Page 20 | Dating Thread 236 - Swiping, Blocking and Video Calls

Definitelycross · 10/12/2022 12:08

I am so proud of you all by the way.

And yes, god I need proper real life, good sex. Last I had was with someone so inhibited and selfish.

5thWisdom · 10/12/2022 12:30

Definitelycross · 10/12/2022 12:05

Well I've missed loads.

With regards to the the 'being an option' there's a guy I matched with ages ago. Great sexting. Want to meet. But he lives about four hours away.

So yesterday I said was there no one near him and he said - not yet. Then when I asked him how he'd feel if I said I'd met someone and he said he'd be happy.

Then, and this really stung, I mean we've had some very steamy sexting sessions - he said - after all why would it bother me we haven't even met 🤷‍♀️

I lost my rag. And pointed him towards sex lines where he could get what he wanted from me until his nearby person showed up. I said I wasn't going to be his wank bank.

His reply? Two laughing emojis. Like fuck off.

Now the reason I'm asking this is I had a date with MrG and it was lovely and we've messaged all the time. We've had a bit of a tough time, me and my son (bless him) this week so I had to cancel another date. But suddenly, out of nowhere, came (literally) the best phone sex ever.

So. MrG lives near me. Is a nice person. Makes me happy and secure. But I have only met him in real life once. Do I come off the apps?

Interesting about Bumble. I hate it with a passion. My latest match was an American in the country for business wanting to spank me. I had a free months worth of premium. The others I've chatted to on there are so flat and there's absolutely no chemistry.

I'm thinking I'll come off it till New Year, stick with MrG and have a good Christmas.

Do you and Mr G have firm plans to meet for a second time?

There are so many randy time wasters. Matched on Bumble with a bloke who was insisted I needed to download Snapchat. Unmatched.

I'm sorry to hear about your son. I hope all ok now.

How did Mr G react to postponed plans? A good test to a man's character I think.

5thWisdom · 10/12/2022 12:34

Also I know we didn't engage in steamy sexting sessions but Mr Boxer's complete disengagement and ghosting is so annoying simply because of the complete waste of my time and energy!! I'm busy and don't have time to be messed around by bored men. Aaaarggghhhh.

Definitelycross · 10/12/2022 12:54

@5thWisdom he understands totally and was lovely about it.

Next week we are hoping but he works shifts and I've got my kids coming home for Christmas.

But it will happen. I think I've answered my own question I'm coming off both apps. I'm not going to ask him to though. But I don't like the stress. Well not just now anyway. This time of year is too busy.

Definitelycross · 10/12/2022 12:55

5thWisdom · 10/12/2022 12:34

Also I know we didn't engage in steamy sexting sessions but Mr Boxer's complete disengagement and ghosting is so annoying simply because of the complete waste of my time and energy!! I'm busy and don't have time to be messed around by bored men. Aaaarggghhhh.

I totally agree.

It's rude and a total waste of your time.

5thWisdom · 10/12/2022 12:58

Definitelycross · 10/12/2022 12:54

@5thWisdom he understands totally and was lovely about it.

Next week we are hoping but he works shifts and I've got my kids coming home for Christmas.

But it will happen. I think I've answered my own question I'm coming off both apps. I'm not going to ask him to though. But I don't like the stress. Well not just now anyway. This time of year is too busy.

Lovely, sounds like a plan.

I also struggle to focus on more than one at a time. I don't have the time or head space.

Zanatdy · 10/12/2022 13:07

ownedbygreyhounds · 09/12/2022 20:59

Bloody good work all round.
I need some of this in my life!!

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I need some of this in my life too! Hoping I’ll be getting it this week too. Been on 2 dates now with ex colleague. Totally smitten, he says he is too, who knows hey? But he’s inviting me over this week and I know we will have sex, and I cannot wait! Driving myself mad thinking about it, messages from him is not helping the situation!

Definitelycross · 10/12/2022 13:21

@Zanatdy I want one more in person date then DTD.

He's 10 years younger than me 😳 but he fancies the pants off me - go figure 🤷‍♀️

Thisisworsethananticpated · 10/12/2022 13:29

5thWisdom

It’s all the more irritating that you feel for
him (boxer )
which is totally human
remembering what you said about him

reckon he had a few others on the go
and he will pop up again , mark ma words

5thWisdom · 10/12/2022 13:35

Thisisworsethananticpated · 10/12/2022 13:29

5thWisdom

It’s all the more irritating that you feel for
him (boxer )
which is totally human
remembering what you said about him

reckon he had a few others on the go
and he will pop up again , mark ma words

Yes, indeed.

