Age gap

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How much of an age gap is too large? I say 10-15 years is no biggie but others think wildly inappropriate, thoughts?
and at what age is a large age gap ‘appropriate’?

I'm surprised 5 years is considered an age gap at all much beyond the early 20s.

For me it feels odd when one is old enough to be the others parent, not 5-10 years

I think in the 5-10 year range it's by no means a certainty that one party will be a carer for the other.

It’s by no means a certainty outside that range. There was a 12 year gap between my mother and father and a 18 year gap between my grandfather and grandmother. None of them needed a carer, despite living to their late 80s/early 90s.

I'm just waiting to be given my flying broomstick!

I think for a ltr, 7 years is the max.

Of course it's not. DH is older than me and much better and more interested in tech than me. It doesn't make a shit of difference to our relationship either, I know more about other things. We help eachother, is that not normal?

@JamSandle why?

I've always liked older men and had a boyfriend about 15 years older than me and another about 10 years older. I was in my 20s.

Anything much more than 15 years is stretching it!

Looks and lifestyles vary so much it’s impossible to say.

Im on OLD sites at the moment and the differences between some of the 50 year old men on there is staggering! I mean some of them may be lying, but there are real old looking, bald white haired wrinkly guys who talk like old men too, about pottering in their garden with their grandkids and enjoying a pub lunch on a Sunday.

And then there are those with a full head of brown hair, no kids, unmarried, doing all the sports and inviting you to go snowbombing with them.

So many of them have “undecided yet” to the kids question, like they have all the time in the world to decide whether to become a dad, which says they’re not looking for a woman of the same age.

I’m nearly 50 and haven’t ruled out men 10 years younger - one specifically has a real thing about the 80s, so at least all his cultural references match, even if he was too young to live it the first time around! Plenty of others a couple of years younger who have never married or had kids, so I need to work out how my life (my kids are all grown up teens now) fits in with theirs.

When I was in my mid 30s I dated a man twenty years older. I found him to be very set in his ways and not particularly inclined to try new things or step out of his comfort zone. He had his life and it was very much about me fitting in with it, rather than creating a new life together. Unsurprisingly, it didn’t work out.

DH is seven years younger than me. It works because he’s quite mature and we want the same things at the same stages.