DP has “fifa rage” is this acceptable

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DP gets very angry when playing fifa. If he loses he tends to shout at me and dc telling us to “shut up” and that the game brings out the worst in him when he loses so he needs to concentrate. He won’t let me talk or sing to dc when he is playing because it distracts him. When losing he has punched his phone, threw his phone, kicked whatever’s in his way e.g. kids toy box and drawers, smashed his controller. He has also raised hand to dc as if to smack him but he never actually hit him.. he just does it to sort of scare him into being quiet so he’s not distracting him from his game. I told DP that this anger isn’t acceptable and he can’t play the game if he is going to behave that way. However he tells me “fifa rage” is normal for most gamers and he’s not going to stop playing it just because losing frustrates him. Is this acceptable behavior for playing a video game? Does anyone else DP shout at them or dc or hit things when playing video games?

He's a grown man. It's a pretend game. It isn't normal or acceptable and the fact he claims it is ok to scare you and your child qnd throw and damage things in the home suggests he is at best a selfish bastard. Tell him to get off his game, he isn't 13, and to act like a man and a father.

He has also raised hand to dc as if to smack him but he never actually hit him.. he just does it to sort of scare him into being quiet so he’s not distracting him from his game.

What a pathetic little cunt he is.

Your poor kids living in this environment.

Imagine someone double your size purposefully making you think they're going to assault you, to punish you for making noise in your own home. Really think about how that must feel for your children. They are frightened into compliance.

You have a son. He's being trained to believe that men are in charge of the mood of the house and women should go as they are told, even if it means the children are being abused.

Can you really live with watching this play out and seeing your son replicate this dynamic when he's an adult himself? It would break your heart surely?

He doesn't want to talk or sing to your own child, as it distracts him from playing a pretend game of football...

Leave this relationship, to prioritise your child.

And if you won't then double up on contraception and don't bring more children into this oppressive and abusive environment.

My two DSs play FIFA lots and even they know not to behave like that. It would be bad behaviour from a child, but from a grown man it's appalling. Raising his hand to his child to frighten the child into being quiet is abuse.

Abusive cocklodger needs a red card!

Sure it’s normal.. If you’re a dick with anger issues.

Not normal at all. I get it’s frustrating to lose games (I’m a gamer), but I don’t get so angry I smash things up and threaten to hit my kids.

My 13 year old plays fifa and is a lot more mature than your husband. He can get a bit huffy but that’s as far as it goes.

He's frightening and intimidating and is telling you it's ok. I would leave him, it's not acceptable behaviour. Or tell him the game goes or him, see what he says.

It's only normal if you're 6 years old or a massive twat.
I going to guess that your 'D'P isn't a 6 year old.

His behaviour is appalling. What example is this setting to your kids?

Tried that. He says he will go and leave me in that case. He says he is not going to have a woman control his life or stop him playing his favourite video games. So pretty much shuts me up

He says he will go and leave me in that case.

Great. Rubbish sometimes takes itself out.

It's it normal or acceptable, OP.

I'm sorry you have to put up with this.

How is the rest of your relationship? Do you have support and choices?

The leave him.

You’re obviously a single parent with a partner who does fuck all but sit there screaming at a game on the tv

I would smash the console

Wow, he sounds like a right knob.
That isn’t normal or acceptable.

Well when things are going good then he’s fine relationship is great. However when he’s angry then he behaves the same way he would when losing the game e.g. dc annoy him he would raise hand as in to scare them or throw things around

My DH Games. He has never behaved like this.
if really you are below a video game in his priorities then really you already have your answer.
He either needs to stop gaming - as he clearly has an issue, or seek some therapy to learn how to control himself

W⚓️

He’s abusive to your kids and to you when he’s angry- none of this is acceptable but you must know that really op. For the record, my dh plays games, he doesn’t throw things. He isn’t violent. It’s not every man and it’s not normal or ok

It absolutely is not normal, if he refuses to stop playing get rid of him...and if you don't leave him for yourself do it for your dc. They deserve better than an overgrown angry teenager for a father who threatens them with violence.

Why does him saying he'll leave shut you up? You're allowing your kids to put up with this shit by not telling him to piss off then.

Poor little buggers if this is real

Stop making excuses for his behaviour and his ABUSE of your dc.

Not normal at all. Both myself and DP are gamers, neither of us tantrum when we lose. I wouldn’t tolerate that sort of behaviour, and your kids get no choice in the matter. They shouldn’t have to live around that sort of person.