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Confused with Tinder?

62 replies

Sandra1984 · 10/12/2022 17:48

hello, I started using the app, I haven't paid anything but not getting any matches, to those Tinder savvy people: do I need to pay? Which option is the cheapest in order to see matches etc...

Thanks and wish me good luck! :-)

OP posts:
CoconutQueen · 10/12/2022 17:49

No, you don't need to pay, most definitely not!! Are you sure your profile is not hidden?

QueenBeex · 10/12/2022 17:50

Definitely DON'T pay.
You can match / msg without this option.

CoconutQueen · 10/12/2022 17:50

Are you swiping right on some men? You will only get "matches" if you both swipe right on each other. Good luck!

Oopsiedaisyy · 10/12/2022 18:15

Go off and swipe on some men, hopefully they will swipe on you too, i quite liked it, was like a game when you got a match lol

Sandra1984 · 10/12/2022 19:45

I’m in my mid 40’s looking for 20’s something guys, I feel a bit like a predator 🤣😂🤣

OP posts:
Beyondshit · 10/12/2022 19:46

Sandra1984 · 10/12/2022 19:45

I’m in my mid 40’s looking for 20’s something guys, I feel a bit like a predator 🤣😂🤣

Well, maybe try swiping on men your own age? If you were a man you'd be called a creep

Falalalalaaah · 10/12/2022 19:51

It may be the age of partner you're looking for. Have you got it set up to only match with men under 30? That will naturally mean you get fewer swipes as you are limiting your options.

Also agree that a man in his mid-forties specifically looking for women under 30 only would be called creepy. It is a bit creepy to me (sorry).

I do think there are some younger guys who prefer older women though, so you might luck out. I know a guy who only dates older women as he believes they won't pressure him to settle down and have babies.

LaLuz7 · 10/12/2022 19:51

How many men have you swiped right on?

It's highly highly unusual for a woman to get zero matches

Oopsiedaisyy · 10/12/2022 20:09

Embrace your cougar, i got lots of 20 something men swipe on me and I'm in my 40s too. Perhaps try Facebook dating too, seems to be lots on there.

Sandra1984 · 10/12/2022 20:15

Beyondshit · 10/12/2022 19:46

Well, maybe try swiping on men your own age? If you were a man you'd be called a creep

I know, I can’t care less to be honest. I’m just looking for sex with younger men. If that makes me a creep I’ll have to embrace it 🤣

OP posts:
Puzzledstill · 10/12/2022 20:17

Sandra1984 · 10/12/2022 20:15

I know, I can’t care less to be honest. I’m just looking for sex with younger men. If that makes me a creep I’ll have to embrace it 🤣

You go glen coco 😂

Oopsiedaisyy · 10/12/2022 20:19

Go for it, life is too short not to have fun

Beyondshit · 10/12/2022 21:03

Sandra1984 · 10/12/2022 20:15

I know, I can’t care less to be honest. I’m just looking for sex with younger men. If that makes me a creep I’ll have to embrace it 🤣

Can't embrace it if you're not getting any matches can you. Good luck though!

XmasElf10 · 10/12/2022 21:06

Try Fabswingers instead if you just want sex. You will get plenty of offers, just make it clear you want younger guys - lots of them will want you.

Opentooffers · 10/12/2022 21:09

Er, yea, that's a tad grim, explains why there's no takers, your too optomistic😂

XVII · 10/12/2022 21:20

Simply really
You want sex with younger men but it seems younger men dont want sex with you.

As the great man himself once mused
’the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results’

Oopsiedaisyy · 10/12/2022 21:25

Wow, everyone has their judgy pants on 🙄

Ostryga · 10/12/2022 21:26

Oopsiedaisyy · 10/12/2022 21:25

Wow, everyone has their judgy pants on 🙄

If a man came on here to say this he’d be ripped to shreds.

As he should be because it is vile.

LaLuz7 · 10/12/2022 21:28

Ostryga · 10/12/2022 21:26

If a man came on here to say this he’d be ripped to shreds.

As he should be because it is vile.

Early 20s... icky, yes

Late 20s... fair game. They're adults.

Oopsiedaisyy · 10/12/2022 21:30

It's not vile! It's consenting adults enjoying sex for the pure physical fun of it.

girlmom21 · 10/12/2022 21:36

Oopsiedaisyy · 10/12/2022 21:30

It's not vile! It's consenting adults enjoying sex for the pure physical fun of it.

Well it's just one consenting adult at this point and she's not having much fun

Twiglets1 · 10/12/2022 21:38

Oopsiedaisyy · 10/12/2022 21:30

It's not vile! It's consenting adults enjoying sex for the pure physical fun of it.

OP dreams of finding a consenting adult but no luck so far 🙁

Puzzledstill · 10/12/2022 21:48

In my dreams 😂

Sandra1984 · 10/12/2022 22:30

Twiglets1 · 10/12/2022 21:38

OP dreams of finding a consenting adult but no luck so far 🙁

Give me a break, I've only been on Tinder 24hrs! 😀

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Twiglets1 · 11/12/2022 05:04

Sandra1984 · 10/12/2022 22:30

Give me a break, I've only been on Tinder 24hrs! 😀

Good point & Good Luck.