I wonder if he will indeed try it on when he's local again. I also wonder how I'd feel if he did. It doesn't matter.

It just goes to show it's all talk, until it actually happens. It's hard not to be cynical and hard nosed about it. I've been told that I come across cold but it's really hard to stay soft when you're just messed around constantly!

Zanatdy · 10/12/2022 14:59

Definitelycross · 10/12/2022 13:21

@Zanatdy I want one more in person date then DTD.

He's 10 years younger than me 😳 but he fancies the pants off me - go figure 🤷‍♀️

So exiting! Have fun! I don’t think I can stand another pub drink where we have to behave! Haha. Or even worse I see him in the office and have to more than behave. Thankfully he only rarely comes to my office now

Mila14 · 10/12/2022 15:46

Deffy… so good about MrG… tell us a bit about him. Coming out of apps is SO LIBERATING. I think if he’s really ticking all your boxes, concentrate on him

Fifthie hopefully your next date with Mr? goes well. You deserve a bit of fun and TLC too

Oncey … keeping all crossed 🤞 for you lovely. But it does seem you are very at ease and completely comfortable with Mr Cars. Enjoy your boutique hotel romantic time

At the moment I am very happy ( and having lots of sex) with Mr Ex. I think things are a lot easier and I think I understand more his current pressures but also I think there are other layers of connection. He wants to see my kids again etc. My kids absolutely adore him but I need to be careful. They have never met anyone but him and my ex husband in terms of my personal life. I will take my time. He’s quite fit but I would still like him to drink less alcohol as you know

You realise how easy it is to feel comfortable with someone you’ve fancied the pants off for 7 years and have a shared history with. It surprises me I like him so much as a person too

I am totally in love but I will go slow and at my pace. .

Definitelycross · 10/12/2022 15:50

@Mila14 you sound so happy 🥰

Yes I feel totally liberated. Much happier.
MrG is lovely, chatty, opinionated but in a listening too way, kind. Just warm do you know what I mean.
He's not as tall as I'd like but hey I'm not the whole package either but he's very keen.

I like seeing his name come up on my messages.

Mila14 · 10/12/2022 16:03

Definitelycross · 10/12/2022 15:50

@Mila14 you sound so happy 🥰

Yes I feel totally liberated. Much happier.
MrG is lovely, chatty, opinionated but in a listening too way, kind. Just warm do you know what I mean.
He's not as tall as I'd like but hey I'm not the whole package either but he's very keen.

I like seeing his name come up on my messages.

If you like seeing his name you are smitten really. He must have a lot of other things that work for you just fine. Have you DTD?

iceberrywhite · 10/12/2022 16:08

Please can I join? I got out of a relationship around March 21, my abusive ex entered a new relationship immediately. I really felt quite broken by it all and my self esteem suffered. I'm pleased to say I'm out of the other side. I messaged someone from OLD however I wasn't ready. Fast forward, new job, lots of home improvements and working on myself. I've been single since the ex. The guy who messaged got back in touch. Last night we had a phonecall which lasted around 2.5 hours, a good sign. I also felt attracted to him. The issue is, he lives 2.5 hours away from me. I'm not sure if it's going to be doable. I'm very independent and have been single 12 years other than few short term 1 year relationships. Before these I was married 15 years. I'm also going through the menopause now. Do I just go with it?! he has suggested meeting

Definitelycross · 10/12/2022 16:44

iceberrywhite · 10/12/2022 16:08

Please can I join? I got out of a relationship around March 21, my abusive ex entered a new relationship immediately. I really felt quite broken by it all and my self esteem suffered. I'm pleased to say I'm out of the other side. I messaged someone from OLD however I wasn't ready. Fast forward, new job, lots of home improvements and working on myself. I've been single since the ex. The guy who messaged got back in touch. Last night we had a phonecall which lasted around 2.5 hours, a good sign. I also felt attracted to him. The issue is, he lives 2.5 hours away from me. I'm not sure if it's going to be doable. I'm very independent and have been single 12 years other than few short term 1 year relationships. Before these I was married 15 years. I'm also going through the menopause now. Do I just go with it?! he has suggested meeting

Welcome aboard.
I left an an abusive relationship 3 years ago and I'm 55!!! Ancient.

If I can do it you can too.

