New Fab & Glam (Part 3 - The Quest Continues!)

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Here we go ladies!

PMSL TFM! I've used that one too!!

Thank you Lily I'm taking my own advice, I don't feel it but i'm doing my best to fake it! There's only so much Jeremy Kyle a woman can take, I need to get out and about again!! I hope you and baby Martha are well

PC I've said my piece on FB

Baffy

Can't get on fB at work
But I will catch up tonight

And TFM - you are always so good at lifting our spirits. I always think that if you smile, and try to feel positive, then some of it will rub off and start to become reality.
(Wishful thinking perhaps?!)
But you strike me as that sort of person too

Sounds like you're having a bit of a rubbish time. It's awful being stuck in when you have no choice - I had that for months in my pregnancy and it's only the fact that I love my sleep so much that saved me from climbing the walls!

Are you managing to get out in the garden even? Although I guess the weather's no good for that is it...

I hope you're ok. I think about you a lot and you're always missed when you're not on here xx

Hi everyone, are we the longest running thread(s) on MN?

PC - it feels very final when the proceedings start, doesn't it? If you feel better (from a karma perspective) then tell him in person. After all, you'll no doubt want to do everything poss to keep things civil, for dd's sake, if not your own. And I do think that the best thing we can do whilst on this planet, is to try to treat people with kindness and consideration, even when they don't return the favour.

Dior, it sounds like your new job will mean new horizons and glad you're beginning to think of it positively - but change is hard, isn't it!

TFM hi - hope you're recovering.

Jeremy Kyle, eh . DD & I used to like listening to him on the radio, but I really can't cope with his TV show, the people are such awful types. I watched a bit of it yesterday morning for the first time in months - because I needed something mindless to take my mind off things - but one look at the ugly soandso this woman was agonising over, and I just thought, how do these men DO it? And turned over to watch some family looking at houses in Australia instead!

Sugar - & at your cell story. Good for you!! But yes, Dp found it very cold and of course with a possible charge hanging over his head, he's got something extra to worry about. He had a slight tantrum on Monday night when he came to bed and found the cats had got there first. He doesn't like them in the bedroom and I know it, so it was my fault really, for letting them in, but I get lonely when he stays up late and they're company. He didn't shout, so nobody woke up, but was spitting ferociously that he would just move into the spare room when Lodger goes and that this was the sort of thing that made him feel unconsidered. Which I thought fair enough, so I apologised in the morning (after Jeremy and the Aussie househunt was over) and he then said I don't need to apologise, it's all his fault being in a dark place and taking it out on me. He's cut back on the booze and was very kind and helpful with the pancakes yesterday - and this morning, I woke up to find him watching me with such a sweet smile on his face, it was like having my old DP back.

He was mortified last night when I told him that his behaviour on Saturday had made DD cry (she only told me on Monday, and said, very matter of factly, "He was saying some horrible things about me - but I only cried for two minutes." - )

He said he really doesn't remember what he said clearly, but he really likes her and can't believe he was so nasty. So apologies said and hope it doesn't happen again. I did point out that my patience with him WOULD wear thin if I didn't see some effort from him to help himself. I asked him if he'd tried St John's Wort, but he said it worked for a while and then stopped. If it goes on, though, I shall try to get him to go to the GP.

I had a funny dream last night - that I found we had a basement in our house with a self contained flat, and that the inhabitant had left the cooker burners all on. And meanwhile, there were men clambering all over our roof!

Meaning ????

Thank you Baffy, that is so nice of you

Yes, I certainly am that sort of person. When I am out and about I force people to smile at me . I walk with my head up and I look them right in the eye, smile and say 'hello'. I always get at least a smile back. Apart from one old guy who walks his mongrel, he just looks at me, i'm sure he thinks i'm bonkers but i don't care! One day he was walking on the opposite side of the road to the one he normally does so I crossed over too just so I could say hello to him my challenge is to at least get a smile from him!!

