Dating Thread 237 - Wintertide Warmth Support & Festive Frolics and

[OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss]

Merry Christmas one and all. Thanks for all the support and dating wisdoms...

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Men are weird creatures sometimes, god knows what goes on in their brains.

Bra-loosing - Fanny Gallops, inability to keep one’s knickers in place, walking talking beards, cocklodgers . And you think men are weird, you ladies have your own vocabulary …😂😂

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I never knew what fanny gallops were until I met Mr Serb because he kept waiting so long before we had sex I nearly lost my mind

@NellyTheCake you're very welcome 😃

I've deleted my match profile for now. I just don't feel in the mood. I've joined a new Meetup group that has a few men in it though, so that's progress I suppose ❤️

ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers

HNY ! I hope things stable with mum , health and college for you X

Happy new year to you too
@Thisisworsethananticpated. Things are slowly getting there, I think 👍🏻 hope things are getting better for you too ❤️

ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers

you know now that Xmas is over…. (Yay !)

I’m ok !

I’m better than I was 3 years ago when I’d just become a single mum

so much has changed in 3 years

I hope thia Continues into 2023

@Thisisworsethananticpated 🙂❤️❤️❤️

Meetup groups are really good! No pressure/make friends with shared interests and when you aren’t looking Mr The One will appear…

Excellent!

@JangolinaPitt thank you. I hope so 🤞🏻❤️💋

HNY mila
hope You’ve already fitted in a spin class 😂

I get you. Same timescale here too. It's hard isn't it 🤗

Well, I have a new iron MrJ - seems very nice, chatty. Hopefully meeting up next weekend.

I went for a new year dip this morning and there was a lovely (bearded) guy there. Don't know who he belonged to but he was so nice, so chances are yes he was there with someone.

But 2023 I'm coming for you

Sooo…. Mr J? Tell us a bit…

@Mila14

MrJ well he lives in a city about 60 miles away but he said - I'm busy till 5 but do you want to do something after that?

A proper grown up that isn't phased about driving over to see me. Says it's only about an hour.

He's chatty, smiley, has good relationships with his kids - one of my non negotiable points.

Only down point is he's the same height as me but all the non game playing is making up for that 👍

Happy 2023 to all the OLD posters and lurkers here. What a wonderful community of support we have here.

Definitelycross

aw that’s a nice start to 2023
a real life one and a nice one online 😊

there’s something about the 3 year mark that feels significant and I don’t know why

maybe healing ?

Happy New Year dating lovelies, lets all raise our cups/ glasses/ whatevers to a better and bokingly good 2023!
Oh @JangolinaPitt I have one of thise reluctants too, a guy I am seeing but he so shady horsey like, I just want to gallop my fanny all over him!! Argh ...

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Happy New Year to all. After iron saying to leave it a few days before Christmas he messaged again wishing me a happy xmas and that we had invested too much to give up on what we have. I got sick xmas eve and have been since so we havent seen each other in 3 weeks. He messaged last night to say he wants to make this my best year yet but I'm feeling the distance. How do we get back on track? I'm back to work Tuesday and feeling very sorry for myself if I'm honest.

I have a first date with MrJ - he's driving to see me on Wednesday

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Happy New Year @LuckyLinda3 - this sounds like it's been a difficult Christmas for you, so much illness around.

I know this isn't the first time you've had difficulties - did things change after the last time, as I recall he promised to make more of an effort? I think a lot depends on that, are you going round in the same circles or do you think things can improve? If you are honest with yourself can/does this relationship give you what you need?

Sending support, it's so easy to forget the very painful part of this dating merry-go-round which centres on how, when and if to let go of something that might be partially good, but not good enough. 6 months into my own relationship, I am not sure either.

Dear mothership any clues on how best to end things with an it with an iron of two months.

No emergency but MrCars has done too many little annoying things for me to want to be with him long term.

It's going to be horrendous and heartbreaky as he's very much into me.

As 'luck' would have it the situation with my mum has reached crisis point so I'll need to dedicate more time to her and can't accommodate far flung overnighters right now until we work out what kind of care and support she has beyond me.

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss I wouldn’t stress yourself as 2 months is a very short time. Just be honest and say it’s not for you...best to follow your gut instinct if he’s annoying you this early when you should be seeing the best of him! Is he the guy who was driving too fast?

Oh @LuckyLinda3 you sound so low.

If it were me I'd meet him face to face see if there's anything there at all. I'm sorry though. It makes you feel like you're back in school.