Can men sense attraction

[girl71]

Just wanted to ask if attraction can be sensed? When two people are together and talking but not yet involved, is there an underlying something? I personally think it can .

How attuned actually are men to vibes from women? Women ( me) are generally intuitive but do men actually pick up how the woman feels when in early talking stages? Can men sense that a woman likes them. Is it that they do know and reciprocate in vibe kind and, that gives you the butterflies feeling and separates them from all other men in your mind .

You what now?

Most people know as our brains are programmed to pick up on body language which can be subtle or obvious.

Thankyou @Whatthejackdawsaw. 5 yrs divorced but this one feels different. I am so tentative/hesitant now.

I think some men can and others can't....

Some pick up on mutual attraction but on the toner hand I've had make friends who have had women making lives and have genuinely been oblivious. On the other extreme there are men who think they are gods gift and assume that everytime they are attracted to someone it MUST be mutual

Same as some females being more intuitive than others

Well. Idk I think mutual 'chemistry' is obvious.

I do too @melon.

Depends how astute the guy is really

Following with interest 🤣

Definitely....however men can often interpret something that's not there. Even a simple smile can be taken the wrong way.

Useless. Practically need tits shoved in my face to pick up anything.

Hmm, you'd think if you gave them the eye they'd get it.

But they don't always

@Notmyyearthisyear me too!

The tend to fall at either end of two extremes really. One lot think you fancy the pants off them if you so much as say 'good morning', and the other lot wouldn't notice a woman who fancies them if she beat him over the head with a placard saying 'I fancy you, you idiot'.

Fortunately there are some in between.

I genuinely feel that attraction is mutual. What i do not know is how men view attraction. I am unsure if i am only attracted to him because i feel he is attracted to me? This has come out of nowhere. I thought i was sending him vibes but maybe i am reacting to his? Literally out of nowhere i want him.

What does it matter which way round it is? You are overthinking this.

@blacksax so if i feel an attraction, a mutual attraction is there? This is what i am trying to understand.

Men are often a lot less interested in whether women are attracted to them than whether they are attracted to the woman. I doubt they bother with trying to 'sense' anything. They typically just make some sort of move on a woman they fancy and hope for the best.
This is the reason so many men try it on with women who wouldn't look twice at them.

This is me. Until he kissed me I had no clue if my current bf was interested in me and same for the guy before him.

I find it really hard to figure out if I'm genuinely attracted to someone or if I'm just picking up on their attraction to me. A sort of sexual hyper empathy I guess. On the plus side it's rare that I'm really into someone without it being reciprocated!

“so if i feel an attraction, a mutual attraction is there? This is what i am trying to understand.”

Not necessarily. But its easy to fall into the trap of seeing any signs of normal friendliness and reading more into that if you’re attracted to them. And vice versa.

It is normal to just "feel" attracted to someone for seemingly no reason. Yes, it can just come out of nowhere and doesn't necessarily mean you're picking up vibes off them either. It can also intensify and disappear depending on where you are in your monthly cycle (the whole reason attraction exists in the first place).

Massively confusing. Why i have stayed single and lived my best life all this while. So much easier without this men drama. Does he like me, is he he flirting.. is he giving me vibes, am giving him vibes? Yes i am giving him vibes. Cannot be arsed. Retreating back into my safe, Netflix drama watching, dear friends over on a Fri night pee up and dinner safe space.

What is it you're afraid of?

That's bollocks, but if it's what you want to believe then carry on.

Some men might pick up on it, a lot of men wouldn't have a clue. And I include myself in the latter category. I've never, ever picked up on a woman being attracted to me, until they've spelt it out. Maybe that comes from me just assuming that no one would do, but I expect a lot of blokes are equally as hopeless at picking up the signals.

@cheshirebloke Thank you

@DatingDinosaur being used.

That makes sense. Don’t forget though, nobody wants to be used and the only way to not be used is to take your time to work out whether any interest they show in YOU is just sexual flirting or lovebombing stuff.

That sort of behaviour you do pick up on subconsciously and if you’ve been hurt in the past like this you will be wary of it in the future. Sometimes cripplingly so (speaking from experience) and it takes a lot to trust your own judgement after that (I spent a long time berating myself "how could I have been so blind/stupid/gullible").

Someone interested in YOU (as a person) will be keen to spend time with you and get to know you and not be pushy for sex.

Someone interested in sex with you (and not you as a person) will be pushy and sexually flirty/innuendo/smut and even a bit coercive to get what he wants. It is perfectly acceptable to say no thanks and walk away if this isn’t what you want.
Even if you do fancy him.