DH farting problem ruining relationship

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So basically what it says on the tin. Married 4 years, everythings fine, really cant conplain at all except for the farting issue. And yes he's had all sorts of tests, diet changes, nothing helps 😣 he's massively self conscious of it, smell is putrid to the point of making me feel sick, and so embarrassing when visiting parents or with friends, I cant seem to get the stench out of the house.
Just to be clear he doesnt eat junk food as im not a fan, we eat healthy, weirdly it seems the more nervous he gets about his flatulence the worse it gets. The weekend was the last straw, I had to sleep downstairs as the smell in our room was disgusting.
He's had a colonoscopy, showed nothing, stool samples etc, theyre saying ibs as he's other wise healthy apart from the putrid farting which is ruining everything.

I say this as someone who still eats the occasional animal product but - OF COURSE being someone who doesn't want to contribute to animal abuses and slaughter makes you superior. I mean, duh. We might not like to hear it but it's facts xD

But I'm assuming that op actually means that his health improved, hence the change for the better.

diet wise we're vegan (my choice admittedly) so he doesn't eat meat, dairy at all. Like i say we have a really healthy diet

Vegan does not = healthy.
Perhaps if he ate a balanced diet he might be better off.

Very low carb, keto. Really makes a massive difference.

It's FOODMAP not FODMAP fyi

Do you mean this FODMAP
FODMAP stands for fermentable oligo-, di-, mono-saccharides and polyols. These are small carbs that many people cannot digest — particularly those with IBS.

No its FODMAP fyi

I'm vegan too. A huge part of our diet is the very food notorious for causing wind, especially if you veer towards whole foods. Given the calorie requirement of a man, well that's a LOT of plants creating a LOT of gas.
Particular culprits I find are onions, cauli, brocoli and nuts. Oh and the beans...! But they're all necessary for our diet so hard to eliminate.
If it hasn't already been mentioned, I'd suggest eating very slowly, small frequent meals, lots of water, and perhaps trying to have an additional bowel movement each day to keep the fibre moving through.

In terms of his diet pre vegan i just meant he ate a lot of fast food crap, McDonalds, kebabs, takeaway, so very unhealthy basically. He couldn't cook basically anything from scratch, now he helps prepare meals etc. A lot slimmer, has a lot more energy.

Typical day (as someone asked) would be almond butter on toast, hemp seeds, lunch would be hummus, pita with either tomatoes or lettuce, we have snacks too and try to change it up so it doesnt get boring but we can eat dark chocolate, crackers, plenty of nuts, soup, fruit, dinner can be noodles, steamed broccoli with vegan cheese, sweet potatoes, tofu.. so we do get plenty of calories and protein etc .. not an exhaustive list, and we both enjoy rice which is quite filling.

The farting seems to be worse at night, and in the morning the noisy bowel movements are more noisy 😣 he has a lot of built up gas but after bowel movement he feels better. Also after farting it seems to make him feel better, and they're long farts not short bursts if that makes sense?

OP, your list of what he eats most days would cause anyone with IBS to be in agony.

Why aren’t you listening to feedback?

Why are you suggesting a diet of toast and nuts?!

Nuts, hemp seeds, tomatoes, broccoli, sweet potatoes - all really hard for people with IBS to digest.

OP ignore the nasty replies - his diet of junk food and takeaways, add to that his guzzling energy drinks every day, would be FAR WORSE than the vegan diet that you both have - I can guarantee he's 100 per cent healthier eating what you've shared with us, it's not even a debate.
Sadly too many people dont care what they're eating or where it comes from, and dont want to know either when you try and educate them, they'd rather stick their head in the sand and have all sorts of health concerns when they're older, obesity for one! It's like talking to a wall talking to these people.

I have IBD and have some of the same symptoms. The only way I stay well is to eat what a lot of people would consider crap food. I can not eat a vegan diet I have tried and it landed me in hospital. Carrying on with this vegan diet in the long run could make him very very sick. It's not just about weight. Admittedly tons of McDonald's etc is not ideal. If I stick to white breads, rice,pasta,fish,chicken,eggs,cheese,milk and potatoes I am generally well. I do also take multi vitamins and probiotics.

My brother in law was like this until he gave up gluten and it made such a difference

I know it’s hard to be gluten free and vegan (I’m also vegan as is my husband and neither of us have the stinky problem) but might be worth a go?

