . Raised. His. Hand. To. Your child.

Why are you enabling abuse?!