Polly and her Dollies are counting down to Christmas

[StuckInPollyannaMode]

Hello my lovelies

Is this going to be the thread where I finally get divorced? Will my Ring of Fabulousness ever be worn? Will the Divorce Tattinger be drunk?

I bloody well hope so. It's been a very long time coming.

Here we are again. In the main headline news... I'm still not fucking divorced from Geller. I've had to sign an affidavit for the absolute application to say yes, I want to proceed, because it's taken so bloody long.

The Dollies are amazing, brilliant and pains in the bum in equal measures I can't believe how much they're growing up. For Christmas they want to learn how to make me a cup of tea for my present. I'll take that. DD1 hasn't had a good couple of weeks, not helped by me having a whole load of work done in the house so things here have been a bit chaotic. DD2 has been off school poorly with D&V, poor little mite.

Geller remains an eejit who is unable to put the Dollies first. The shenanigans have been unbelievable and of true Geller quality levels. I am rising above. And doing a lot of deep breathing. My parents have now moved house and my mother is being her usual self. I've distanced myself quite a bit. I did help them out for a day but that's it.

I'm becoming addicted to exercise again and have graduated to the fast lane in the swimming pool, hurrah. I've survived several spin classes and even treated myself to a new pair of trainers. My gardening is coming on nicely (I'm very good in autumn with slash and burn, I can do destruction) and I've now got my new shed up.

Work is insanely busy and I'm on the edge of a new possibility which will, if it comes off, be life changing for me and the Dollies in terms of security. It's going to be a crazy few months but I'll give it all I've got.

I haven't heard from Westley since I threw my toys out of the pram with him wanting to still be friends and message me randomly - no. I'm too good for breadcrumbing and I've got enough friends, thank you. I'm not dating, not planning on dating and finally feel like I'm starting to move on. But it's not a priority for me right now, although I do really miss cuddles. And sex!

Perhaps most excitingly, today I am trialling a new foundation. It's supposed to be a dupe of Estee Lauder's Double Wear, which I love, but I just can't justify the cost of for everyday wear.

As ever, if you're still following me, thank you. Without MN and you all I wouldn't be where I am today.

Yes please.

Happy new year, lovelies. Wishing us all a happy and healthy one.

I’m exhausted- final guests leave today, except for the Australian, who fortunately is the World’s Easiest House Guest - parents still have Covid, the Norwegians are all down with it, basically DM turned here into Ground Zero.

New Year’s was a super party, curry went down well, lots and lots of laughter and walking and rain and eating.

Geller has kicked off 2023 by being ridiculous about driving in the rain. Apparently the forecast is so bad he needs to drop the Dollies back a day early so he can drive MIL home. The poisoned dwarf has been with him for ten days now - I’m damned if I’m facilitating him getting rid of her a day early, so I sent him a hard no!! Also, I can’t have them tonight - I’ve got a date 😁

he has also, apparently, introduced the Dollies to his girlfriend. The one he is taking to Manchester. I don’t give a shit about what he does with whom, but what I care about is that I wasn’t told, when we had agreed that the other one would be aware. And it was an over a month ago, so they haven’t been telling me they’ve met her several times. I don’t want them thinking they can’t tell me. I haven’t told him I know this. Or breathed a word to the Dollies. Do I say anything??

On a different topic, has anyone read Adam Cam’s book Savage Wisdom? I really like his Instagram content, just wondering if the book is worth £15??

best get up and load the dishwasher for the 1827372th time this week - once this week is over I’m going to turn into a hermit.

The generosity of your mum knows no bounds @StuckInPollyannaMode she’s like a virus-sprinkling elf on the shelf, isn’t she? I’m imagining her in a 50’s-style cartoon with an apron, wearing pink and a saccharine malevolence a-la Dolores Umbridge and squirting everyone with a COVID flit gun as they entered your once healthy home.
Well done not for not Acadia Kedavra-ing her. Very well done indeed.

Furious but not surprised that Geller did not stick to the agreement. The shit. Poor girls.

Meanwhile, I am very excited to hear of your date!!! I do hope this one is lovely! (And a fabulous kisser!!!)

Also, I can’t have them tonight - I’ve got a date

Happy New Year @StuckInPollyannaMode!!

Happy New Year @StuckInPollyannaMode

Maybe the Dollies didn't deliberately not tell you - it just wasn't a big deal to them. So don't make it a Big Deal in return. Mention in passing, in a low key way at some relevant juncture, that you know Geller has a girlfriend and that you're comfortable with that as you both have your own lives and that they'll no doubt meet her at some point, if they haven't already

Its out of order for him to have introduced them without telling you but honestly I think you need to save coming down hard on him for when they break up. Hes prime 'string of girlfriends' material and that would hopefully nip it in the bud. Lets hope the dollies dont get too attached.

Your mum 😷 only to be expected really.🤦‍♀️

WRT Geller and his new GF, just mention, v low key, in passing, "Don't worry, she won't be around for long... Hot chocolate with marshmallows anyone?" 😉😁< smug face.

Why can't Geller take the girls with him while dropping off MIL? He has a large practical 4wd vehicle, hasn't he? I know he can't drive or park the bugger, but that's not your problem.

Enjoy your date

And it was an over a month ago, so they haven’t been telling me they’ve met her several times. I don’t want them thinking they can’t tell me. I haven’t told him I know this. Or breathed a word to the Dollies. Do I say anything??

