DH farting problem ruining relationship

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So basically what it says on the tin. Married 4 years, everythings fine, really cant conplain at all except for the farting issue. And yes he's had all sorts of tests, diet changes, nothing helps 😣 he's massively self conscious of it, smell is putrid to the point of making me feel sick, and so embarrassing when visiting parents or with friends, I cant seem to get the stench out of the house.
Just to be clear he doesnt eat junk food as im not a fan, we eat healthy, weirdly it seems the more nervous he gets about his flatulence the worse it gets. The weekend was the last straw, I had to sleep downstairs as the smell in our room was disgusting.
He's had a colonoscopy, showed nothing, stool samples etc, theyre saying ibs as he's other wise healthy apart from the putrid farting which is ruining everything.

You look through the bloody bin as evidence of him eating things you don’t agree with? That is controlling, you don’t like it but it’s the truth.

UC sufferer here. Poor thing, sounds tough for him.

Some people really struggle to digest raw fibre so your vegan diet could be making things worst unintentionally. Maybe try well cooked veg only and get him to try a low residue diet (Google it). Quite bland and probably not ideal long term but you could give it a go.

Finally, a high strength probiotic and chlorophyll tablets daily. These should lessen the stench. Others have mentioned charcoal but they can cause constipation and other issues long term, so use with caution and certainly do not use it he is on any medication, they lessen absorption of drugs.

Poor bloke, forced to go vegan, publicly humiliated as his body doesn’t react well and now he’ll lose the person who he made the change for in the first place.

i can tell when we have eaten a meal with chickpeas or lentils as my partners trumps smell horrendous. It might be a certain food type that just doesn’t agree with his stomach

Whilst being vegan is a noble endeavour, it’s clearly causing your husband a lot of poor health.

Personally, caring for my DH’s health would trump being vegan. His life is worth more to me than animals, bottom line. Not expecting you to agree with that, but you are being controlling nonetheless.

My SiL has done exactly the same to my brother, he’s now vegan 95% of the time and has to ‘sneak’ meat when he is away from her.

if you’ve got IBS or many other gut related issues, then eating a hugely fibre rich diet is counterproductive. I know this as I’ve had bouts of IBS and Divertivulitis - the first thing the hospital do is put you on a low/ zero fibre diet so your gut can heal.

If he wouldn’t be vegan otherwise, then you are forcing your beliefs into him, even if he believes that vegan ethics are fair.

If you’re here for advice - listen to what people are telling you. They aren’t vegan haters, just trying to be practical and share experiences.

I stopped farting when I stopped eating gluten….I used to be terrible😳

Hi OP.

Please encourage him to be tested for coeliacs disease. My mum was exactly the same (bad darts and explosive poos), misdiagnosed for years as ibs or diary intolerance. She recently asked to be tested for coaliacs disease and following a blood test and biopsy was diagnosed.

She has been eating a coeliac diet for about 5 weeks now and is now noticing a difference and feeling much better. It has taken a few weeks to make a difference as I think it takes a while to get out of the system

That should have said bad farts, although she is also very bad at darts.

For at home you could try an air purifier for his office and the bedroom, keep it on low all night (very low electricity use).

Also, could he just eat like an unhealthy vegan rather than a healthy one, for a bit, with a plainer and simpler diet with fewer beans and veg? He doesn't have to add in lots of sugar or saturated fat. He must be desperate.

I don't quite see why you're checking the bins, if you're so certain he's completely on the same page as you about animal products.

Light a match and blow it out, helps the smell. That’s what the colostomy nurse told my mum to help with the stench from changing her bag. Hope you can get it sorted, it does sound awful for both of you

A friend has the same issue and her partner started taking a probiotic called Lactobacillus gasseri , she said it improved so much she now is forever talking about it . I remembered her as soon as I saw your post and txt her to get the name

Couldn’t agree more. You are one horrible woman and I hope the poor man leaves you.

So which is true?

You've defended him that his fart was uncontrollable but that he still needs to apologise for ruining it?

Although I know that neither of it is true as this thread is a wind/wind up.

So he was only borderline fat but still lots healthier? OK.

My ex went on holiday with a friend once and he had to apologise in advance for his farts and toilet smell as he is a vegetarian. So I think that’s most likely the reason, his diet. If he doesn’t have a choice in the diet he consumes (which I find odd and yes most of will think it controlling to not allow your partner to eat whatever food he chooses and then to go through the bin to check he’s keeping to that) then I guess you have to put up with the smell, and maybe stop mentioning it so much given it’s likely down to his diet which appears to not be his choice

I tried a vegan diet and within a few weeks had terrible stomach pain and wind. I feel fine now that I've given it up. I realise that my triggers are onions and garlic, I can tolerate a little but not raw or too much. I love garlic bread but have agonising stomach cramps and wind after eating it. Fruit and too many pulses are also a problem. I'm fine with an omnivore diet.

Honestly OP I understand your motivation, I really do, but your diet could be making your husband ill.

It'll be the vegan diet. Vegetables and legumes can create a lot of gas unfortunately.

I had this. I was gluten intolerant. 3 days off gluten and all gone.

I swear OP that it isn't prejudice against vegans that made me post and explain how a vegan diet basically broke my digestive system. I am friends with a lot of vegans and often cook or bake for them. It is, unfortunately, not a diet option for some people, ie me.

Come on. That's just silly. He could and should have excused himself from the dinner table!

If not every time then certainly every time you are at someone else's home or you have guests in your home.

Farting freely is for when you are alone.

When he goes to someone's house, he carries a box of matches and when he needs to fart he excuses himself to the loo, lets rip, strikes a few matches and comes out.
It's not hard.

Im worried he's secretly eating meat somehow but cant find any evidence of covert meat eating so no idea if this is causing it.

Agree with all the PP, that is controlling. You also admitted his problem wasn't as bad prior to becoming vegan so don't know why you think meat could be the potential cause. I really think you both need to look at changing his vegan diet. As someone said, it might align with your morals, but it could be causing your DH health problems. You said he tried diet change, what exactly did he do as if he's vegan there's not much to change?

vegnews.com/vegan-health-wellness/ease-bloating-vegan-diet

Why does eating vegan cause bloating?
Between 10- and 25-percent of healthy people experience the occasional stomach bloating. But, bloating, gas, and stomach cramps seem to be especially big problems with new vegans, vegetarians, and flexitarians.

The culprit is usually dietary fiber—the indigestible plant fibers that, unlike protein or carbohydrates, pass through your digestive system intact.

In that situation, if I thought an apology to my sister was needed, I would just explain privately to her, rather than force my dh to go through the embarrassment of discussing his personal medical issues with her.

It absolutely broke my bowels. Farting, shitting, cramping. Sharting. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm crying

Ask him to get tested properly for coeliac disease, the blood test is unreliable but a colonoscopy will be accurate