I always try to turn a negative into a positive too, in fact I think I am the most positive person I know these days
I think thats because I have experienced so much crap in my life BUT, I have survived! I am still here, none of it killed me, it just showed me different paths to take with different challenges. When one door closes another one opens, you just have to be brave and go through it

I sometimes laugh to myself when I read your posts Baffy. You start off ranting and raving about the injustice of it all but, with every negative you come up with a positive. By the end of the post you have solved your own problem!

TFM, i used to be just like you too. I know I will be again sometime soon(ish).

PC You will bounce back and you will be better than you have ever been! I promise you! The more that happens to me the stronger I get and strangely, the happier I get too. The more you experience and the more you survive you have less to worry about

TFM. I do know what you mean, I laugh at myself when I read some of my posts again.

Tanee I'm glad dp is acknowledging how difficult he is being. You two are great though, you both take the time to apologise to each other and think about what the other is going through. That is one of the things that came between me and NM, he just couldn't apologise even when he knew he was wrong and it drove me mad!!! Male pride or something?!
H was the opposite, he'd apologise when it wasn't his fault, which would end up with me then saying no, sorry, it's me, and he'd say no it's me - equally frustrating but it meant we never let an argument drag on or fester. Much better - imho!

I do think the GP may be a good idea though. He's clearly not well and not coping too well, and sometimes we just have to admit that the problem is bigger than we can deal with and get some outside help.

And sugar - am also and at your cell story.

PC you will be like that again soon - keep repeating our phrases in bold below

hello everyone, just wanted to pop in and see how you're all doing. Baffy, you are such an angel, really. I see this is another thread so no real news yet, apart from you pc - that must've been hard and it was a brave decision. Have you decided yet if you will tell him or just wait for him to be told?

Baffy, I don't know where you're at right now. I really hope things (are starting to) look up for you, really, you deserve it, and you haven't deserved any of the crap the last 18 months have thrown your way. Is the divorce underway? Last I heard you'd given H the letter?

I really wish you well. SUch a shame I won't be able to come to UK A meet up would be great, not to mention an afternoon in mothercare. what do Swiss women do, I wonder?

It's great to hear from you ernest. So good to see your thread and that you're all doing well

No real news from me, I did serve H with the papers back in November, he's still stalling on signing them and I don't have the energy (or inclination) to force things just now as I'm not sure what I want either.
I also had a brief relationship with someone, which was fantastic at first, but turned out to be a bit of a nightmare in the end! Don't regret it for a second though, we live and learn don't we
Still having good and bad days but can't complain too much really, things could be worse!

Let us know when you find out what Swiss women do! And next time you're over here we really should do everything we can to meet up. Or if not, we'll make our next meet-up an overseas one and all come and see you!

Was in a rush earlier so forgot to add that i wasn't charged just told quietly that next time i wanted to punch her face in to do it in a dark alley with no witnesses!!! I did laugh but i never hit her again. I was ashamed of myself after but i dont even remember hitting her i just remember her calling dd1 a bastard and reaching for her. DD1 was 7 wks old at the time and only weighed 4lb so was still very fragile.

Im not some mad hairy arse trucker who goes around beating people up!

Hi ernest hows is the baby? Are the boys looking forward to the new addition?

We know you're not - you're amazing
I'd have done exactly the same thing in your position.

Sugar, so would I !

Ernest, Hi! I haven't been into a Mothercare for years - would love to do it without having to wait for grandchildren!

TFM - you are SO positive, really happy to have you on the thread again.

Now - which grumpy old man can I try to get a smile out of today?

Oh, I know - DP !!

PS recommendation for pancakes - we tried it last night - icecream and a generous dollop of Bailey's!

Awh Thanks Tanee

Yes, I know, it's late for me to be posting BUT, I'm sat in bed with my laptop having gone wireless at last!

Oh sugarpear - I was just going to hire you to do my beating up for me . Also thought as a challenge to TFM to see if she could get a smile out of them whislt sugarpear is doing her 'work'!!!!!

I am going to do TFM challenge today and see how many smiles i can collect.

Have a good one everyone.

here's one to start you off HW! Have fun! xx

HW, here's another

Going home now to visit my Daddy - he's 80 years young today!

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Hi gang,

Dior, glad you are feeling better now. How's the job going?

