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The gardener - an update!

152 replies

Cherryblossom200 · 12/01/2023 20:53

Hi all,

About a year ago I posted on here and a guy who lives around the corner from me who I thought was rather lovely looking! He drives a white van with an open top so I thought he was a gardener of some sort.

I'm obviously single and some of you encouraged me to try and find a way to chat to him. There were all kinds of hilarious suggestions such as asking if he could prune my bushes etc etc 😂

Anyway I did try one of them which was to pretend I was looking for my cat. Yes I know a bit nuts but I tried it. This was about a year ago, I knocked on what I thought was his door and a girl answered, so I assumed he had a gf and just gave up on the idea. However I didn't realise the house was split into flats and his door was around the corner.

Zoom forward to today and my fence had blown down over night - it sort of connects to another neighbours fence which could of been his. I wasn't sure. So Without even thinking about what I knocked on a few of the flats doors asking who owned the fence and he answered!

He looked a little sheepish and said straight away that he had a bee sick all night with food poisoning. I said I could call back another time but just wanted to know if it was his fence as it had blown on top of a car. He then said he would help me lift the fence off the car and try and secure it.

I kept saying not to worry especially as he had been so ill that night. He was super friendly and told me what he did work wise and just a really nice guy! He then said he would go to his yard and pop back with some wood to secure it for me until I got it fixed properly. I kept saying he doesn't need it do that as he is sick, but he refused and an hour later was fixing my fence.

His dad is a fencer (is that the right word?!) he puts fences up anyway! So he said he would get a quote from his dad for me, I said should I take his dads number and liaise with him directly but he said he would come back tomorrow and let me know what his dad says.

He could well have a gf and just being super friendly and neighbourly, but he seemed to really go out of his way to help me after puking all night?! He barely knows me 😂

OP posts:
BoxOfCats · 13/01/2023 00:20

I remember your previous thread. Go for it, what have you got to lose?!

Lalliella · 13/01/2023 00:22

Shamelessly placemarking for updates! Good luck OP 💜

NumberTheory · 13/01/2023 01:13

He had to cancel a days work and instead decided to help me stick my fence back up.

This seems a bit extreme for a favour that could wait for the weekend for a neighbour he’s barely spoken to before. Even if he is interested. It’s either irresponsible or not the whole picture.

I don’t want to burst your bubble but would urge a touch of caution. Still indicate your own interest but with one eye open, IYSWIM.

Moken · 13/01/2023 01:32

Hopefully, he comes back with wood

Well, that should sort out whether he's interested or not.

Intrepidescape · 13/01/2023 05:00

Please leave him alone. If he was interested he would let you know. Your behaviour is very crazy.

AnchovyInCowlNeck · 13/01/2023 05:35

Take a moment to work out what is right for you, OP. Your personal life doesn't have to provide entertainment for us on here. X

Cherryblossom200 · 13/01/2023 06:09

How on earth is my behaviour crazy? My fence connects to a neighbours fence, too hard to explain on here, And I was trying to find out who it belonged to. I didn't realise that knocking on my neighbours door was crazy 😬 I didn't ask him to help, he offered and I kept saying there was no need.

Oh Corley, now it come across as I'm needy which I hate! I don't think I'll invite him in, I'll just say thank you and drop off a bottle of something at some point.

Thanks so much for your advice 💐 as someone said I shouldn't broadcast my stuff on here x

OP posts:
mallardducks · 13/01/2023 06:27

Do

fatsocatso · 13/01/2023 06:36

Oh OP, you're not crazy at all. I remember your last thread. Don't get dragged down by one misery guts on here. There's always someone on every single thread who has to say stupid stuff like that. Hope today goes well!

Draculaalaa · 13/01/2023 06:38

How old is he?

Cherryblossom200 · 13/01/2023 06:54

No sure tbh maybe early 40's

OP posts:
XYZ32 · 13/01/2023 06:56

I remember this!!! I do hope he's single

Jaxinthebox · 13/01/2023 07:07

I hope he is single, and I hope he is the one for you. Love a bit of romance, go steady, be you and I will keep my fingers crossed for you.

BCBird · 13/01/2023 07:16

You sound excited not crazy. It lovely. Just go.with the flow. I fo think u will.need o.guve him.some subtle encouragement if you are interested in him. If he is interested great,if not no.harm done.

desperatehousewife21 · 13/01/2023 07:17

I remember your thread!

very exciting. I’ve been married for a million years so am living vicariously through you. Go for it OP!

Zonder · 13/01/2023 07:25

You are NOT coming across as needy! He sounds lovely.

It's the law that you have to offer him coffee - it's only polite after he has made such an effort for you. What's the worst that can happen? He could say no. But he could say yes! Even if it doesn't turn into the romance of the year he could become a friend at least.

ImBlueDab · 13/01/2023 07:33

Oh I love threads like this.

You are not needy at all OP

Offer him a cuppa whilst he's there and then maybe drop a 'thank you' gift round if you haven't managed to ask him out.

sunshinealwayscomesback · 13/01/2023 07:33

Can't believe anyone could have anything negative to say about this lovely story. It's all coming about naturally and sounds so positive. I think it would be almost rude not to give him a coffee!

dexterslockedintheshedagain · 13/01/2023 07:34

QueenSmartypants · 12/01/2023 21:38

Hopefully, he comes back with wood

<Snickers>

I too, had a little 'pfnarr pfnarr' moment at this too!

dexterslockedintheshedagain · 13/01/2023 07:36

sunshinealwayscomesback · 13/01/2023 07:33

Can't believe anyone could have anything negative to say about this lovely story. It's all coming about naturally and sounds so positive. I think it would be almost rude not to give him a coffee!

This ⬆️!

dexterslockedintheshedagain · 13/01/2023 07:36

That was to @sunshinealwayscomesback 🤦‍♀️

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 13/01/2023 07:40

You don’t sound crazy! Ask him in for a coffee and test the waters. If that goes well pop rings with a thank you Wine

Popetthetreehugger · 13/01/2023 07:42

i Should have been up ages ago 🤦‍♀️ Remember you from last year , wondering if I can pinch my wedding hat back from my DGDs dressing up box🤣🤞

Whatevergetsyouthroughthenight · 13/01/2023 07:43

Good luck OP, I am looking forward to the update. Can we all come to the wedding? <starts browsing hats online >

butterpuffed · 13/01/2023 08:06

Please invite him in for a coffee , it would be the right thing to do after he's been so helpful 😊