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livingthesimplelife · 2023-01-03T22:46:14+00:00

Just that really - was having a discussion around a dinner party tonight and the issue seemed v. contentious, so I said I would post on here to gauge other opinions!

browneyes77 · 04/01/2023 16:29

I also have a friend (early 30s) who is desperate to settle down, but has very specific criteria for what she wants - handsome, rich, ambitious, excellent manners, no baggage, first date ‘chemistry’ etc.

Yeah I think there’s having a couple of preferences and being uber picky. When you’re that picky then you really are narrowing your dating pool down.

Having a massive checklist of what you’re looking for and sticking to that checklist is an unrealistic approach. I mean it’s fine if that’s how you want to approach it and have set your own boundaries as to what works for you, but you naturally make it harder for yourself if you’re not willing to make any compromises.

5128gap · 04/01/2023 16:37

Palmfrond · 04/01/2023 12:31

Two questions from me (M 6’4”, thanks for asking!);

Why does this question come up so often? Do the women o mumsnet, or women in general, really give that much of a shit? Or are these threads posted by men for their own perverse edification (gratification?)?
Wouldn’t these threads be better titled; Would you date someone you’re not attracted to? Because, IMO the question is exactly that fucking stupid.

Thanks. I’ll can take my 6” heels off now.

The threads are started by short men (or possibly a woman embarassed at dating one) seeking reassurance, and often, if that's not sufficiently forthcoming, trying to 'sell' short men by telling us variously that:
5'6" isn't short it's 'relative'
Its shallow/superficial to like tall men
Its very unfair to short men and what if it were your son... Etc
(For those who enjoy them, there's a 'thin man' thread at the moment btw. Maybe we'll have a 'bald man' one tomorrow.)

tweedlee · 04/01/2023 16:40

I suppose it depends on how tall you are...but probably not.
For example a 5ft3 woman then no....But if you're a 6ft female then a 5ft11man is ok.

YouAreNotBatman · 04/01/2023 16:55

Yes, I don’t care about height.

As long as they are kind, love animals, sober and asexual, I’m all for it.

Some man made a comment hiw it’s unfair women to want a tall man, but men can’t say a thing about weight.
That’s just not true, men say A LOT and in a very rude way about women’s weight.
And long list of other things they will not stand / or demand women to look like.

MakeTheOwStop · 04/01/2023 16:55

I want to say no but I don’t know… I guess it’s not a full on deal breaker. But I’ve also very rarely encountered a man shorter than myself as I am 5’1. He would have to have very impressive and quite charming if I’m being honest. It wouldn’t be my favourite feature about him for certain.

YouAreNotBatman · 04/01/2023 16:56

Oh and to add, I’m 5’10 muself, as long as they don’t have that angry short man syndrome, it’s all good.

MakeTheOwStop · 04/01/2023 16:59

YouAreNotBatman · 04/01/2023 16:56

Oh and to add, I’m 5’10 muself, as long as they don’t have that angry short man syndrome, it’s all good.

Angry short man syndrome is the worst. Angry small dick syndrome is the only other condition that is worse than short man syndrome.

Flegm · 04/01/2023 17:07

Is it just me who's not encountered short man syndrome? I haven't noticed a trend in short/average men. They're usually down to earth and less arrogant than some tall men, who think they're God's gift for being 5'9 six foot.

knitfastdieyoung · 04/01/2023 17:09

No. It's a weird thing - have dated a pretty varied range of people in the past - different sizes, 'looks', colouring etc so it's not like I have a 'type' physically. But I'm really turned off by men shorter than me. Yep it's shallow....

ReneBumsWombats · 04/01/2023 19:43

Flegm · 04/01/2023 17:07

Is it just me who's not encountered short man syndrome? I haven't noticed a trend in short/average men. They're usually down to earth and less arrogant than some tall men, who think they're God's gift for being 5'9 six foot.

I've met arseholes of all heights and sizes. Never noticed short men to be any worse than tall ones. The worst angry man I ever knew wasn't short. Nor was the second worst.

BabyFour2023 · 04/01/2023 19:45

Absolutely not. I’m 5 foot 2 😂

SusanPerbCallMeSue · 04/01/2023 19:53

I'm 5ft 1. So probably not. But I've liked blokes that are short for men, but still taller than me, although not by much.

