The gardener - an update!

[Cherryblossom200]

Hi all,

About a year ago I posted on here and a guy who lives around the corner from me who I thought was rather lovely looking! He drives a white van with an open top so I thought he was a gardener of some sort.

I'm obviously single and some of you encouraged me to try and find a way to chat to him. There were all kinds of hilarious suggestions such as asking if he could prune my bushes etc etc 😂

Anyway I did try one of them which was to pretend I was looking for my cat. Yes I know a bit nuts but I tried it. This was about a year ago, I knocked on what I thought was his door and a girl answered, so I assumed he had a gf and just gave up on the idea. However I didn't realise the house was split into flats and his door was around the corner.

Zoom forward to today and my fence had blown down over night - it sort of connects to another neighbours fence which could of been his. I wasn't sure. So Without even thinking about what I knocked on a few of the flats doors asking who owned the fence and he answered!

He looked a little sheepish and said straight away that he had a bee sick all night with food poisoning. I said I could call back another time but just wanted to know if it was his fence as it had blown on top of a car. He then said he would help me lift the fence off the car and try and secure it.

I kept saying not to worry especially as he had been so ill that night. He was super friendly and told me what he did work wise and just a really nice guy! He then said he would go to his yard and pop back with some wood to secure it for me until I got it fixed properly. I kept saying he doesn't need it do that as he is sick, but he refused and an hour later was fixing my fence.

His dad is a fencer (is that the right word?!) he puts fences up anyway! So he said he would get a quote from his dad for me, I said should I take his dads number and liaise with him directly but he said he would come back tomorrow and let me know what his dad says.

He could well have a gf and just being super friendly and neighbourly, but he seemed to really go out of his way to help me after puking all night?! He barely knows me 😂

@Cherryblossom200 you are so not in any way crazy or needy ffs! Ignore the dafties who have no life and embrace it. Exciting and don't let anyone dull your sparkle.

This is the content I am on my mumsnet for. I hope this goes somewhere lovely 🥰

Thanks! Tbh I'm far from desperate, not that I feel that I have to justify myself but I'm single by choice and happy on my own with my DD. I'm of the view I'd love comes my way then I'll explore it.

So I was a little taken aback by the comments! It really was a natural meeting of me panicking I'd damaged someone's car! I'm only petite and couldn't lift 3 massive fence panels including concrete posts off the car.

I'll just see how it goes, if he doesn't come back I'll just drop off a small present next week to say thank you. Do you reckon a bottle of wine is good? x

Take it chilled, with glasses, and suggest you have a drink together. (If you've managed to work out that he's both straight and single)

This is so romantic ❤️. A word of encouragement - My cousin lived a rural isolated life, a friend sent a plumber to fix her shower. Cousin gave him a coffee and shortbread biscuits. A couple of years later they married!
Hope it works out for you.

Hi Op,

I remember your post too. This is so exciting and can’t wait for an update 🤞

Best encounters are unplanned. If I could however offer a piece of advice, refrain a bit of giving too much information which could make you look vulnerable in the face of a stranger, even though he is a neighbour. He may seem nice but just be cautious please. What I mean is talking about the fact that is just you and your daughter, etc. I am not saying not to disclose the info if you are asked, as this way you will know if he is interested, but just don’t put everything out there.

Also, when you think he dropped a day’s work to help you he may have already taken the decision to take the day off before you knocked on his door.

Also do not worry about how you look today, not saying don’t make an effort, but if you were not put off by how he looked when he clearly wasn’t well, I am sure a good man will not be put off by your pink wellies or whatever you may be wearing today.

Do offer a coup of tea, but try not to be too eager too soon. Good luck! 🤗

Your story doesn't make sense. Your fence fell on a car and damaged it.
Then you say it was his fence.

You need to contact the car owner about the damage you're responsible for.

Have a day off

The car is not damaged at all, but I wanted the fence off the car and he helped me. Anyway it's sorted now and I can't be bothered explaining who owns what fence.

Don't worry I'm not going to be over the top about stuff, tbh that my main problem and why I'm single. I don't generally give off any signs I'm interested at all. But take on board the comments about not giving too much info away. I wouldn't normally do this, but was totally taken off guard and didn't plan a conversation like this.

He hasn't been over today, and I'll be out later so I doubt I'll see him. No big deal I'm sure he will pop over at some point with the quote 😊

Hi Op,

he may be at work and he might probably knock on your door later on. He seems like a nice guy from what you are saying. If anything you now know what door to knock on when looking for your cat😃

Op - forget all the naysayers - good luck.

He sounds nice. Ignore some people on here and see how it goes. Good luck

I’m buying a hat!

@Intrepidescape Crazy - how so?

Your fence fell on a car so you ran round this random guys house who you've never exchanged a word with to help you as damsel in distress? Even though it wasn't his fence or car? Seems like strange behaviour to me.

You say you like to 'let things happen' but sometimes guys need a bit of a push! If you invite him in and he says something like 'I haven't got time', just say 'Another time, then' and move on. Nothing ventured...
And if he is gay, you might've made a friend! I love having a gay bloke as a friend - we have a lot of fun, at no risk!

Oh wow, Ice lolly 🤦🏻‍♀️ why are there a few odd people who are focusing on details which are irrelevant?! Like the fence and the bloody car?! I knocked on the random guys door BECAUSE I THOUGHT IT WAS HIS FENCE!!! I have said numerous times that I can't be bothered to explain how my fencing works because it's too complicated to explain.

This post It's supposed to be light hearted and a bit of fun, but there always had to be one or two mumsnetters who try and spoilt it.

If I hear back from him I'll let you know 😊 for the time being I'm going to disappear for a bit. I'll leave the keyboard warriors to discuss my fence, who owns it, why I'm knocking on strange peoples houses, and generally acting crazy 🤣

Night all! x

Ohh,I remember you too,if all goes well do we get invites to the wedding (which I'd have to decline as I'm a practical hermit and can't handle social situations,but still...)

If nothing Brid it is nice to have those butterflies that fancying somebody brings. Hope he calls😀

Just wanted to say I LOVED reading of your chance encounters and I too am rooting for something to happen... don't run scared because of what people have said on here.... He's a neighbour... totally normal to ask him in for a cuppa or a glass of wine, given how he;'s helped you... and if that leads to something more, utterly glorious... and if it doesn't, you've got a friendly neighbour which we all need in this world. Good luck and thank you for bringing joy to some of us who read your thread xx

Let's hope he gives you a good erection...
With the fence panel i mean...

Ignore the twits who have nothing better to do than interrogate and spoil your lovely post.

Please please keep us updated!

This is the type of lovely lighthearted post that us NORMAL mumsnetters find an utter joy and are invested in ☺️🥰😃💯.

Lots of luck! 🥰❤️

Don't worry - there's all sorts on here. I got accused of inventing a public footpath once! 😂

What's stranger is you feeling the need to be so mean.
ran round
damsel in distress
its a new year, what's stolen your joy so early on?????

Well you if nothing else you have given us something to read lol!
I would take the thank you wine round with your number attached then leave it up to him. Also glad your car is ok funny it helped you meet him so maybe it is fate haha x