To break up with someone over lip filler?

[Loulou89x]

I know this sounds a bit mad but my brother has been in a what I thought a pretty good relationship with a lovely girl for nearly 2.5 years now. She's recently lost quite a chunk of weight, and with this has started to pay more attention if you like to other areas and has had a boob job in the summer, and more recently has had lip filler, chin filler, botox etc.
My brother the other day told me he wants to end things as he isn't attracted to her anymore and think she's got lost in it all and only wants to spend money on her appearance. I'm quite taken aback as we all thought this would be the girl he would marry. I personally haven't noticed a huge change in her, at least personality wise so quite surprised that he would throw away a relationship over this.
Has anyone else had something similar happen? What are people's on thoughts on this?

If he wants to break up with her for any reason, he should. It's really none of your business and the reason is irrelevant.

Any one who no longer wants to be in a relationship, is a valid reason to end the relationship.

To be honest if he wants to break up with her for whatever reason, he’s entitled to.
Not sure I’d find dh as attractive if he decided to start tinkering with his face really. And a part of my love for him is based on fancying him and finding him physically attractive. His naturalness.
Not everyone cares much about that sort of stuff but I do.

I wouldn’t date anyone who had Botox, lip filler etc either - or someone that wore fake lashes and nails, just not my thing.

im sure lots of people wouldn’t want to date me either!

we’re all allowed to decide what we do and don’t want

I'm with your brother. I would have no interest in the personality of someone who did those kind of treatments.

I think he can end the relationship for any reason really. I don't find faces with fillers and botox very attractive so can see where he's coming from, and as he's known her for a while he'll know what her natural face that he was attracted to in the first place looks like.

Just because you haven’t seen personality changes doesn’t mean they haven’t happened. Botox/filler are not a dealbreaker for me at all but someone suddenly getting lost in something they previously didn’t care about… well that is a change, isn’t it? So maybe there are other things you haven’t been privy to that this is symptomatic of.

She’s now more self centered and the relationship has changed. Her interests are different than his.

This ^

Anyone wanting to do those things to themselves is not my type. It smacks of insecurity and/or vanity which is bound to come out in other ways too in their behaviour.

I guess it doesn’t matter why he wants to break up with her - he wants to break up with her.

I can't blame him. I think most women who have had work done on perfectly healthy and fine bodies not only look weird, they come across as desperate and shallow.

It’s up to him. I wouldn’t want to go out with someone who did this either.

I’d be uncomfortable if he was breaking up with her because she gained weight, or because she wouldn’t get a breast enhancement or fillers. So I’m not sure why it doesn’t bother me in the same way that a man would break up with a woman who was taking control over her body, as is her right.

Taking control over her body by adjusting it to conform to a look mandated by society? I don't see it, myself.

What does it have to do with you?

You can split up with someone for whatever reason you like. If you're not feeling it anymore, you're not feeling it. Tbh, as she's going through a period of change herself she may not even be upset. He might have been the next thing on her list to swap out.

It's not just lip filler though is it. Lip filler alone , in tiny amounts, isn't always even detectable.
It's part of a bigger picture of similar treatments and a change in her where he feels they're no longer compatible.

I see anything wrong with a bit in moderation but it's sounds like she's probably changed quite a bit in appearance to have all that work done, she's not the same girl he first met, physical change had also reflect emotional, so maybe that's also having an impact. I can understand why. You could stay friends if you like her?

Maybe she is getting more male attention with her weight loss, boob job and fillers and he doesn't like it.

None of your business. But I can understand his point of view, and anyway he can end the relationship for whatever reason he likes. It doesn't remotely matter whether you thought he'd be with her forever!

If I was a bloke, I wouldn't want my GF/DP/DW to be dabbling in lip filler or botox or whatever. From what I've seen it doesn't seem to make people look better and it seems very instagram lifestyle type of thing, plus in terms of prioritising income not a great thing to be spending loads on.

Maybe she is getting more male attention with her weight loss, boob job and fillers and he doesn't like it.

Or maybe he'd rather leave her to the attention of the men who prefer the plasticky look.

Those sort of "improvements" always look awful so I wouldn't waste my time on anyone who ruined their looks and wasted their money. I would think they were a bit thick.

I would make up a reason for splitting with them though.

Yep totally with your brother on this

Completely up to your brother, however i can see where hes coming from..
My brother is in a relationship with a women who's also had botox, lip filler etc, and i just cant relate to her, her face doesnt move and with no facial expression to read, i find it really difficult communicating.. i'd rather avoid her!