Straightforward, drama free abortion

[FineMom]

I know everyone’s different and possibly some women get upset by having an abortion. But my experience when I was in my early 20s was really fine. My partner was supportive. The whole thing was relatively free, it was also guilt free and stress free. I told my mother she was fine too and came to stay with me. There was no drama or doubt just a sense of relief that
I had access to this safe health care service.

I love the Archers and I know they need a story line but, AIBU to feel they have massively over milked this subject.
I remember when Lizzie Archer had one a few years ago and they treated the issue far more in line with my experience.

It's not a foetus.

Agreed and that's not disrespectful it's just stating medical fact. If some people attach more emotion to it at that stage then that's fair enough - I know I did with this pregnancy because it was very much wanted and planned, but while we used words like 'baby' I still was aware that it wasn't a actual 'baby ' and to be honest I found pregnancy made me even more pro- choice because it really reinforced the madness to me that this embryo was suddenly more important to some people than my rights to life and health as a living, breathing, sentient woman were.

I had one at 10 weeks OP, it was a vacuum basically. A bit of cramping but not much. I've never regretted it. It was the right choice to make for my life.

Look, Birdie, you’re not getting it. Please just LISTEN to women who’ve had abortions. I’ve had one, a surgical one, you know the one that tears the “baby” limb from limb and picks it out of your uterus with a giant pair of tweezers. I know what happens because I’m a functional adult who can use Google. I chose to have a surgical abortion because I didn’t want to risk the side effects like vomiting, pain and diarrhoea of the medical one. I wanted to be anaesthetised and have a smooth, quick experience, and I did.

I’m glad I had it, I have never regretted it, I know exactly what the procedure involves and I have no qualms or emotion about it. I don’t care about the foetus. It was an unwanted parasite to me. From the moment I found out I was pregnant I smoked 20 fags a day and had a several glasses of wine every evening purely to protest the fact this interloper was in my body. My experience is no less valid than yours. I won’t lie about or sugar coat or downplay how I feel to pussyfoot around people who feel differently. People traumatised and regretful of their abortions are absolutely entitled to their feelings, but what they’re not entitled to do is demand that they take precedence, or peddle misinformation and scaremongering, or demand that every representation of abortion aligns with their own.

I get that but there is more women like me that also share the same story if not worse. There is more than the abortion pill. There is also nothing natural & safe about intentionally expelling another being from your body in such a barbaric way.

If you didn't want your baby, ok. Have respect that that a little baby regardless how big it is had to either be clamped out, suctioned out, given injections & pills to stop it's little heart. Don't justify those things being 'nothing major' just to please your own feelings of abortion.

@Birdie002
How about you show a bit of fucking respect yourself instead of calling other women barbaric.

Did you tell the woman in your totally not made up story that's she's barbarically expelling a living being from her body?

We’re not. We’re talking about a partially formed human that could not survive independently outside of its host. That’s not comparable to a baby that’s been born, that’s like comparing a tumour to a toddler.

@Birdie002 Having abortion has less side affects than pregnancy and childbirth. Research shows this. Research shows that published medical journals show that abortion is 14 times more safer than pregnancy and childbirth. This, is what actual medical research shows. To make out and show that abortion always has side affects is , misleading, manipulative and dishonest.

People who value human life would value the life of the mother, who is more at risk from pregnancy than an abortion. If you human life, @Birdie002 , and I mean actual human life, you would value the bodily autonomy and life of the actual born human being, the woman. There are very, very few side affects of abortion, and studies show 95-99% (depending on either which two studies you read) of women don't regret their abortion and it saved their lives.

I don't hate any women but I do hate the act of abortion because IN MY OPINION it is devastating.

The vast overwhelming majority 95-99%, of women who have had an abortion find it a relief and liberating. Not 'devastating'.

Devastating, is being stripped of your humanity by being forced into Gestational Slavery, and denied the right to an abortion. To risk your health in pregnancy, and risk your life in childbirth. That, is what is truly actually devastating.

