Babies dad has blocked me and he has her...help

[Supernova18]

Hello,
My ex partner has blocked me (again) after I said I wasn't happy about his girlfriend of a few months staying over when my child is there (with her baby too) and my partner going on holiday with her and her daughter. He has blocked me, he says until the new year. It is my daughters birthday early december, then they go away and then they want her for xmas.

Can anyone offer guidance? our co parenting it horrific and he will block and unblock, but being told he promises it will be until new year, is a long time with no direct contact. I have to go through my MIL

When is he due to bring her home? Does he have PR?

Does he have full custody?

If you both have PR then you sadly don’t get a say in whether his girlfriend is present on his contact.

You need to get the contact schedule sorted and in writing, through court preferably.

Ask that all correspondence between you is via email only so no one is blocking anyone.

Wow that sounds rough. I would heavily consider going through the courts if I was you. If you haven't already. How long does he normally have her for ? How old is your child ? And also, even though you may not like the new girlfriend around your child, as long as your child is safe, he can have whoever he wants around tbh. At the end of the day, the best interests of the child is what matters her.

Im sure someone more knowledgeable will come along soon but in the meantime.
Is he on the birth certificate? If so he has PR and in the absence of a court order stating where she is to live then he can do this I beleive.
Who does she live with/spends most time with?
Who claims the Child Benefit?
How old is she? If she is young and you are primary carer its really unreasonable for him to deny her contact with you for such a long period.
Do you have a court order ? If not put in an emergency application today. If you do have one get it enforced
Do you know where he lives? The police will not remove her if there is no court order but they will do a welfare visit.

Do you mean he is with her right now and you can’t contact him? When is he due to bring her back?

I think in future you need to use a shared parenting app to communicate. They’re made for situations like these.

Tbh lots of women are advised to block their ex and only unblock them when it’s their time for contact.
see it suggested loads.

You need a court ordered contact schedule. If you can show the court that he isn't acting in the child's best interests and is blocking you as a means of bullying and control then it might be that he only gets supervised contact. Are you both only UK based or is there any chance he might try to leave the country with her?

But as pp say if he's got parental responsibility you can't dictate what he does or who is in the house while she us with him, and there will be quite a high requirement for proof to remove parental responsibility if you are sure he can't act in her best interests.

What age is your child?
Does he have parental responsibility?
What is your contact schedule?
When were you expecting her back before he blocked you?

You can't tell him who he can have at his house. You overstepped there.

But he also can't really just keep your child until the New Year - that is not healthy for the child. You need legal advice.

Does your baby live with him full time? Why?

More information needed. The only contact you need is about your child. Not about his personal life. You wouldn't put up with him telling you that you can't have boyfriends round your house when your child is there.

He's blocked you until new year but he wants her for Xmas even though he's got her now? I don't understand.

Is he keeping the baby from now until new year and you can't contact him during this time, is that right?

Need a bit more info OP. Does your child live with him full time? What are the current arrangements re contact between you all? I have to say if he's been with his partner for a few months it's perfectly reasonable for them to all spend time together so I think you're unreasonable re this bit. The blocking isn't good.

So sad to read. What a stressful situation.

Legally I can understand that you can’t dictate who goes on holiday or lives in a house with your small child - it would be too complicated an agreement for any legal system to go down - but good God of course you would want to have input! What mother wouldn’t! And now the blocking. Such a horrific situation. I really feel for you.

As pps have said, back to the legal route to enforce dates and a reliable means of maintaining contact with your child. I really hope you can work something out.

Does he have baby with him now? If he is refusing to give baby back I would try to go down and just take them. If he refuses I would get a solicitor involved today. I would only allow contact center contact going forward as this isn't good for baby.

I think OP is saying that ex has the baby now, and there is nothing to suggest he won't return the baby. But he has blocked her when there are still lots of arrangements to be worked out re Xmas and NY. I imagine OP is upset that he wants the baby for Xmas and things have got tense and he has blocked her. OP I think you will need to talk to his parents and work out Xmas arrangements.
I understand you don't like the idea of mother woman looking after your baby but there's not much you can do about it, anymore than he could if you had a bf around.

Have read again. If you have baby and he wants contact tell him to grow up and contact you and you can arrange a contact center.

The blocking is very stressful and you do need to be able to contact the other parent when your child is with them, and they need to be able to contact you too, emergencies do happen. You know you have no say over who visits when your child is at the other parents house unless you believe they pose a real danger to your child's safety. It sucks but it's just how it is. Co-parenting is hard.

You can phone from a withheld number, you can't block withheld numbers.

You can easily block withheld numbers on an android phone.

OP I think you need to get something court-ordered in place re contact, but unfortunately as others have said, he has the right to introduce whoever he wants when DD is with him. The bar for not allowing that is very high - you'd need to show she was an active drug user, had had children removed from her care or a conviction for child neglect or abuse, for example.

You need to ask a family solicitor for help, or if you can’t afford that, ask Citizens Advice Bureau if they can suggest anything. But if you can get any money together, get a solicitor. Thet might even get you 100% custody.

This situation is not good for a baby. I’m not clear if he is dropping off baby soon or intending to keep her until January but either way this is messed up. Babies need their mum and English courts know this. You are being bullied and you need to find a path to a place where there is a court ordered contact schedule.

If he’s intending to keep the baby til January without the mother’s consent then that’s really serious and you need legal help.

Block him too, choose a co parenting app, and inform him all contact arrangements will be through that in the future.

Can he legally block you? Can you force him legally to unblock you?

Of course he can block her