New Fab & Glam (Part 3 - The Quest Continues!)

[Paddlechick666]

Here we go ladies!

and I think this is gorgeous and a perfect spring colour
cgi.ebay.co.uk/NEW-BNWT-FAT-FACE-WOMENS-LONG-CORD-SKIRT-SIZE-10-12_W0QQitemZ160175762168QQihZ006QQca tegoryZ314QQrdZ1QQssPageNameZWD1VQQtrksidZp1638.m118.l1247QQcmdZViewItem

It would help if I knew what the other women will be wearing. I don't want to be either under or over dressed. You can tell i'm out of practice at all this can't you

Thanks for the links PC. I'm definately going to have a gander at ebay.

Do you think a smart trouser suit of somekind would be ok? I'm thinking along the lines of being comfortable with myself. I'm so not used to skirts. But, on the other hand, thats why I thought I might wear one, for a nice change. I want to look smart, elegant and classy! For a change

Hi Baffy

I know you have gone but just wanted to say i am thinking of you. At least you know how strong you are now - no more wondering what you would do if he is still lying to you. You are fantastic and i think he knows that and so does she. I bet now that you are no longer showing him any interest she will not even want to be with him. She just wanted to 'win' (which i know you did too - but the prize really is not worth having is it?)

I bet his next move will be to seem so low and dependent on you and to come out with lines like 'nobody knows him like you do'.

I know a part of you still wants him to see the light and come running back but please be careful and remeber he has had a very long time to change his mind - all along he has not really let you go because he has wanted his cake and to eat it.

I think you are doing absolutly the right thing by not responding to the email - it will really drive her crazy to not even know if you have read it. you are worth so much more than that and do not need to 'expain' anything to her. Let her wallow in her own guilt instead of trying to ease it with her appologies. You know what a wonderful person you are and so does she.

Good luck anyway and you know where i am if you need me.

i'll ask my mum, she's been to GN heaps of times both corporate and otherwise.

it does somewhat depend on the nature of the corporate as to what people will wear i guess tho.

i think you should go for a skirt and boots, get out yer comfort zone girl and dazzle and shine!

You know what, you are right! I should get out of my comfort zone!
Am thinking maybe something in Navy and white as that John bloke off This Morning says it's in for spring. Does that sound too boring though?

I'd go for nice boots (make sure they don't have heels - don't want to sink into the turf, do you)? - and maybe something nice in cashmere - ie warm but light?

Ooh, envy you!!!

Re snoring & resting my tonsils - nope, that can't be my reason - as I DO talk in my sleep !!

I'm off home now to see if DP's doing dinner - I asked him to, so that he has something to think about today. I'm hoping that actually starting his job on Thursday will help, as he'll have to concentrate on something new instead of brooding on his ills. Idleness is no good for depression. I found him sitting up again last night (or rather, 2pm this morning) watching 24 hour news and eating cheese. Relieved to see he'd only had half a bottle of wine but if I hadn't gone down he'd have stayed up till god knows when and drunk god knows how much. He said he was feeling sad again and thanked me for dragging him off to bed - but it doesn't make for a peaceful night's sleep when I have to do this.

Big sigh - what do I DO with him!!!

okay TFM, apparently it is all dependent on box or rail. if it's box then it's smart suit and coat apparently!

it does depend on the corporate sponsor and what the general feel is tho.

blues & stripes don't sound boring at all. it does seem the navy/sailor theme is popular. warehouse have some sailor front wide leg trousers with one of those nice gallic boat neck tops would be lovely.

we will need to see pics of course!

tanee, can understand how exhausting it is. H used to do that sort of thing too. very disturbing to your own sleep patterns.

OOh PC! taht outfit sounds perfect! I must go and have a look at that.

It's a box. DP's company are the host's if thats what you mean by 'it depends on the corporate sponsors' (forgive my ignorance am happy to wear a smart suit, thats very me, very safe
I will have to give DP a grilling, suss things out a bit more. But typically, he won't know what all the fuss is about

Thanks again PC, you are being a great help

okay how about stepping slightly out of the comfort zone and going for

www.warehouse.co.uk/fcp/product/-/TROUSERS/SAILOR-FRONT-CROPS/5509

with boots and
www.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=34609&pid=502778

which is off the US website but they've got it in UK stores. would mean going to the shop tho!

Sorry to but in but i have been to royal ascot and i really dont think you can 'overdo' it at all. We have been to ascot at other times too and though there are some more casual it is generally smart. H's company have a box at ascot and so often host things there.

I would always choose a dress but then i feel comfortable in a dress anyway. I dont think hats have to be worn (but we do at royal ascot as we are in the royal enclosure).

I love it all though and dont need an excuse for a dress and hat.

I'd be up for any weddings so dont forget me ladies will you, - also have a couple of bridesmaids i am growing!!!!!

You are not butting in at all HW so no need for a sorry

Love the warehouse stuff PC but, am going to go for a dress!! Dp has expressed an interest - wey hey!
So get googling for dresses!

Royal Ascot eh HW! You must either have stacks of cash or good connections you talk like it's second nature too. No, I'm not jealous, not jealous at all!

i'm on it!

i've been to ascot once and it was lovely! summer tho so a bit easier for dressing!

anyways:
www.warehouse.co.uk/fcp/product/-/DRESSES/BOUTIQUE-SCARF-BLOUSON-DRESS/5830

www.johnlewis.com/13909/Product.aspx

www.marksandspencer.com/gp/product/B0013CJTFG/sr=1-63/qid=1202758823/ref=sr_1_63?ie=UTF8&node=&m=A2B O0OYVBKIQJM&keywords=&mnSBrand=core&size=9&rh=n%3A43091030&page=7
www.marksandspencer.com/gp/product/B00113YN1C/sr=1-75/qid=1202758875/ref=sr_1_75?ie=UTF8&node=&m=A2B O0OYVBKIQJM&keywords=&mnSBrand=core&size=9&rh=n%3A43091030&page=9
www.marksandspencer.com/gp/product/B0013CJMIA/sr=1-88/qid=1202758909/ref=sr_1_88?ie=UTF8&node=&m=A2B O0OYVBKIQJM&keywords=&mnSBrand=core&size=9&rh=n%3A43091030&page=10

starter for ten!