I think my main concern about Geller's (poor gaslit) girlfriend is whether or not he told/hinted at the Dollies not to tell you. That's pretty much the only thing I'd want to 'have out' with him. Seems to me that him telling them 'don't tell Mum' is right up his alley.

Although how you're going to find this out without asking the Dollies directly if Dad told them not to tell you, I have no idea. But it does seem odd to me that they haven't mentioned anything, even via a slip of the tongue. That's what makes it seem to me as if he 'had a conversation' with them about it.

A date !!! What? When ?
Id tell Geller that the girls are fine with "Wife no 4", they know he has a history of failed narriages😂😂😂

Ooh naughty😂😂, but so tempting, and actually factually correct, so yeah, I'd think I'd go with this response.

I’m thinking Geller is trying to get Polly to do the hard conversations with the girls again. Nope. Don’t do it. It’s his job. Also asking the girls for info about wife no 4 so that she can have that talk isn’t fair on them AND feeds his bloody ego. That’s a mug’s game.

Yes that’s my concern as well, that they’ve been told not to tell me. Anyway, I will deal with it as and when. agree on being casual about it and focusing on reassuring the Dollies if needed.

Just in from my date and wanted to gush a little bit. Actually, my fifth date 😁 it’s been rather nice to have something secret over the Christmas period. He’s rather lovely, very much not my usual type but since when has that served me well? He has super kind eyes and broad shoulders and arms of steel and is a supremely good kisser. We had drinks together before Christmas that turned into dinner, a walk early one morning before anyone else had got up, then I snuck out on Christmas Eve to do the final shop and he came with me to Waitrose and carried my bags to the car…we shall see. Early days. Keeping perspective. Communication is great, definitely definitely sparks are flying and I am enjoying myself. Seeing him this weekend so…keep your fingers crossed!

Ooooh! Breaking out of type is a great thing to do! (Said she twenty years into a marriage to an elite athlete after many years of dating self-obsessed tortured poet-types and musicians.)

Well hope you have a fun weekend Polly, sounds like it's worth enjoying! I'd be concerned that Gellar is actively getting the girls to lie to you but I guess it's a lie of omission and very hard to know how to tackle without making them feel bad. Like you said breezy and matter of fact when it comes up which it will eventually!

PS back to the docs today as downstairs still isn’t quite right…so being forced to be slow on that front!!

Well done on the breaking of type! It's a good thing; my foster son's mum has just done it too (always went for bad boy musician druggy types and is now dating the polar opposite) and she is more happy and settled than she has been in a decade according to FS.

Long may it last!

Oh FFS. Infection has not gone, multiple swabs taken, back on the horse tablets and not drinking for another two weeks.

Have entered full invalid mode and currently on the sofa eating PopChips under and blanket and MNing.

Damn! Just when you’re getting ready to get back on the horse! (Please let him be a horse!)

Hope you feel better soon!

I had the same problem, caused by my coil being changed - back and forth for 8 months on different tablets. Sorry to say it needed an emergency admission to hospital for a few days to sort out with strong IV antibiotics then a laparoscopy to make sure no permanent damage was done. GPs don't seem to take this seriously, have you had a referral to gynae yet?

@CrazyCatLady13 I’m glad to hear it’s not just me and that you got it sorted.

The doctor rang on Thursday to say all my tests are clear, she’s spoken to the consultant who is fitting me in at the end of his list on Monday. I’ve now had 5 different types of antibiotics and nothing is touching it. Got quite worried last night, but have pulled round a bit. Think I’d just done too much. I’m a bit bloated and sore, having a quiet day today, just back from a short walk. On the plus side, I’ve not got gonhorrea or syphilis or chylmidea, which is positive, especially as I can’t spell them.

Geller has out Gellered himself with the latest DD1 meltdown. She walked out of her swimming lesson and he couldn’t get her back in. One of his many messages says ‘I know you’ll try next week and then it’s me again. But this might be a non starter.’

not when I’ve just paid £140 to swop their lessons to a different pool and time, matey. And she’s playing him - she wouldn’t do that with me. Let’s see what happens on my watch…

i didn’t rise to the bait, just said after a couple of hours that these things happen and I hoped she was ok. Got a screed back in response

New chap is cooking me Sunday lunch later - be still my beating heart. Having some lovely chats and lots of laughs and kisses. Obviously nothing too exciting because of the current situation but he is being very respectful and supportive.

in divorce news, the reason we haven’t heard anything from the court is that it was sent to the wrong email address. It took an hour on the phone for my solicitor (well, presumably and hopefully, an Underling) to establish this, so no doubt they’ll charge me for that - is it worth me fighting that or not worth the time and therefore money to do so??

If the solicitor sent it to the wrong address that's on them so yep refuse to pay for their error.

Glad you are in to see a consultant.

No words for his shit parenting. Make him pay for the lessons on his weeks?

Fuck me sideways, Geller and Lawyers are utter knobjockeys aren't they? Must be the computer chips in the vaccines or something. 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

Why would you pay them for time spent sorting out THEIR fxxk up?

You should be charging them.

I would email your outrage should they attempt to.

Make a note of day and time spent sorting it out.

This is the sort of bullshit people go to the Taxing Master about........very successfully too!

From the wording of the solicitors email it was the court that sent it to the wrong email address