Baffy / PC, am right there with you in feeling low! But like you too, dd is such a driving force in getting through it, and such a comfort.

Tanee, what a rough time you've had, poor you. You sound amazingly strong in the way you deal with dp. Roof fixed now?

Ernest, good to see you on here again. I'm afraid I have missed out on your updates, but gather you are pregnant? Congratulations, that's fabulous!

sugar, loved your story, good on you. Can't believe that she was trying to go for a 7-week old baby!!! Truly mad, don't blame you in the slightest, and love that the police didn't seem to either!!

I'm not doing so well really. After having such a lovely time in Nov - Dec, January has been awful. NM has been uncommunicative, as I've mentioned, which has driven me a bit mad. He called and said he'd be over to see me mid-Feb, but not heard more since. I know he's busy with work, and I know he's putting his head in the sand etc etc, but I need reassurance and attention right now rather than this!! Have been back to just crying every evening again, for no apparent reason. Have spent the last few nights on the phone to my wonderful best friend, just sobbing, for no real reason. I'm so tired of it, and disappointed as I thought I was feeling so much better.

Hasn't helped that bloody h is going back home to Sydney next month to visit the family, and actually taking slutguts with him. Can't believe she'll be staying with his parents and meeting all our friends and family, makes me sick. Am so angry and hurt. He has been a bit of a twat too about the money he gives me, and just in general. Also found out something else, but not quite sure I'm ready to post about it yet. Might save it for facebook I think.

Anyway, went to the doctor today, about a stye I've had on my eye for a month. (stressed, tired, me??!). Of course this morning it was miles better but I decided to go anyway and ask to be referred to one of their counsellors. The dr was lovely, and of course I sobbed to him too. He agreed to refer me, and was really kind and sympathetic. Then when I went to change my address with reception, as they had my old address, the receptionist was just so, so rude in her manner, so patronising, that I actually burst into tears again as I gave her my phone numbers. What a bitch, don't know what her problem was, all I wanted to do was change my address, I'm still in the catchment area, there's nothing bad or dodgy about it! Just couldn't stop crying, so decided retail therapy was in order and bought myself a lovely Cath Kidston bag, as you do.....

On the up side, at work today I ran into this gorgeous guy who works for one of the clients of my company, who I ended up kissing at a Christmas party. We literally just said hello. He then emailed me when he got back to work, and we are going to go out for a drink! So that's quite nice.

Off to my parents tomorrow for the weekend, can't wait!!

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lovely to hear from you lilybubble

I'm so sorry you're feeling so low. I can only imagine how awful it is knowing he's taking her with him. I would be exactly the same in your position. It's heartbreaking. I don't believe for a minute he'll be truly happy with her, they both know what he's capable of. And what sort of foundation is that for a relationship. It will only be a matter of time before he does it to her.

Great news about the guy from the chiristmas party though! He sounds really keen. That's just what you need, things to look forward to and things to make you smile.

I have some stuff I need to post about too but can't really do it on here. I have no computer at home at the moment so can't get onto facebook so it will have to wait

Awh Baffy! Write an email and forward it to us all!
Forgive me if i'm behind with the times but, did you find a house for you and ds or are you still lodging If you are then are you househunting and how's it going? xx

Dior. No, not me, call me a martyr but I suffer in silence. I sooooo hate being ill, i think if i try to ignore it it will go away quicker!

Lilybubble Keep smiling. The ex in-laws won't feel the same about the 'comer-inner' as they did about you

I might have to do the e-mail thing if I get desperate!!

Maybe it's not such a bad thing. Stops me being able to rant if I have nowhere to write it down!

Still lodging. Can't really write on here, but I can't move out at the moment due to a number of reasons my step dad being quite ill is one of the main ones. So have to put the house hunting on hold for now and look after my mum. I know she'd do it for me though, so I'll stay while I'm needed and go when the time is right for them. No time for me to be selfish at the mo

Well everything happens for a reason so, maybe it's buying you a bit more time as well as everything else

Don't worry ladies, it will soon be summer and everything always looks better when the sun is shining