@Mila14 no not in real life yet but if he's as good as he seems I'm heading for a great time 🥰

ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers · 10/12/2022 17:36

Hi all,

Haven't been old that much as have had problems with my back and been bedbound for a while. want to ideally start dating next year when things are a bit better. I still want to do salsa dancing too. I might just lurk on this thread if that's okay 👍🏻 looking forward to catching up with everyone's news ❤️

Mila14 · 10/12/2022 17:50

ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers · 10/12/2022 17:36

Hi all,

Haven't been old that much as have had problems with my back and been bedbound for a while. want to ideally start dating next year when things are a bit better. I still want to do salsa dancing too. I might just lurk on this thread if that's okay 👍🏻 looking forward to catching up with everyone's news ❤️

Hello lovely 😊… wishing you a speedy recovery on behalf of the mothership.
Next year is a good moment to change the chip ( and go to salsa class) . I’m also lurking here as no longer OLD

NoDatingForOldMen · 10/12/2022 18:00

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 10/12/2022 11:40

Oh and I thought to update the Mship on a funny thing when I visited MrCars last weekend....

Remember my Q about what are we calling male appendages in a boudoir setting and @NoDatingForOldMen said if anyone used the word 'willy' it would make his shrivel up instantly

Well funny moment in kitchen last week we were cooking together and I said where to find something and MrC said 'it's in the cupboard here right in front of my willy'

Made me smile as it was my preferred word before but thought it not sexy/manly enough which is why I did a poll here.

I think that works as it’s a kind of adolescent/ Viz jokey comment (hopefully he wasn’t actually pointing with his Willy).
For example, it’s been so cold this week NoShow & myself have been swapping silly adolescence style messages about Willy Warmers and that has worked, BUT if in a sexual context if a partner started to use the word Willy my once proud erection would soon become sad and flaccid.

NoDatingForOldMen · 10/12/2022 18:03

Also, what a polite way of say thanks but no thanks to sex without sounds like a completely ungrateful knob.

NoDatingForOldMen · 10/12/2022 18:22

And seeing Ronaldo in tears has made day, week, month & year !
Come on England ⚽️🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

5thWisdom · 10/12/2022 18:23

NoDatingForOldMen · 10/12/2022 18:03

Also, what a polite way of say thanks but no thanks to sex without sounds like a completely ungrateful knob.

What are the reasons and context for declining?

OLDstolemybrain · 10/12/2022 18:24

Zanatdy · 10/12/2022 13:07

I need some of this in my life too! Hoping I’ll be getting it this week too. Been on 2 dates now with ex colleague. Totally smitten, he says he is too, who knows hey? But he’s inviting me over this week and I know we will have sex, and I cannot wait! Driving myself mad thinking about it, messages from him is not helping the situation!

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Woohoo - delicious sex all round hopefully!

problem is once you have it then you can’t think of much else 🤣 I feel like a horny teenager all over again!

OLDstolemybrain · 10/12/2022 18:28

Mila14 · 10/12/2022 15:46

Deffy… so good about MrG… tell us a bit about him. Coming out of apps is SO LIBERATING. I think if he’s really ticking all your boxes, concentrate on him

Fifthie hopefully your next date with Mr? goes well. You deserve a bit of fun and TLC too

Oncey … keeping all crossed 🤞 for you lovely. But it does seem you are very at ease and completely comfortable with Mr Cars. Enjoy your boutique hotel romantic time

At the moment I am very happy ( and having lots of sex) with Mr Ex. I think things are a lot easier and I think I understand more his current pressures but also I think there are other layers of connection. He wants to see my kids again etc. My kids absolutely adore him but I need to be careful. They have never met anyone but him and my ex husband in terms of my personal life. I will take my time. He’s quite fit but I would still like him to drink less alcohol as you know

You realise how easy it is to feel comfortable with someone you’ve fancied the pants off for 7 years and have a shared history with. It surprises me I like him so much as a person too

I am totally in love but I will go slow and at my pace. .

This is lovely, I’m so happy for you ❤️

5thWisdom · 10/12/2022 18:33

I'm trying to muster up the enthusiasm for this date tomorrow morning. I'm tired after a long week and a busy day with child.

There's not been much messaging back and forth. A morning message. He has been working today. He hasn't really asked much about me. He's Italian so maybe it's the language barrier and he's not a good texter. Who knows.

I'm going to force myself to go even though I'm not 100%. Need to get out there again.