Go for it PC!

I must admit, I would prefer it to be on a nice summer's day but, beggars can't be choosers. One can't look a 'race' horse in the mouth, can one?

I like all of those PC. You know whats going to happen now don't you, it's going to be a last minute dash cos I've got too much to choose from

If you come across anything of the 'nautical' theme or in navy and white I would love to have a gander.

I can't do links but, I spotted a nice dress on the Kaleidoscope site. It's black with a deep V neck and a cream contrast wide waistband with the same cream coloured contrast band at the bottom, if you fancy giving me your opinion on it

this one:
www.kaleidoscope.co.uk/web/main/ProductDisplay.asp?An=681&A=50S049%5F14&N=678+4294967143+4294966766& Au=P%5FMasterItem&Nu=P%5FMasterItem&Ns=P%5FColour%7C0%7C%7CP%5FSize%7C0

that is stunning!

not having much luck with the navy/white thing but monsoon have some lovely stuff:

www.monsoon.co.uk/icat/dresses

Yes PC! Thats the one! Do you think that would be ok? If you do, what would you wear with it? Jacket/cardi wise? Also shoes, sandals, shoes, peep toes?

this www.kaleidoscope.co.uk/web/main/ProductDisplay.asp?LP=Fashion&An=681&A=49K890%5F10&N=678+4294967210+ 681+739+746+4294966725&Au=P%5FMasterItem&Nu=P%5FMasterItem&Ns=P%5FColour%7C0%7C%7CP%5FSize%7C0

and knee high black boots, flat or heel.

it's a gorgeous dress!

Perfect! Thanks PC!

I'm glad you like the dress, it's nice to know I still have some taste!

TFM, your taste is impeccable. it's perfect for the event and you will look stunning.

and if there were any doubt about your taste, look at what wonderful friends you have chosen

off to bed for me now.

we'll get the boots and coat sorted tomorrow.

sleep well tea bags!

night night, and have sweet dreams!

xxx

I know you're all probably asleep now (hopefully not snoring!) but I just popped on here to say Hi!
Baffy - and beyond words at GW and that slut (how ironic that they made ds call her 'lady' nothing could be further from the truth). What they have done though Baffy is to set you free. Now you can move on with your life and know that you did everything you could and were prepared to go the extra mile to save your marriage. To have it thrown back in your face like that is just terrible, but now you can close that chapter of your life and enjoy the next.
Tannee - I do agree that he needs counselling. Like my dp he scared himself by losing his temper, but that in itself is not enough to stop it happening again, no matter how much they don't want it to. Its the bloody drink - it has such a lot to answer for!
TFM - haven't got a clue about Grand National to be honest. I've never been but the dress you chose is lovely. Am very of you!
Nothing to report here - dp still being very lovely while I have been ill. Dior you are so right, I regress to childhood too when ill, and I have been very pathetic and just a little (!) demanding over the last few days and he has been fantastic. I have to admit that I do feel happier and more relaxed with him now, and am hoping so much that this will last. His attitude has changed so much lately, he's gone back to the man I met. Fingers crossed he stays that way.
Anyway, I'm ranting so I'll go to bed now. Back to work tomorrow (sad].

No not loads of cash - but H does earn more than his fair share . I have only been with his work and they have a fantasic box.

IME not many people will know that much about racing and so just go and have fun. Its great fun betting on the horses even if you know nothing. I had some beginners luck when i first went i just went with the jockey who was wearing the nicest colours!!

The other thing is to set a limit to how much money you are willing to lose - and dont be embarrassed if it looks as if everyone else is flashing £20 or even £50 notes - there was an audible sigh of relief when i asked to just bet £2.

I am sure you will look fantastic whatever you choose and have a fabulous time.

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Wow I missed a lot. Thanks for all your advice and good wishes (and the texts yesterday sugar )

Tanee I'm sorry he's still so low. I agree with everyone else, and I really do think speaking to someone (counsellor/GP etc) has to be a positive way forward. It's better than doing nothing and hoping it all miraculously gets better. Does he tend to bury his head in the sand?

Ginnedup so glad dp is being great - that's the sort of news we need on here!!

Right TFM! Grand National. I tend to go most years to either the GN or to Ladies day. There really is no chance of being over dressed. On Ladies day it is a lot more OTT. But on GN day you have a wide range and anything goes!
I think that dress you've chosen is absolutely gorgeous!
And well done pc for all the help and advice.

I'm gutted, I'm going on the Friday this year. My family all live literally a few minute's walk away so we're doing a champagne breakfast and then off to the races! My auntie's house backs onto the racecourse so the rest of the family tend to watch it from there - over the fence!!

I'm so fed up it's not the Saturday for me though, we could have met up for a glass of champagne!! If there's any way we can meet while you're over 'my way' then we'll have to sort it out. Even if just a quick drink to say hi.

I bet you'll have a great time.

Thanks Dior.

He's pretty much staying well out of my way and off the radar. Started to kick off yesterday about ds but I've stayed strong and said he's not to pressure me because if he pushes me too far I will just leave it in the hands of the solicitors.

I don't feel quite so devastated as last time. More angry and determined to show that I won't be treated like this. I have a very stubborn streak - and he's about to see it in full force for the first time

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