Straightforward, drama free abortion

[FineMom]

I know everyone’s different and possibly some women get upset by having an abortion. But my experience when I was in my early 20s was really fine. My partner was supportive. The whole thing was relatively free, it was also guilt free and stress free. I told my mother she was fine too and came to stay with me. There was no drama or doubt just a sense of relief that
I had access to this safe health care service.

I love the Archers and I know they need a story line but, AIBU to feel they have massively over milked this subject.
I remember when Lizzie Archer had one a few years ago and they treated the issue far more in line with my experience.

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Whenever the media shows an abortion it has to be traumatic, women have to be devastated by it, it must be shown as a Bad Thing. In reality I felt nothing but relief, and I don’t feel bad about that.

I want to share my experience with abortion. I found I was pregnant on the 2nd of November. I was shocked, scared panicking. How can I have a baby? I don’t have a house I live with my parents, it would be unfair to put the stress and responsibility on them. I am a student and work part time. I have no time to fit a baby in my schedule! I thought I’ll look into my options. Had a discussion with the father of the ‘baby’ (not a baby yet as I was only 5 weeks) and we both decided abortion would be best as we both work and we couldn’t give it the life we deserve. And that’s okay.

Going to a Catholic school I didn’t learn about abortion. I didn’t know how it worked. All I learnt was ‘don’t have sex’

I googled abortion and NHS said that I can ring a sexual health clinic and get an appointment. They had no appointments until the 17th!! I couldn’t wait that long. I went through BPAS and the next day I was on the phone to the lovely midwife who sent the at home abortion pills the same day!! I got them 2 days later and was relieved I could start my treatment. BPAS can I say were
lovely and very supportive and made me feel at ease and that this is NORMAL for women to have abortions and not some thing that they should be ashamed about. Which I was when I first found out I was pregnant. How did I end up here!

I opened the brown box that came through my letterbox and started treatment. First pill you take is mifepristone which essentially stops the pregnancy by blocking a hormone. I felt fine after taking this and felt relieved. I’m doing this. I took this Monday night and felt absolutely fine. Slight cramping that was eased with hot water bottle!

On the Wednesday at 10:30 am I took the second lot which you can place in the vagina or orally. I done the vagina way as it apparently has less side effects! I placed the 4 in and lay down for 30 mins as instructed and binged watched my fave show! After about half an hour I started getting cramping which gradually gotten worse. Ever since I was 12 I’ve had intense periods and cramps which made me physically sick with pain! So this didn’t really bother me until it was persistent. I had a bath as it relaxes me and eases the pain. This helped slightly. The nurse prescribed me codine which I took 4 with an ibuprofen which after what felt like a lifetime took the pain away. I was sick after 40 mins after I had taken it but it is a side effect of codine.

3 hours had passed and I wasn’t bleeding. Panic started to set in. Why am I not bleeding? The second set of tablets the final set yay! About 20 minutes after putting them in I was bleeding. My bleeding was light but wasn’t too light to be concerned.

Cramping had started again but is managed with codine and ibuprofen and a hot water bottle which I highly recommend if you are going through this.

Sitting in bed now as I took the medication today. Felt tired and cold and hot but feel fine now. I hope this post has helped someone as I can’t remember the name but someone posted their experience and it put me at ease. Thank you for sharing your experiences. There are pro lifers out there who create horror stories to scare you. Don’t listen to them. Instead listen to the nurse or midwife, I highly recommend BPAS.

whoever you are out there reading this I hope you’re okay and you will get through this. Sending all my love and positive energy to you. Thanks for reading and making it to the end of a long post 😂.

I agree entirely @FineMom

We need to see abortion shown as a straightforward procedure in most cases (not talking about tfmr or tragic situations) and not a guilt inducing shame fest.

I’m sooooooo glad that Chelsea had a termination though. Bit worried about her going back to work so soon though.

Look at me going on like it’s real!

I had an abortion age 20. Felt nothing but relief. It wasn’t a difficult or emotional experience. My contraception had failed, and I knew 100% that I did not want a child at that point in my life.

Same here OP.
I had an abortion age 20, no regrets, no drama. It's a collection of cells, it's not a life. In fact, I think people who have children they don't want are actually being cruel . I didn't want to bring a child into the world until I knew I could give it the love and attention it deserved.

It’s typical soap operas though.

If you have a baby then you will give birth in 15 seconds flat on the floor of your local pub.
If a vaguely good looking bloke moves in next door then you will be having a torrid affair by Tuesday.
If you have a bit of a headache then it will be a terminal brain tumour.
If a random stranger moves in across the road from you then they will be your long lost child / parent / sibling. You will find this out in the most terrible way possible.
If you decide to confide in a friend about your pregnancy / torrid affair / long lost child then you will decide that the perfect place for this confession will be somewhere public where the one person who really mustn’t find out will be able to overhear you.

@birdie002 who is it sensitive for? Unless its sensitive for the woman actually having an abortion then it's not sensitive at all.

@Birdie002 stop peddling misinformation about abortions. Fine for you to choose not to have one, utterly inappropriate for you to tell other women lies in order to try to blackmail them into not having an abortion.

The very large majority of women experience no issues either short or long term after an abortion. The majority of women feel relief as the major emotion afterwards as the majority posting here have said.