I haven't read all the other posts here, so this may have been covered already.
While you think he's eating healthy stuff, that doesn't mean some of it might not agree with him.
Try a fortnight on high carbs/no fat.
Then a fortnight on high fat/no carbs (or hardly any).
That might give you a clue.
As a recent example, I have an elderly uncle who smelled foul if he ate dry roasted peanuts (his favourite snack).
Earlier this year, he went from a high-carb diet to a high-fat one (pretty much keto) in the hope of losing some weight. He was so pleased with the resulting shrunken waistline that he even celebrated with a helping of DR peanuts and - guess what? No pong problem. To say he's delighted would be an understatement, but the downside is that his food is costing a bit more. My aunt doesn't seem to mind, since he looks a darn sight more presentable than he used to, and she can now place him near a neighbour or friend without fear of embarrassment. Two happy campers for the price of one.

It's rather ignorant to assume that everyone agrees on this ethical issue and most people are just unwilling to do anything about it.

20+ years under gastroenterology and dietician for IBS and IBD.

I know a bit.

We can't all eat that diet. It's just a fact.

IBDer too and also on #crapfood diet. High fives! It's how I stay well!

If that is his diet and you have seen doctors and had all these tests, then you are either being willfully obstinate or you are just trying to rile us up at this point. That list of food is an IBS disaster. He must be absolutely miserable. I just can’t believe that his doctor would have had nothing to say about that mix of food.

The Association of UK Dieticians has some good info about vegan diet and IBS on their website.

Suggest you show it to DH.

www.bda.uk.com/resource/following-a-plant-based-diet-whilst-having-ibs.html

Also an interesting read: betterbellytherapies.com/115-4-reasons-vegan-and-vegetarian-diet-ibs-worse/

Again, nobody here is ragging on vegans. If it works for you, go for it! It just ain't working for your DH.

@jamoncrumpets unfortunately it's the only way to do it ! I would eat this diet happily forever not to go through the surgery and having a stoma bag again. Really hope this guy doesn't have ibd or ibs because the list of foods he is eating just causes me pain looking at it 🙈. I had a particularly bad experience with vegan cheese 🙈 I don't know what's in it but it didn't like me.
I would like to be vegan but it just makes me so sick ☹️☹️☹️

Well most people would agree that animal suffering in general is wrong (unless they're sociopaths).

But we've been conditioned not look at what goes on in these places. And our whole lives we've been told dogs are pets and pigs are dinner. It doesn't mean we are bad people. But its a sort of conditioned ignorance. We don't look and when we do, we say 'don't show me that, I don't want to know, it'll put me off my lunch'. Because we feel it. Because we know its wrong.

There Is no 'ethical' debate for eating them. Not in modern developed countries with countless alternatives.

Most people just do it for taste, convenience and because, they always have. It's not exactly unwillingness to do anything about it...it's that we've been conditioned not to. We've not lost our compassion, but we've somehow been separated from it when it comes to these industries.

I don't think it's ignorant to assume that most people have compassion and - recognise that it's wrong. But I think social conditioning stops many of us from exploring this further.

I'm in agony thinking about tomatoes and tempeh blasting through his colon 😫

Seeing a dietitian for irritable bowel syndrome (IBS)
A GP may refer you to an NHS dietitian if general diet tips for IBS, such as avoiding foods that trigger your symptoms, are not helping.

They can suggest other changes you can make to your diet to ease your symptoms.

Low FODMAP diet
A dietitian may recommend a diet called a low FODMAP diet.

This involves avoiding foods that are not easily broken down by the gut, such as some types of:

fruit and vegetables
milk
wheat products
Information:
Watch a video guide from NHS dietitians
Our 35-minute video guide can help you learn more about managing your symptoms.

It's similar to the advice you'd get if you saw a dietitian.

The guide covers things like:

general diet tips for IBS
advice on certain types of food, like dairy and gluten
basics of the low FODMAP diet
allergy testing
NHS ibs diet guide

@katis @jamoncrumpets Yep I know someone with IBS and all he can eat is bland carbs.

A GP may refer you to an NHS dietitian if general diet tips for IBS, such as avoiding foods that trigger your symptoms, are not helping.

@wineNcheeseifYplease Yep so if he hasn't tried much, he shouldn't even be referred really.