He doesn't know what he wants

[Jdhsushxv]

Been dating a guy for a few months, things I thought were going really well.
We laugh all the time, have a great time when we're together, have great sex. Honestly seemed perfect.

we hadn't had the what are we talk yet but I felt it was coming.

we met up yesterday, and we both had a few drinks and ended up having the conversation. Turns out he's still dating around, he doesn't know what he wants, has commitment issues and doesn't want anything serious / long term rn.

I'm sad and feel stupid like I made us into more than what we were in my head. He says he's happy to keep doing what we're doing but I feel like after a few months he should know if he wants me or not

I feel like after a few months he should know if he wants me or not
i agree with pp. he does know what he wants. Casual relationships. You made yourself clear.

id send a version of the text from a pp. something like, As we want different things, this can go no further.’

he lied. Even if he decided tomorrow you were the only one for him, why would you want him after this anyway? Do not waste your time sleeping with him until someone else comes along, as that will stop you looking.

Any updates @Jdhsushxv?

@Spoonfulofchamps so nothing super exciting, I saw him again as we had bought tickets to an event and it was nice. I kind of just shut out anything sexual / romantic and just had a nice time as friends. I think everyone here gave me the kick up the butt I needed and I'll be leaving him in 2022 and focus on finding someone who wants me