Page 18 | Dating Thread 236 - Swiping, Blocking and Video Calls

Boom80 · 09/12/2022 04:43

@NoDatingForOldMen Yes, a straight out request. Drug use during sex too. The swing from what was presented as fairly vanilla to this was like WTAF? He said just a fantasy - what does that mean FFS? Simply not compatible and my heart sank- again..

Mumtolittleorange · 09/12/2022 08:44

I've been hanging in the wings for a few days and enjoying reading all your comments. Nothing much to report here. Have been busy with work and child with man-boy-flu all week.

Had a text from Mr Fish who was passing by our town on the train to a work thing. He asked after me and the kids. I'm starting to feel a bit better about him - no more tears! - but I've lost a bit of enthusiasm for OLD.

Had a couple of chats on the app. Felt a bit mundane and I didn't feel like chatting to them again. I've definitely got my walls up a little higher this time which is probably no bad thing. But I feel Ok about it. Going to try some different apps, probably in the New Year. Onwards and upwards.

Mila14 · 09/12/2022 09:54

Boom80 · 09/12/2022 04:43

@NoDatingForOldMen Yes, a straight out request. Drug use during sex too. The swing from what was presented as fairly vanilla to this was like WTAF? He said just a fantasy - what does that mean FFS? Simply not compatible and my heart sank- again..

sorry you had to pay attention to that guy. I would have blocked him straight. I always say I am boring and traditional. You’d be surprised but there are real gentlemen and they are hot. Forget this idiot

5thWisdom · 09/12/2022 09:57

@Mila14 I closed my Tinder account and have now opened a paid for Bumble account (1 week to start with).

It already feels like a more grown up app.
We shall see!

Mila14 · 09/12/2022 10:00

@Mumtolittleorange …glad to hear you healed over MrFish. You are in the right mental space now…not bothered 😂😂😂. Enjoy soft chats with 0 compromise and bring on the new year. A lot of us are looking forward for this year to end to be honest…it’s been a weird time for a lot of us. We all need a new beginning somehow

confuseddotcom22 · 09/12/2022 11:25

Hey, just looking for advice and probably made all newbie mistakes and now (it seems), embarrassingly, feel utterly heartbroken by this player, Mr Skier.

I'm quite certain about what I'm looking for and I think that with what I have to offer, I deserve to not have to go for anything less. But where do I find him? I only need one in the end. 😊

I go for brain and looks. So successful career, tall and sporty (and handsome, obviously). On what app/site are they? I'm happy to pay to not have to sift through too much...

Thank you!

Mumtolittleorange · 09/12/2022 11:30

Thanks @Mila14
Yes, bring on 2023! Definitely time for a new year and new attitudes... 🙂

Mila14 · 09/12/2022 11:33

Confused…you do not have to settle for less. I was looking exactly at what you are looking for now. I used Bumble because I could filter height, location, education level etc. And if I got overwhelmed I could go incognito and do all the picks myself. I think it’s an error to lower your sights because you would always be on a constant search and “what if” if the guy is not totally right. Best of luck and yes I paid full subscription to Bumble!
There were very decent guys there and I had dated thoroughly nice guys within my criteria ( yours exactly). Alas I was in love still with my ex boyfriend and kept seeing him all along…so 8 months of OLD didn’t yield any results. I’m back with ex boyfriend and closed OLD but I am totally clear I will go back to Bumble if we don’t work out!

Mila14 · 09/12/2022 11:34

Confused …what happened with Mr Skier?

5thWisdom · 09/12/2022 12:13

confuseddotcom22 · 09/12/2022 11:25

Hey, just looking for advice and probably made all newbie mistakes and now (it seems), embarrassingly, feel utterly heartbroken by this player, Mr Skier.

I'm quite certain about what I'm looking for and I think that with what I have to offer, I deserve to not have to go for anything less. But where do I find him? I only need one in the end. 😊

I go for brain and looks. So successful career, tall and sporty (and handsome, obviously). On what app/site are they? I'm happy to pay to not have to sift through too much...

Thank you!

Been there, done that!

After a few awful weeks on Tinder, I've now joined Bumble and it definitely feels a much better fit for me. The men on there seem far more mature, professional etc. I've paid £19.99 for a week and you can see who has swiped you. I've also been 100% clear what I'm looking for to avoid that dreaded question.

I've also used words like professional etc in my profile so the algorithm matches me with profiles that match mine.

I've matched with a 6 ft 9 Italian ex-pro rugby player this morning so that's my £19.99 well spent already haha!