FallonofDynasty · 04/01/2023 20:14

Flegm · 04/01/2023 17:07

Is it just me who's not encountered short man syndrome? I haven't noticed a trend in short/average men. They're usually down to earth and less arrogant than some tall men, who think they're God's gift for being 5'9 six foot.

Agree, I've never noticed this at all.
I know a tallish man who swears it is a thing, maybe he's trying to boost himself by lumping short men together and saying they're all angry.

Palmfrond · 04/01/2023 20:28

MakeTheOwStop · 04/01/2023 16:59

Angry short man syndrome is the worst. Angry small dick syndrome is the only other condition that is worse than short man syndrome.

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I’m a tall man with an average sized dick but my height and stature (former athlete) make my dick look small, and I’m very angry about it. Well, not angry exactly but pretty bloody cross. Do I win a prize?

LilDog · 04/01/2023 20:31

Most tall guys have bigger dicks though. We can tell if it looks big in proportion or average so don't worry in real life she will know if it's big or not. I had a tall guy with a tiny dick but most of the time they were long, girth is a different story.
Short guys have a wide one if they are broad shouldered.

LilDog · 04/01/2023 20:33

Short man syndrome peaks when they are in the mating years and no further growth is possible, like 20 years to 40 years they can be very bitter about being short and stiffen when a tall man is in the vicinity, watching the women to see if they are eyeing the tall man and shooting them daggers.

LilDog · 04/01/2023 20:34

Short men tend to mellow out with age from 50+ they seem ok and accept it.

ReneBumsWombats · 04/01/2023 20:41

I'd probably be angry if there was a nasty, much repeated and accepted stereotype about people who look like I do.

5128gap · 04/01/2023 20:48

FallonofDynasty · 04/01/2023 20:14

Agree, I've never noticed this at all.
I know a tallish man who swears it is a thing, maybe he's trying to boost himself by lumping short men together and saying they're all angry.

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Why would a tall man need to boost himself in relation to short men though? General consensus is he's won the height lottery, so nothing for him to prove.

Mammillaria · 04/01/2023 20:52

Well this thread took a turn. The "mating years"?!

Palmfrond · 04/01/2023 20:57

LilDog · 04/01/2023 20:31

Most tall guys have bigger dicks though. We can tell if it looks big in proportion or average so don't worry in real life she will know if it's big or not. I had a tall guy with a tiny dick but most of the time they were long, girth is a different story.
Short guys have a wide one if they are broad shouldered.

Damn, sounds like you know your shit!

sjxoxo · 04/01/2023 21:01

This thread is hilarious 😂 some of the language here could be from a David Attenborough documentary

ineedastrongercoffee · 04/01/2023 21:02

I do feel as though the question is very unfair - I have a short husband, and I’m short myself. We have twin girls who are nearly 4. He was so relieved that we’d had girls as he said it’s more socially acceptable for women to be short than for men. Really quite sad.

as another anecdote, don’t write off anyone at first glance, I used to work with a designer (of gifts not clothes 😄) he was short, bald and you couldn’t honestly describe him as handsome, and I thought oh my god how on earth did he marry a woman as beautiful as that! After getting to know him he was honestly the most charismatic guy I’ve ever met. I’d have married him and had his babies in a flash 😀

NCSQ · 04/01/2023 21:09

I'm 5'11 and have dated shorter men. The only issue is that I think they often assume I wouldn't be interested. The shortest man I ever dated was about 5'7 and couldn't seem to believe I really fancied him. He kept going on about it until it put me off his personality (still fancied him though!). All of my serious boyfriends have been 6'2 or more and I do think they have been the ones who were confident enough to chat me up. That sounds arrogant written down but I think it's a reflection of the stereotypes around this.

As others have said, height is just another 'thing' we all have natural feelings about. Height is not a deal breaker for me, but I just cannot fancy a man who is thinner or paler than I am (I am very fair).

Imagine turning down the Hot Priest just because he's 5'8 😮

ReneBumsWombats · 04/01/2023 21:12

5128gap · 04/01/2023 20:48

Why would a tall man need to boost himself in relation to short men though? General consensus is he's won the height lottery, so nothing for him to prove.

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Because he doesn't think he has anything else to offer?