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The gardener - an update!

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Cherryblossom200 · 12/01/2023 20:53

Hi all,

About a year ago I posted on here and a guy who lives around the corner from me who I thought was rather lovely looking! He drives a white van with an open top so I thought he was a gardener of some sort.

I'm obviously single and some of you encouraged me to try and find a way to chat to him. There were all kinds of hilarious suggestions such as asking if he could prune my bushes etc etc 😂

Anyway I did try one of them which was to pretend I was looking for my cat. Yes I know a bit nuts but I tried it. This was about a year ago, I knocked on what I thought was his door and a girl answered, so I assumed he had a gf and just gave up on the idea. However I didn't realise the house was split into flats and his door was around the corner.

Zoom forward to today and my fence had blown down over night - it sort of connects to another neighbours fence which could of been his. I wasn't sure. So Without even thinking about what I knocked on a few of the flats doors asking who owned the fence and he answered!

He looked a little sheepish and said straight away that he had a bee sick all night with food poisoning. I said I could call back another time but just wanted to know if it was his fence as it had blown on top of a car. He then said he would help me lift the fence off the car and try and secure it.

I kept saying not to worry especially as he had been so ill that night. He was super friendly and told me what he did work wise and just a really nice guy! He then said he would go to his yard and pop back with some wood to secure it for me until I got it fixed properly. I kept saying he doesn't need it do that as he is sick, but he refused and an hour later was fixing my fence.

His dad is a fencer (is that the right word?!) he puts fences up anyway! So he said he would get a quote from his dad for me, I said should I take his dads number and liaise with him directly but he said he would come back tomorrow and let me know what his dad says.

He could well have a gf and just being super friendly and neighbourly, but he seemed to really go out of his way to help me after puking all night?! He barely knows me 😂

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Ofcourseshecan · 12/01/2023 20:58

He sounds lovely, OP! Keeping my fingers crossed there’s no girlfriend.

BrownDaisy · 12/01/2023 20:58

💍I can hear wedding bells

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Cherryblossom200 · 12/01/2023 21:04

I'm just so rubbish with this stuff I really am. I was caught off guard today as I was worried about the damage to the car my dam fence had done! So I hadn't really prepared myself for meeting him. I was in my pink polka dot wellies 😂 waffling away about rubbish!

I was happy to take his dads details but he seemed happy to pop back with the quote. He could just be a really nice person and nothing else to it.

I'm not sure what to do tomorrow if he does come back though?!

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Jellybean23 · 12/01/2023 21:20

Hopefully, he comes back with wood so you let him do the temporary repair. And you mention how grateful you are because you are single and it's easy to be ripped off. You say you are about to have coffee, would he like one too?

Jellybean23 · 12/01/2023 21:23

Oh, just spotted he's done the temp repair, sorry. But the rest of it still holds good about mentioning the being single bit and offering him coffee.

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Cherryblossom200 · 12/01/2023 21:25

I have a child, so I subtly dropped in the conversation that I wanted the fence eventually made higher with a concrete base to create more privacy. I explained that I'm on my own with a child, hoping that he would then realise I'm single. I'm sure he's seen me before with my little girl so wouldn't come as a surprise that I had a child.

I think I'll try and read his body language tomorrow to see how he is. If it's just a quick hi, hope you're well - here is my dads number you can arrange him coming over type thing then I'll take that as he isn't interested. But if he tries to keep the conversation going I might invite him in. I don't want to be too forward, this is something I've always been worried about and tend to just do nothing 😬

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B1rd · 12/01/2023 21:25

I suggest making yourself look super gorgeous...just in case! I hope it goes well for you.

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Cherryblossom200 · 12/01/2023 21:26

Thanks I was thinking of making a bit of an effort tomorrow! But I wfh so can't look over the top x

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SweetHolme · 12/01/2023 21:33

Awww love this!!! i’m so invested 🤣🤣🤣 just try and be casual and say I was just going to pop the kettle on do you want one, and then just start chatting!

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Cherryblossom200 · 12/01/2023 21:36

But what if he says no he is busy or something like that? I'd feel like a bit of a twat, we literally live 2 mins from one another 😬

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QueenSmartypants · 12/01/2023 21:38

Hopefully, he comes back with wood

<Snickers>

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Cherryblossom200 · 12/01/2023 21:38

I'm one of these let things happen naturally type people, sort of don't try and force things. So trying to invite him in for coffee feels a bit strange especially with someone I barely know...

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Cherryblossom200 · 12/01/2023 21:39

Queen - that's hilarious 🤣

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WelcomeEverythingIsFine · 12/01/2023 21:43

Awww have everything crossed for you!!

gretti · 12/01/2023 21:48

Argh I remember you! Love this update! Let us know what happens!

minticecreamisjustok · 12/01/2023 21:49

When he comes back tomorrow, you insist on taking his number not his dads.

pinneddownbytabbies · 12/01/2023 21:52

It is most definitely the done thing to offer tradespeople a cup of tea or coffee.

And biscuits Biscuit Biscuit Grin

Dimpous · 12/01/2023 21:53

It would be totally rude to not offer tea...especially after all of his efforts Wink I have lots of things crossed for you. I love this type of thing!

Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 12/01/2023 21:54

You could always go back round to his with a thank you gift. He sounds like a lovely bloke.

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Cherryblossom200 · 12/01/2023 21:54

Ok, but am I reading into this wrongly. His yard is at least a 20 min drive each way, he picked up his wood for me after a night of puking. He had to cancel a days work and instead decided to help me stick my fence back up. That is such a nice thing to do! Do you think he is interested?

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Loosingitall · 12/01/2023 21:57

ahh ❤️ this is everything I didn’t need on a miserable Thursday night.

offer him a bacon sandwich or a brew. I’m sure he will take you up on something

LadyWithLapdog · 12/01/2023 22:04

Was it food poisoning or a hangover? That would be a worry, especially mid-week. Otherwise, good luck!

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Cherryblossom200 · 12/01/2023 22:07

No it seemed very genuine! He seemed to be a typical bachelor, I've never seen him with anyone before. He could be gay! 😂

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Jellybean23 · 12/01/2023 22:14

He definitely might be interested. But you need to make sure he knows that so press on with the offer of a coffee. The worst he can say is no, have to get back to the wife!

Regardless whether he accepts coffee, you could ask if he feels better now, was his gf poorly too or just him? If he says there's no gf/wife , you can sympathise being ill and alone, say you dread being ill as you are alone too.

mae2014 · 12/01/2023 22:15

Awww I remember you!!
Good luck OP! Hopefully he pops back tomorrow and asks for your number!! X

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