Boyfriend bought me sexy underwear

[kellid]

So my boyfriend of 5 years gave me a cheap love honey Lacey body for Christmas and I'm a bit upset. It wasn't the only thing he got me, but my face lit up when he said that he had an extra gift for me, once the kids were upstairs...

I feel cheap and disrespected 😢

AIBU?

Fuck him. Horrible.

YABU… I can’t see how it’s disrespectful

Ugh yeah they do that sometimes. Mine got me size 16 pants in red lace once (I’m size 12, and I do not like red lace).

Boys eh. I wouldn’t get tol worked up anout it. If you don’t wanna wear it, just say that it isn’t your kind of tjing / that the fabric is itchy or whatever.

How is this disrespectful….?

Awww nooo. See I would be chuffed with that in a way but it depends on you and your relationship, I’ve got a mrs Santa outfit but said not today as I’m stuffed 🙈

So it's not to your taste. Not the crime of the century.

Your partner bought you some lingerie and you feel disrespected? Get a grip.

Is there not a compliment in there, that he'd think you'd look attractive and sexy in it?

It shows he still wants to have sex with you and his trying to spice things up. Better than getting up to all sorts behind your back take notice !

He shouldn’t have said it was an Xmas present for you and wrapped it up, it’s more like an Xmas present for him.

Don't see the problem

I wouldn’t be offended.

I get it. My man has always said he’d never buy stuff like that for me as it’s like him saying ‘put on a show for my sexual pleasure’
he’s said if I want it, choose it etc that’s completely fine but he would never put that upon me.
id feel uncomfortable if he did. However, just because he bought it, doesn’t mean you have to wear it.
‘I’d rather not’
’its not my style’
‘it’s not my size’
‘No’
are all acceptable

This is not disrespectful in any way.

FFS what is the ring with buying you underwear? Sexy underwear.
He loves you. He fancies you. He finds you sexy. Would you rather he didn't?
What exactly is disrespectful about this???

This is bloody ridiculous honestly. It would be if he gave it to someone else but he's in a relationship with you. For 5 years! Bloody hell you sound like hard work.

He got you other stuff too you say? So this is something he got you that shows he still finds you sexy. I had the opposite problem a few years into our relationship, my DH kept buying me cosy flannelette granny pjs. I felt so frumpy and unattractive, I felt the pjs reflected what he saw me as.

Don't over think it op.

Don't see the problem

The problem is, as PP said, that the present is actually for him, and it's directing OP to do what he wants and put it on and play a porno role.

It's a gift for him

That's what's disrespectful

My dp buys me oversized pj's and big pants. I'd probably be chuffed with some lace gear!

He's definitely a keeper!

The problem isn’t he brought her underwear it’s that he pretended he’d brought another gift for her when it’s something for him!!!

Are you going to try it on? You might love it! Give it a whirl. If you still hate it or feel objectified or something just kindly tell him it's not your bag and tell him what turns you on instead. It's not a big deal though. My ex got me a swing, 2 vibrators and a massive dildo last year - THAt was a bit much, hence (amongst other things) he's my ex.

It's a gift for him
That's what's disrespectful

It wasn't the only gift she got. A boyfriend once bought me some sexy lingerie (a long time ago). Turned out it was a present to both of us.

Stuff a pillow inside it then leave it on his side of the bed.😂 Draw a face on it if you are feeling creative.

Everybody wants to defend this man but it doesn't work the other way round does it?

How many women buy men something to wear to make them look different for sex?