I am not blackmailing no one, but its also not ok people downplaying abortion like it's not another human life your referring to. I've done enough research on the background of it + peoples experience including my own. I promise I am not misleading no one. There needs to be better education on it. I guarantee more than half in schools probably don't even know how abortions are even done and what the side affects are. I find it more misleading people want to try to shove "safe abortions" without giving the full details of it first. Let's agree to disagree.

@Venicedream I’m pleased that things worked out for you and you got the information and reassurance that you needed.
@Bimblybomeyelash my experience was the same as yours.
@Stath I’m pleased for Chelsea too (because she is real) but OMG why is the rest of Ambridge so worked up? The whole programme needs to calm down and move on.

Love and best wishes to anyone going through this now. You will be fine ❤️

Sensitive for the mum going through it + sensitive for people who value human life! Tf. How is it not sensitive you should be asking!

Abortion is NEVER a mistake for a woman who wants one. All the tired tropes of women killing babies and how they will regret it. Life isn't precious, I get sick of religion guilt tripping women into continuing with pregnancy, if God, whichever one you believe in, thought that life and children were precious he wouldn't let 5 million of them die after birth each year, 5 MILLION.

Pregnancy and childbirth is the most dangerous time in a woman's life due to the threat to her health and tge increased risk of domestic violence. No one is killing babies, they are aborting a collection of cells.

IheartJkRowling bleak view. How depressing

How is removing a collection of cells only a few weeks in taking a life? You do know the vast majority of abortions are medical (taking the ‘abortion’ pills) and take place before week 10?

It’s pretty concerning that you seem to know absolutely nothing about abortions. The most dangerous abortions are the ones that need to take place illegally. You peddling your shit harms more women than it supports.

@Birdie002 your personal opinion on whether or not to choose to have an abortion is yours and I wouldn't dream of disagreeing with you on that. However, what you are saying about abortion in general is just simply wrong. Misleading, emotive, inaccurate. There is no evidence to support what you're saying.

I would say the education I got on abortion was highly misleading to be honest and i wouldn't say it was downplayed at all - very much the opposite, it relied heavily on the emotive/ethical side of the coin and not enough on the actual science and facts which I think does women a disservice. I'm happy to agree to disagree with someone provided they are clear on the facts and the science in the first instance and early terminations to me are not the ending of a life - its the removal of the potential of a life which needs to be differentiated because the potential of something, in my mind, cannot override the reality of the actual person who is pregnant. I'm very much pro-choice because while there's lots of alternatives to parenting, termination is the only alternative to pregnancy and delivery of a baby and I believe that's a decision every single individual has the right to decide for themselves.

I would also say that as a Christian, I do believe life is precious- however i don't believe that i have the right to tell someone else what to do with their body. To me that should be down to them, their personal beliefs, and their healthcare provider. There's no place for me in that triangle. I think it's illogical to expect someone who doesn't believe the same things as I do, to make a decision based on a religion they don't partake in. I also don't think that the life of a mother becomes any less precious just because she's conceived so why shouldn't she be allowed to advocate for her own healthcare/ physical health/ mental health however she sees fit as we are all entitled to do.

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Not everything has to be around religion to try and defend abortions. Listen I lost two babies and birthed two babies. There is also nothing more disrespectful to say to another woman who strongly wanted her baby that your feelings are invalid because I believe your baby was a clump of cells. It's late and I am tired to get into the when life begins. All I will say is, the week of pregnancy that I lost my baby is also the same week I heard my now 8 months olds heartbeat for the first time and this was early on, a clump of cells wouldn't do that now would it.

I am telling you there is not enough information going around to really educate young girls foremost before they make these kind of life altering decisions. I get it not everyone will agree and like I said before, I know I will get a lot of hate as everyone who is pro life gets.

People are so desperate to downplay abortion like it's nothing. Don't dismiss all those women who have suffered/ are still suffering from abortions in all aspects just because you couldn't care less about your "clump of cells". I can't force anyone to have my beliefs and vice Versa. I am allowed to express my feelings around it just as much as all those women claiming abortion is so safe and more people should do :/.

Like I said before, it's a sensitive topic and it's always going to cause arguments but let's not downplay at least, have that bit of respect for human life or at-least for women who have/ suffered.

Take your agenda somewhere else.

Mine were drama free too. Sadly they weren't entirely guilt free for me, I still (over 20 years later) have mixed feelings about them. I hate that it had to happen, but also know they were totally 100% necessary.

Soaps always over dramatise everything though!

Your clump of cells was a baby in your head @Birdie002. It was no more a baby than the one I aborted, the one I miscarried or the one that isa teenager.

And if you've never had an abortion, please do everyone a favour and leave this thread.

While I wholeheartedly feel for any woman struggling with ttc or who have lost pregnancies having been there myself, I think the important thing to recognise is that different people have very different emotional connections to pregnancy depending on their circumstances - neither feeling is wrong or invalid in any way. Both are natural emotional responses. And I think it's important to allow for people to feel both ways about it without enforcing judgement on either, but that's the nature of choice. That's why I think it's so important that women are empowered to make the right choice for them, understanding the science and the facts as well, as an individual. Because what may be wrong for one person might be right for another and I honestly believe the only person who can really make that call is the individual.

"My clump of cells " had a heartbeat and a little body which I have a recording + scan off. However, if those thoughts is what keeps you going, then you do you.