Undecidedandtorn · 09/12/2022 13:03

I wonder if Bumble also attracts a slightly shyer type (which is no bad thing) as the women have to approach first. I been seeing someone from there for a bit and had to make most of the moves at the start!

confuseddotcom22 · 09/12/2022 13:25

Mila14 · 09/12/2022 11:33

Confused…you do not have to settle for less. I was looking exactly at what you are looking for now. I used Bumble because I could filter height, location, education level etc. And if I got overwhelmed I could go incognito and do all the picks myself. I think it’s an error to lower your sights because you would always be on a constant search and “what if” if the guy is not totally right. Best of luck and yes I paid full subscription to Bumble!
There were very decent guys there and I had dated thoroughly nice guys within my criteria ( yours exactly). Alas I was in love still with my ex boyfriend and kept seeing him all along…so 8 months of OLD didn’t yield any results. I’m back with ex boyfriend and closed OLD but I am totally clear I will go back to Bumble if we don’t work out!

@Mila14 You give me hope! I have a thread about spotting jerks that I started at a very low moment. Okay. Let's try Bumble and be strict now...

@5thWisdom Yay! Okay. You have convinced me.

@Undecidedandtorn More words of wisdom - thanks!

I really worry that I'll lower my standard which will just come back with vengeance at some point. So I need to be clear with what I want.

Thank you!

NoDatingForOldMen · 09/12/2022 13:37

I've matched with a 6 ft 9 Italian ex-pro rugby player this morning

jeez, I’m 6ft, I’m and would be tiny compared to this bloke

NoDatingForOldMen · 09/12/2022 13:38

I go for brain and looks. So successful career, tall and sporty (and handsome, obviously).

oh no, out of luck again… 🙇🏼😂

5thWisdom · 09/12/2022 13:45

NoDatingForOldMen · 09/12/2022 13:37

I've matched with a 6 ft 9 Italian ex-pro rugby player this morning

jeez, I’m 6ft, I’m and would be tiny compared to this bloke

Hahaha!

Well he got straight to the point and we're meeting for a coffee on Sunday morning while my child is at his weekend activity class! That was easy!

Also just matched with someone who says he's looking for his "she" for his "nanigans" which made me laugh!

confuseddotcom22 · 09/12/2022 13:57

NoDatingForOldMen · 09/12/2022 13:38

I go for brain and looks. So successful career, tall and sporty (and handsome, obviously).

oh no, out of luck again… 🙇🏼😂

@NoDatingForOldMen 🤣🤣

I've gotta aim high, don't I? 😊

confuseddotcom22 · 09/12/2022 13:58

@5thWisdom exciting!

5thWisdom · 09/12/2022 13:59

I agree! Aim high! 6 ft 9 should be high enough!!

OLDstolemybrain · 09/12/2022 17:24

So I had a rare Friday off work and went to visit MrFootball…..

Things got very steamy and we ended up DTD, that certainly blew away the cobwebs 🤣

he was very good with his hands and mouth and sorted me out before getting his own - blushing just thinking about it tbh!

then he made me a cup of tea and a bacon sandwich, 10/10 I’d say 👏🏻

Stayingstrongish · 09/12/2022 17:34

@OLDstolemybrain orgasms, a cuppa and a bacon sandwich - score! He’s living up to his nickname.

5thWisdom · 09/12/2022 17:54

OLDstolemybrain · 09/12/2022 17:24

So I had a rare Friday off work and went to visit MrFootball…..

Things got very steamy and we ended up DTD, that certainly blew away the cobwebs 🤣

he was very good with his hands and mouth and sorted me out before getting his own - blushing just thinking about it tbh!

then he made me a cup of tea and a bacon sandwich, 10/10 I’d say 👏🏻

Bravo!! An early Christmas treat!! This is the type of update Mothership loves!

Sounds like a lovely way to spend a chilly Friday afternoon 👌🏻

NoDatingForOldMen · 09/12/2022 19:04

OLDstolemybrain · 09/12/2022 17:24

So I had a rare Friday off work and went to visit MrFootball…..

Things got very steamy and we ended up DTD, that certainly blew away the cobwebs 🤣

he was very good with his hands and mouth and sorted me out before getting his own - blushing just thinking about it tbh!

then he made me a cup of tea and a bacon sandwich, 10/10 I’d say 👏🏻

Sounds like Mr Football has scored…

Mila14 · 09/12/2022 19:12

OLDstolemybrain · 09/12/2022 17:24

So I had a rare Friday off work and went to visit MrFootball…..

Things got very steamy and we ended up DTD, that certainly blew away the cobwebs 🤣

he was very good with his hands and mouth and sorted me out before getting his own - blushing just thinking about it tbh!

then he made me a cup of tea and a bacon sandwich, 10/10 I’d say 👏🏻

So happy for you 😍

Mila14 · 09/12/2022 19:14

Mr Football has indeed scored Howlongy!!!

Thisisworsethananticpated · 09/12/2022 20:24

OLDstolemybrain

ahhh!!! How’s the oxytocin love ❤️
thats so cool