@JennyNotFromTheBlock 👏
This. Devastating is also what happened to Savita Halappanavar when doctors in fear of the law put her dying baby's life above hers and both died. A safe, legal, wanted abortion is not devastating for the vast majority of women.

The term 'heartbeat', is a misnomer, @Birdie002 . It is a fetal pole pulse. The heart is not actually truly formed until the third trimester. However laymans' terms are easier to use. Also, many things have a 'body'. Such as a tapeworm. It doesn't make it human. And the 'body' of 90% of terminations don't contain any brain stem or nervous system or formed functioning organs when the average termination is performed. It is not a human. It has all the sentience of a table. That is the cold hard scientific fact.

I had a surgical abortion at about 7 weeks. The medically induced option wasn't available where I lived at that time. I'd have had the operation as soon as I found out I was pregnant at but apparently I had to wait for it to be a bit bigger for the surgery. Despite the (small) amount of pain I was in, I walked out of that hospital afterwards feeling like a weight had been lifted. It's barely crossed my mind since and I'm honestly quite surprised when I remember I've had an abortion. Very easy decision to make, very easy procedure, and not one ounce of regret (except that I got pregnant in the first place, even though it was a contraception failure). So yes, personally, I completed agree with the original post and thank goodness that option is available to us in the UK.

@Birdie002 No, it is NOT 'barbaric'. Please don't lie! Gestational Slavery, pregnancy and childbirth is barbaric.

@Birdie002 taking an abortion pill isn't barbaric, because if it is then a 9 week miscarriage is also barbaric. A late term TFMR isn't barbaric, it is the most compassionate and often life savong thing to do in a very difficult situation.

Yes, as medical evidence shows, having an abortion is safer than having a Colonoscopy and safer than having a tooth extraction.

videos and links all over the internet.

Yes, we know what these doctored 'videos' are, and how they and graphics continually misrepresent a full term baby as an abortion. It seems you've fallen for the pro-'life' deceitful and manipulative agenda including faked YT 'videos'.

Actual real evidence from non-biased sources is all over the internet, if you bother to do real, actual research and not by the LIES from those like 'lies'site etc and their faked 'videos'.

Nope, @TedMullins is just demonstrating that it isn't necessarily the case that abortion leads to upset and regret. As to the fags and alcohol - no point in worrying about their effect on the pregnancy if you're definitely going to have an abortion anyway, is there? Though of course the effects on your own health are substantial.

Are you very religious? You use of 'end of days' suggests you are. Also it's 'utmost'.

innocent baby.

Oh, here we go with the emotional manipulation and emotionally manipulative hyperbolic language. The only innocent here is the actual human being, the woman. Yes, we are in the 'end days' (though the Bible fully supports abortion) if you believe a woman is not a human with no rights, and something that has no sentience, no brainstem and no nervous system has more right than the INNOCENT WOMAN who has to risk her health and her life for it. I find your attitude sad and ever so deeply disturbing. I hope with education you will change your mind.

And I agree with @JennyNotFromTheBlock that doctored videos from anti abortion sites are not medical evidence and watching them is indoctrination, not research. If you want evidence, there are plenty of peer reviewed scientific papers for you to look at.

This feels like the final frontier in abortion rights to me. I had a termination many years ago, it was very early in the pregnancy and I wasn't in a relationship. I have honestly given more thought to the 'dilemma' of returning a pair of boots than to ending my unwanted pregnancy. I never once considered going ahead with it.

It wasn't a fun experience, but I've had many, much worse dental procedures. I've never felt any guilt, and I don't think about it until threads like these pop up.

The wailing agony of abortion may apply to some, but statistically most of them must be more like mine. God forbid any film or TV show portrays it that way though.

Love how you started off saying you don't mean anyone any offense and now you're calling women parasites.

@Jippers, a 3 and 5 week EMBRYO is a blood clot the size of the ball on a ballpoint pen, with no bones and no organs. This, is a 6 week (6 weeks 6 days) embryo. It looks like an ordinary shapeless bloodclot that bares no resemblance whatsoever to a 'baby'.