Dating Thread 237 - Wintertide Warmth Support & Festive Frolics and

[OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss]

Merry Christmas one and all. Thanks for all the support and dating wisdoms...

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

I'm one of the shorties bringing the UK average down, can only dream of reaching the heights of 5ft 4!

😂😂😂

For me @NellyTheCake I'd not reply then if they came back with nothing more substantial I'd swiftly unmatch and pop them back in the sea of men from whenst they came.

You only get one chance to make a good impression and those fellas haven't seen you as the prize you are by wooing you with engaging chat. Their loss!

Fwiw I tend to put a bit more in my owning hello text for them to respond to so I'll say something about what I'm up to or looking forward to and ask them if they have interesting plans for the week/weekend. Then if they still only reply with a one liner they are deffo not the sort of person I'm looking for.

I think women who like over 6’ are fine. You can also date women over 5’6”. No problem. You have height preference and so do many of us . Basically we are the same Howlongy

What a fucking despicable STBXH. No other words. her kids had met him while he was married to you… WTF??? I can’t even !!!

Absolutely thrilled for you… bring on date 2… you fancy this guy a lot so this is the best outcome. Breathe and don’t overanalyse ( we tend to do that in this thread… self doubting bitches we are) . Just have fun and keep discovering yummy man

I must admit I like a man to be taller, I've no idea why though, maybe it's a primitive instinct to feel protected 🤷‍♀️

😂😂😂🤡🤡🤡🤡. Deffy… RELAX and enjoy please. He might have felt terrified he fancied you too much or whatever. Please WAIT

100%agree

@Slothmomma ohmygod that is horrendous how old were your kids??

Yes I'm not skinny tall but I'm not huge either but men my height tend to be of a slight build so yes - Hagrid.

@NellyTheCake thank you 🙏 I like my style and I've got no one in my ear criticising it any more.

@teesguy - yes my first ever OLD date talked about himself constantly. Turns out we'd lived in the same city overseas but he just wanted to mansplain it to me like I'd never been let alone lived there.

@Mila14 yes my STBXH was/is a peach. Absolutely no morals at all.

I’m with Oncey in everything …
although I used to set my dating filter to 6’1”. I just don’t like shorter and it’s a waste of time to go for a date with a guy who is short. Also had one boyfriend like that when young and he had napoleon complex. An idiot.

😂😂😂🤡🤡🤡🤡. Deffy… RELAX and enjoy please. He might have felt terrified he fancied you too much or whatever. Please WAIT

@Mila14 I hate to say this but I think you're right. I think he was a bit struck. I sent a pleasant enough reply and he came straight back.

Why does my brain automatically go to - I disgust them. Rather than - they think I'm a bit of alright 😂 to answer the previous questions these are men in their mid to late 50s.

I don't want to sound big headed but with my third OLD guy when I said I'd like to see him again he actually went woo really? It was such a nice reaction.

Why didn’t you start a family?? Would you consider doing it at your age? I always wonder about guys in their 50s with no kids… what happened?

I'm trying not to over analyse 😬 I tend to expect the worst. But he was so obviously into me, I think I have to just believe that and wait until I see him next week. I really want to kiss him again, it was sensational 😍

Sorry that was for @Mila14

Howlongy… you just admitted you would not date a woman under 5’6”!!!

My tall dating girlfriend gets ever so annoyed with me for liking tall men more than short men. She says us shorties should leave the tall fellas for the tall ladies.

Yes & that is my preference, but I don’t think I have met many women taller than me, but I seem to remember you saying you are about 5ft 1 or something and only date men over 6ft ( and seems to be quite a common theme on this forum), so if I was 5ft 6 or even 5ft 7 guy I would certainly add a couple of inches onto my height if I wanted to have any chance of even getting a date

I never felt I was in the right place in my 30’s / 40’s for various reasons & I didn’t really want to either.
I would not consider it at my age,

@Definitelycross my kids were 4 and 6. I found out from an innocent comment from 6 year old after ex left and she emerged about having met her previously 😡

That's brutal. I'm so sorry

I found out afterwards he'd bumped into loads of friends when he was with her. She was explained as a colleague.

These people are disgusting but I think they almost get off on it

Howlongy I’m 5’3” 😂😘😂. My Ex 6’3”. But I love a tall fit man and in my experience they do date tiny women very happily
You have a preference and I have mine

Unbelievable disgusting men. Once you have kids you can’t behave like a FUCKSO!!

I have a date zero tomorrow night - just a drink locally - and have seen the guy now on bumble and his height is listed as 5'8" so shorter than me. It's fine. He knows how tall I am. I had a fab date a few years back with a 5'8" guy which was just so much fun and I wasn't put off at all by his height - the fact he was only after a shaggy (which he didn't get) was his off putting quality 🤦‍♀️😄

I'm 5'10" and absolutely would only date 6' plus. Current iron is 6'4" and gives lovely hugs 😊.
Last two (both abusive) LTRs were shorter than me. No direct correlation obviously but not taking that risk again.

Yeah my ex completely changed virtually over night. Nobody would have predicted he'd do half of the things he did and I still can't correlate his actions with the guy I spent 2 decades with even now some 5+ years post split but that's life. Surprisingly we get along OK which is better for the kids