Where to start… on Christmas Day, me, my fiancé & 1 year child were thrown out of my in-laws house at 8am (4 hours away from our home) because my partner and I got into a domestic the day before - which he caused.
I received a message from a random man asking me to stop my fiancé from messaging his girlfriend on Xmas eve morning. I was understandably shocked and heartbroken, and wanted time alone - with my child - to process it. So I went out for abit longer than planned for her lunch nap, and decided because I felt so ashamed and embarassed (his family all knew and were talking about it and had even come up to me and said stuff about it) that I wanted to spend the evening alone when I came back. And FYI - I had already requested Xmas eve alone with my child on her first Xmas to continue a tradition of Xmas eve present giving I had with my mum. There were, however, crossed words in earshot from both me and my fiancé. My fiancé had been drinking all day and came to me twice to talk me, and because he is such an awful drunk, I didn’t want to. My fiancé and I did however resolve this on Xmas eve night, and then I wake up the next day all happy and ready for Xmas, to be told we are kicked out.
my child’s grandmother and grandfather kicked her out on Xmas day morning, to get a 4 hour taxi back to our home! Because we ‘had to be at home to resolve our problems’ - which was already resolved!
my fiancés family are fine with him now. But they all blame me and are treating me like I have killed someone. Despite the fact I have apologise and accepted all accountability for something I never did, they refuse to speak to me. They have been very rude to me, ignored me, told me how they’ve had such a bad few days without any consideration of what they caused for me and my daughter and for my partner to end it with me and take my ring off me (now back together, no ring) they disrespected my daughter, and are now acting like I have done the worst crime and am worthy of nothing. For the sake of saving my relationship, I have not told my partner how hurt I am. I am crying secretly on my own. I am barely sleeping and constantly angry and hurt. I do not want his family seeing my child until they start treating me better. Is that unreasonable? I do not feel they have a right to see my child, when they treat her mother so awfully
while I accept I could have been more sociable when I got back from my daughters nap walk, and that I could have been politer when in ear shot, I do not accept full accountability for anything else as that includes my partner too. I’d like to add that all day my partner informed me they understood how I felt, so I went on presuming they understood and it was ok. And spent most of the day pissed and at the pub which made it even more difficult to handle the situation.
May I add that his family caused so many issues when my daughter was born. His sister is incredibly selfish, the day my daughter was born she rang up crying about her own problems - didn’t ask how I was, how my child was, or congratulate me. On her first birthday, she sends me a photo of her child, and does not wish my child happy birthday! She harassed us to see us basically every weekend when she was born - who needs that when they’ve just had a traumatic birth! No one. His mother kept picking up my daughter when she was first born without asking me, and at one point refused to give her back to me. And I have not once said anything to them.
who throws their child and grandchild out on Xmas day for a 4 hour taxi journey because of a domestic they should never have been involved in? I have a new found respect for my own mother, because she would never treat her family so badly! And as a mother myself now, either would I!