The gardener - an update!

[Cherryblossom200]

Hi all,

About a year ago I posted on here and a guy who lives around the corner from me who I thought was rather lovely looking! He drives a white van with an open top so I thought he was a gardener of some sort.

I'm obviously single and some of you encouraged me to try and find a way to chat to him. There were all kinds of hilarious suggestions such as asking if he could prune my bushes etc etc 😂

Anyway I did try one of them which was to pretend I was looking for my cat. Yes I know a bit nuts but I tried it. This was about a year ago, I knocked on what I thought was his door and a girl answered, so I assumed he had a gf and just gave up on the idea. However I didn't realise the house was split into flats and his door was around the corner.

Zoom forward to today and my fence had blown down over night - it sort of connects to another neighbours fence which could of been his. I wasn't sure. So Without even thinking about what I knocked on a few of the flats doors asking who owned the fence and he answered!

He looked a little sheepish and said straight away that he had a bee sick all night with food poisoning. I said I could call back another time but just wanted to know if it was his fence as it had blown on top of a car. He then said he would help me lift the fence off the car and try and secure it.

I kept saying not to worry especially as he had been so ill that night. He was super friendly and told me what he did work wise and just a really nice guy! He then said he would go to his yard and pop back with some wood to secure it for me until I got it fixed properly. I kept saying he doesn't need it do that as he is sick, but he refused and an hour later was fixing my fence.

His dad is a fencer (is that the right word?!) he puts fences up anyway! So he said he would get a quote from his dad for me, I said should I take his dads number and liaise with him directly but he said he would come back tomorrow and let me know what his dad says.

He could well have a gf and just being super friendly and neighbourly, but he seemed to really go out of his way to help me after puking all night?! He barely knows me 😂

I remember you too.. I hope you get to have a few more chats with him and see if things progress… ie coffee, chat . So that you know and don’t think’ what if’ type questions. Also being nosey…I’d love to know what happens!!! Good luck x

I love this thread, OP, thank you for sharing. I’m sitting with all my fingers crossed that it turns out that he’s been fancying you for the whole of last year too and is currently posting on dadsnet asking for advice on how to approach you 🤞🤞🤞

Ooh I remember your last thread, I felt sad when it looked like he had a GF so I'm really pleased this has given you an opportunity to make contact again! Hope you get to see him soon and you can pluck up the courage to invite him in for coffee ☕

Good luck, Op! Ignore the naysayers/those who need drawings on the back of an envelope to grasp the nitty gritty details......

Aww no - don’t disappear. I was so excited when I seen you updated.

Inore all the pedantic Penelope’s!

Fuck the arseholes
Am loving the lighter tone without them

ooh love the thread keep us posted! Xx

Love this, please keep up updated!!

I love how "I hear wedding bells" was the second response to the OP's original message! 😂

@Cherryblossom200

Ignore negative posters here.
Ask him for coffee. He sounds like a lovely person and that could be the start of a friendship.
I ask neighbours to come to mine for coffee if I'm friendly with them and made some friendships for the past few years, my DH got to know some neighbors that way. And my kids are welcoming too, it's a nice to do.
You sound like a lovely person too. He might fancy you/ not fancy you/ be gay but it's worth to get to know him anyway.
Good luck, please don't be afraid of looking "needy", that's all bolllocks.
I'm sure he will love to have that coffee too. Best of luck xx

Blimey there are some miseries!

This is lovely, keep us updated.

Good luck with today. Definitely offer him tea /coffee and get some biscuits in x

This Is like the beginning of a novel and romance story you'd actually want to read 😀

“Hopefully he comes back with wood” 🪵🤣

Excited for the update 😃

I remember this thread! How exciting OP!

Ignore the Negative Nancy's! I'm sure there'll be a few more along shortly to try and piss on your chips 🤣

I have everything crossed for you. If nothing else, it might be the start of a beautiful friendship xxx

Thanks everyone 😊

Btw he isn't a gardener, he is a carpenter! I've always seen myself with someone who is good with their hands 😉

I didn't see him yesterday, but I'm sure he will pop over at some point soon. I'll let you know how it goes! x

I think it would be lovely for something to happen here for you, it would be such a sweet meet-cute if a little romance blossomed.
But very gently OP, his taking responsibility for his blown over fence (or whoever's it was!) isn't necessarily the sign you're hoping for. If it was a young woman, or an elderly man, or a middle aged couple who had helped you, I'm sure you'd still think it was a nice thing to do, but possibly not jump to the conclusion that they were romantically interested. It's possible that your existing interest in him means you're projecting your feelings.

Not saying that it's not possible he's interested, but at least let him work a little harder to flirt with you rather than just being a decent neighbour!!

I love this, ignore the sad few who have to put a downer! I hope things work out for you and that he is interested! He has certainly gone to effort to help you so he already seems lovely.

Thanks for the updates, I love happy threads. I still remember the lovely widow who found love again.

Aww I love stories like this. Ignore the negativity, I am one of many that will now be invested.

You don't come across as needy or crazy at all from your posts? You first spotted him last year fgs.... If you'd done the cat thing, then the next day deliberately sabotaged your fence before a storm then yes that would be crazy.

And if he does turn up with the quote, don't leave the poor guy on the doorstep. Offer him a brew whilst he talks through the works. I do that with every tradesperson who comes to my house. It's polite.

Good luck Op x

@Cherryblossom200 has he been back?

i really hope he calls. You deserve all the happiness in the world.

No he hasn't been back yet. I was outside today sorting out my front garden, I had my back to the road but I saw in the window of my house him drive by. He didn't stop which I'm glad about as I wasn't looking particularly glam at all 😂

He might not come back with with a quote (which would look a bit odd tbh!) but stranger things have happened!

I'm really not focusing on this much at all, just going about my life as normal. If it's meant to be it'll be. Next week I'll put something outside he door like a box of chocolates with a thank you card. He door is well hidden so I think it should be safe! x