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Would you date a man shorter than you?

370 replies

livingthesimplelife · 03/01/2023 22:46

Just that really - was having a discussion around a dinner party tonight and the issue seemed v. contentious, so I said I would post on here to gauge other opinions!

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Cuppasoupmonster · 03/01/2023 23:20

Deathbyfluffy · 03/01/2023 23:13

Luckily blessed at 6”3 here (M) but I do wonder why height is such an issue for some.
If men openly shunned potential partners carrying a few extra pounds there’d be an organised lynching!

I agree. MN refuses to acknowledge there’s a common beauty standard for women, even though threads like this show there clearly is one for men.

TimeToFlyNow · 03/01/2023 23:20

I have done in the past and probably would again if the right one turned up.

I'm 5"7 and do seem to have a preference for taller well built men these days

Claysta · 03/01/2023 23:20

I’m 6ft 2 so my dating pool of taller man was vastly reduced ! I’ve dated taller than me and some shorter. I married my DH who is just slightly shorter than me but as my lovely Nan used to say - you are the same height lying down….

Sockmate123 · 03/01/2023 23:21

No, it's the only thing physically that's a deal breaker. They don't have to be very tall but taller than me.

Highlyflavouredgravy · 03/01/2023 23:23

Deathbyfluffy · 03/01/2023 23:13

Luckily blessed at 6”3 here (M) but I do wonder why height is such an issue for some.
If men openly shunned potential partners carrying a few extra pounds there’d be an organised lynching!

But men do shun potential partners for carrying extea weight. Openly and blatantly.

And for being less than beautiful.

Enko · 03/01/2023 23:23

Yea and I did for 1 year in my younger days. I'm 5.8 myself . His height was not the issue we broke up. His lack of wanting to take things further was. Not just our relation His life work hobbies wrc.

TheOceanClub · 03/01/2023 23:23

I’m sorry but no. I’m 5’9 myself so I yeah I need someone at least a bit taller than me. Luckily my DP is 6’2.
Years ago I went on a date with someone who was same hight as my eye level. I don’t even remember where we met. Blind date (?) probably. Not gonna lie I was feeling a bit uncomfortable and even embarrassed to be seen next to him. Oh my god I sound so shallow.
There’s nothing wrong with any hight in general, that’s not something you can change but not for me, no. Pass.

TheOceanClub · 03/01/2023 23:25
  • height not hight
Coffeesnob11 · 03/01/2023 23:27

I have dated shorter men (5ft 10 here) but they have both had an issue with it eventually even if I haven't. If I found one who wasn't n idiot about height then yes.

Kanaloa · 03/01/2023 23:28

Lots of men wouldn’t date someone who was fat. It’s hardly news. And it isn’t wrong to have preferences for who you’d prefer to date. Of course some preferences will massively restrict you because you aren’t being realistic, but it’s still not morally wrong.

Cuppasoupmonster · 03/01/2023 23:29

Highlyflavouredgravy · 03/01/2023 23:23

But men do shun potential partners for carrying extea weight. Openly and blatantly.

And for being less than beautiful.

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I think the point is that when they do, MN posters foam at the mouth about ‘misogynistic shallow man-boys’

Chesneyhawkes1 · 03/01/2023 23:30

No. I'm 5ft 3". They don't have to be super tall, one ex was 5ft 6" just taller than me.

AppleDumplingWithCustard · 03/01/2023 23:37

No because he’d be very small as I’m only 5’2”.

SocialLite · 03/01/2023 23:40

My husband and I are about the same height, but everyone else he's ever had a relationship with was taller than him- and it wouldn't have put me off at all!

His personality and actions are what matters, not some random statistic. I am taller than him if I wear any kind of a heel at all, and will quickly tell anyone who comments not to be so ridiculous.

Icecreamandapplepie · 03/01/2023 23:41

I'm tall. Previous boyfriends all over 6ft.

Met someone an inch shorter than me, fell in love. Been married ten years and very happy.

I do occasionally wish he was a bit taller, but he looks after me and we are a great team. Same sense of humour. It just works.

Height is not everything, it really isn't.

RaininSummer · 03/01/2023 23:44

Probably not as I am only 5 foot three.

Fireandflames666 · 03/01/2023 23:46

I always said I wouldn't bit then my current partner came along, 5ft 10 and he's 5ft 9. I've always liked tall men previously, my ex was 6ft 2.

ClangingBell · 03/01/2023 23:47

Yes and I have. Some tall skinny men seem sort of insubstantial, but a short man with some muscle and a good personality is v attractive, just like a similar taller man. Given how many men mentioned on MN everyday seem to be useless or unpleasant, I’m not sure why you’d narrow your choices just because of their height.

Pushingdaisys · 03/01/2023 23:48

I’m 5.3 and my partner is 6.5 he makes me feel tiny like the song Elton John tiny dancer 💃

Highlyflavouredgravy · 03/01/2023 23:50

Cuppasoupmonster · 03/01/2023 23:29

I think the point is that when they do, MN posters foam at the mouth about ‘misogynistic shallow man-boys’

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I think the usual mumsnet response iscthat you can reject whomsoever you want for any reason you want. Dating is not an equal opportunities activity.

Marmitepot · 03/01/2023 23:50

No.

dolor · 03/01/2023 23:51

I've been involved with men shorter than me, yes. I don't see a problem.

montysma1 · 03/01/2023 23:57

No. They dont need to be tall, but do need to be taller than me by enough that i could wear heels(which isn't exactly tall as I am quite wee.)

AliceMcK · 04/01/2023 00:01

Fuck no, I’m 5’2” if I dated anyone shorter than me I’d never be able to use the top shelf’s of my cupboards.

Thinkwicebeforeyouleavemylife · 04/01/2023 00:07

Yeah of course I would although I'm very short myself so it's hard to find anyone shorter than me!

My lovely, gorgeous DH is 5'7 and that's perfect height for me x