Dating Thread 237 - Wintertide Warmth Support & Festive Frolics and

[OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss]

Merry Christmas one and all. Thanks for all the support and dating wisdoms...

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Thanks all for the beardy positivity. I'm just going to have to suck it and see (ha, not literally obviously!). I will report back.

Someone on here had a night with a bearded man and it sounded amazing.

Personally I love a beard. My 'look' seems to be very short hair or bald with a beard

@NoDatingForOldMen I really hope you're neither sad or upset 🤗

Out of my interest, what would you class as a serious professional - someone who has a profession for a job, like a plumber or project manager, or someone who needs a professional license, like a vet / Dr / lawyer etc.

Am not a fan of beards...plus I’ve got quite sensitive skin so it would be a no no for me all that scratching nope ! ☺️

If someone is looking for a serious professional I’d think they’d be after someone uni educated and in a profession law, finance etc not sure that would include a plumber @NoDatingForOldMen . Hard to be know exactly what they mean though

I don't know what I'm doing.

I haven't ever considered any possible matches being professional or having their shit together.

All 3 that I've met up with have been at great pains to let me know they weren't home owners and not wealthy during the date.

Thanks, I think that’s really interesting.
im Uni educated and work in IT & call myself an IT Professional (an Oxymoron if ever there was one), but I don’t need my degree to do my job.

I also know an electrician and he has to legally be Part P qualified to sign off electrical work.
I also know a plumber who legally has to have a gas safety certificate to install boilers etc.
Those 2 guys have professions, but are not professionals ( and both are self employed & earn really good money )

Definitelycross

well they were very honest we can give them that !! Not pretending to be rich 🤑

that said as everyone I like tends to be foreign and poorer than me
I give NO advice on this front

NoDatingForOldMen

after 22 tiring (but lucrative ) years in corporate culture ….

give me a plumber any day

Nothing wrong with being a plumber by the way !!

Correct.

Mila14

no plumbers for Mila 😂
its fine , I’ll have them

😂😂😂 all yours!

I mean someone who works, not a dosser, as a humble hardworker is always attractive and matches what I am.Money and wealth are somewhat irrelevant, but generosity and kindness are important. Meaness is such an unattractive quality.

@ChaliceinWonderland has summed it up for me. I don't care what they do as long ad they do work and have funds to be able to do stuff. I don't need anybody else's money but meaness is not attractive.

I never liked that for Mr medics bday I bought him a card, bottle of wine and took him to dinner and for mine he didn't even bother getting me a card, despite meeting him the afternoon before - and on a high street with loads of card shops which meant he wouldn't have had to put himself out to grab one 🤷‍♀️

That was mean of him. I think they don’t have to be rich but a card and a good thought is a lovely thing

I can’t stand meanness…triggering. My ex husband was super mean and he worked in the city and not precisely as a secretary.

Absolutely this.

Absolutely!

my ex was so selfish, such an unattractive quality

Any word from NoShow yet @NoDatingForOldMen I've been mildly fretting for you being upset and sad if she doesn't make contact.

On the professions front I've had fellas who were self made squillionaire builders with extensive property portfolios and an increds work ethic through to civil servants who loathed their monotonous boring jobs but did nothing to change it.

Current iron designs important bits of electric cars but has had globetrotting roles in IT so gives good wise advice on my work situations (helped me see I was in a terrible toxic position so am now leaving to a wayyyy better paid easier role which I wouldn't have by myself). We are matched on salary but also how things work in our big organisations so can understand, empathise and interested in similar things. He has a masters & I am doing one in a closely related field. This works well for me.

My XH was also in IT but self-made and self-employed (too narcissistic and ego too easily bruised by others to work for someone else or with people he couldn't control) so although he 'got' the IT side of my job he was non plused by the huge organisation and politics bit of it (the bit I truly love).

XH was also unpractical or should I say opted out of practicals (although noted through our teens he is now merrily doing up his big old house with his new fiancée 🙄)

Although I've now moved from my own doer upper any iron with practical skills gets me all swoony.
MrCars has them by the bucket load.

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss
we met yesterday and spent most the afternoon in bed, what can I say, I’m too old for afternoon sex sessions, but it didn’t stop me ! ( twice… )

company politics are hard to navigate, I’ve worked for SME’s, small consulting companies and currently work for a global financial company, and it’s the same everywhere, just on a different scale of crappyness. ( the smaller the company the more bitchy people can be )

Ive never really wanted to get in the management side so I’ve stuck to more technical roles which I think has really held back my earnings ( I’m on 60k), I think if a went down a more management role I could probably be on 80 to 100 by now, by having to deal with that kinda stuff is just no me.

had to fix NoShows heating ( just re pressured her boiler and found a leaking rad valve ), so all good 👍🏼

Oh this makes me so happy to hear.

I too was worried about you being sad.

Happy for you Howlongy. She does want you as much as you want her. Fret no more

That's great news @NoDatingForOldMen glad it's all back on.

You sound like a total catch with those swoonsome practical skills