Straightforward, drama free abortion

[FineMom]

I know everyone’s different and possibly some women get upset by having an abortion. But my experience when I was in my early 20s was really fine. My partner was supportive. The whole thing was relatively free, it was also guilt free and stress free. I told my mother she was fine too and came to stay with me. There was no drama or doubt just a sense of relief that
I had access to this safe health care service.

I love the Archers and I know they need a story line but, AIBU to feel they have massively over milked this subject.
I remember when Lizzie Archer had one a few years ago and they treated the issue far more in line with my experience.

Hear hear. No one has the right to make decisions over any woman's body.

We must always stand united for women's rights to autonomy over their own bodies!

Women must have a choice. I’m not a huge fan of very late term abortion unless it’s for a medical reason. However it’s not my body, not my decision and I don’t have to deal with the consequences.

Young women particularly may find it helpful to read the abortion experiences as I imagine it is scary to go through alone. Which many women will have to do.

There are way too many unwanted, abused children as it is. Many are in the care system, so hope those of you that disagree with a woman’s right to choose are out there adopting and fostering and working with these children!

I was let down by my contraception on no less than four occasions . Thankfully one miscarried very quickly. On the other times ranging from age 16-25 years old were all carried out very soon and the embryo was about the size of a baked bean. Did it have a little heartbeat ? Sure . So does an ant or a flea though . It was indeed a clump of cells on a fetal pole , not even plumbed in yet with a placenta. I love my children and I’ve done a good job raising them but heaven knows those other potential children wouldn’t have enjoyed the same life and it would have totally wrecked mine .
those who campaign against terminations are campaigning against safe abortions and womens rights- it’s a type of violence to women to do that…. because you know what? People have sex even when they don’t want a baby , always have, always will. People who then get caught and can’t access safe abortions will access unsafe abortions- women and girls will die .

"There are way too many unwanted, abused children as it is. Many are in the care system, so hope those of you that disagree with a woman’s right to choose are out there adopting and fostering and working with these children!"

Tbh @Suzi888 I wouldn't be inclined to use that as an argument for the following reasons.

Lots of adopted and fostered people have expressed this as being harmful to them and their experiences. It reinforces the idea that they should be in some way 'grateful' to their birth mother for continuing with the pregnancy or to their foster/adoptive family for taking them on which isn't fair to put on a child or young person so I wouldn't inflict pro lifers on them for that reason. Adoption and Fostering serve a purpose but that purpose comes from a place of deep trauma and pain so its not something that should be seen as a happy or positive alternative and adopted and fostered young people certainly don't all want to be told how 'lucky' they are.

It also negates the fact that the majority of women who wanted but couldn't access abortion do go on to parent themselves, possibly due to the further stigma of having a child in care etc. Being a birth mum is highly complex and most women choose not to take that route. So most of the time that won't be an option for the woman in question and pro lifers ignore that and will flaunt adoption/Fostering as the 'solution'. The majority of children and young people in care are actually very much wanted by their birth families and to present them as otherwise reinforces negative stereotypes which is something most care experienced young people i know would say they really hate that people get wrong about them because it's a common assumption people make.

But for me it mainly comes down to the simple fact that adopting and fostering are alternatives to parenting. The only alternative to pregnancy and delivery is abortion. They are two completely separate issues and to me should be treated as such.

I love the Archers and I know they need a story line but, AIBU to feel they have massively over milked this subject.
I remember when Lizzie Archer had one a few years ago and they treated the issue far more in line with my experience.

I don’t know anything about the archers. But if they’ve shown one woman dealing with it ‘drama free’ and another struggling with it a bit more, that’s probably a good thing.

I’ve known women who have been relieved and not thought any more of it and others that have struggled and felt guilt/regret and a whole range of emotions. To only show the ‘drama free’ experience wouldn’t be realistic.

I suppose the issue is that straightforward, drama free abortion doesn't make very good television. Or radio in this case.

I stopped listening to the Archers during lockdown when there was a misogynist storyline too many. Every single female character suffers endless crap.

And this has just reinforced my belief that I was right to give it up. For most women, abortion is not traumatic and dreadful. Its unpleasant and sad but also a relief.

Same. Forever grateful for the privilege of a free, safe and kind service.