Babies dad has blocked me and he has her...help

[Supernova18]

Hello,
My ex partner has blocked me (again) after I said I wasn't happy about his girlfriend of a few months staying over when my child is there (with her baby too) and my partner going on holiday with her and her daughter. He has blocked me, he says until the new year. It is my daughters birthday early december, then they go away and then they want her for xmas.

Can anyone offer guidance? our co parenting it horrific and he will block and unblock, but being told he promises it will be until new year, is a long time with no direct contact. I have to go through my MIL

www.gov.uk/looking-after-children-divorce/if-you-agree
You don’t need to go to court if you can agree a plan. It’s better for everyone to have it all agreed. If you can’t agree then yes it would need to go to court.

As the agreement is informal, you don't have to facilitate any contact.

If you think your ex would take the same view, and basically hold on to the baby and not return her to you, then you need to go to court and get a custody and visitation agreement hammered out.

Get a solicitor and talk about how to get the process started. It doesn't matter how miserable or traumatising the divorces of his friends and relatives were. If you start the process of formalising the custody and contact he will be obliged to respond.

Part of your agreement should include an order to stop blocking you. There should also be a rock solid clause about dispute mediation and 50-50 sharing of costs of this mediation.

I would be very leery of trying to coparent with this man, and if I were you I would be insisting on eow and contact in a contact center, and no direct contact with you at hand over time. He is using the contact that a shared baby necessitates to fight with you. This is why he prefers an informal arrangement - he gets to be a complete dick every time the baby changes hands.

For your part, you need to let him live his stupid life and refrain from commenting on the revolving door and women in and out. Talk to a solicitor about the basis on which you can use his chaotic relationships and habit of blocking you as reasons to restrict his access to the baby. My guess is the blocking would be taken seriously as evidence that he is not fit to coparent.

How old is your baby? This is horrific.

The reason to take this to court is to give you the protection of the court order to fall back on if - more likely when - your ex decides to jerk you around.

He won't take the baby for the weekend? Leaves the baby with a girlfriend? Blocks you? Harasses you at handover? Won't return the baby at the specified time? Wants to unilaterally change the terms of the agreement?

...all dealt with by you filing a motion for contempt of court. You are going to have to teach this man manners.

Thank you everyone, I have contacted some solicitors today. My daughter has just turned 1 years old.

No one on here would be happy with their ex introducing their young child to 4 different women in 5 months. If you came on and said you'd done the same you'd have your arse handed to you

Unfortunately you can't do anything about what he does when he has the baby. It sounds like he's just trying to goad you though. Look up grey rock and do it whenever he tries to get a reaction out of you

You poor thing. She's way too young to be away from you regularly. Do you know where they will be? Can you get her safely?

Send yes , see a solicitor and get it all down in writing

Agreed

I'd be losing my mind if DD was away from me that regularly and she's 1

Thank you again. I will listen and action all of this. I hate to be away from my daughter, it is heartbreaking. I have to let go of the idea of someone else being mum, it is what it is and I know he just wants to punish me

I’m not sure of your story but there must be single parent advisory services that can help. Are you sharing parenting 50/50 ? If it was me and my child was that young I would be reluctant for him to have her over night particularly if new girlfriends keep appearing. That is confusing for your child. Could you work it that he has her during the day. I don’t think he gets to decide about Xmas either. You need to stand up to him. He sounds toxic.