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OnlyDivorce · 10/10/2022 05:58

Found husband has subscribed to OnlyFans... just wanting to know how I go about seeing if he's paid or paying for anything?
Account looks blank and empty of any subscriptions! I'm wondering if he signed up to have a look at what's on there but changed his mind or can you delete stuff.
I've changed the password so he may figure out that I've located it.

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C1N1C · 10/10/2022 06:28

I've never been on onlyfans but from what I gather it's like any porn site, but there's more of a paid interaction with the 'performers'?

I think it's just a curiosity if he doesn't have any subscriptions? For me, (bad example), it's like any hobby... it's only serious if you're paying for it! So at the moment, just a guy watching porn. Some women accept it as normal, others think it's disgusting... I guess this is all about what your tolerance is. At the moment though all you have is effectively an Internet search history. That's all your evidence.

If you'd found a link to pornhub or something, what would you be feeling?

Smileeriley · 10/10/2022 07:43

I disagree with pp, this is not normal online porn, it comes with difficult intent and I'd go fucking nuclear.

Smileeriley · 10/10/2022 07:44

Different intentions.

bonzaitree · 10/10/2022 07:46

How do you know that's his only bank account?

Have you discussed what your boundaries are when it comes to cheating / sex work etc. for some couples this would be a non issue. For others it would be the end of the relationship. It just depends on what you have both discussed and agreed.

pinkpanel · 10/10/2022 07:46

I agree with @Smileeriley

I don't believe anyone who pays for it uses it as mainstream porn. There's more or less unlimited mainstream porn you can easily access free. People don't pay for something they can so easily get free.

Therefore, if someone os paying for porn it's either because it's extreme/niche or for the one on one interaction

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OnlyDivorce · 10/10/2022 08:44

I just need to know if you can access info and interact on there for free or if you pay for it all

It looks like the account was set up but there's no likes, or subscription or info on there. It's just blank.

If he has used it for porn and interacting with people then it's over 100%.
That would be like me joining tinder and getting dick pics.

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Dyawannafeelhowitfeels · 10/10/2022 08:50

OnlyDivorce · 10/10/2022 08:44

I just need to know if you can access info and interact on there for free or if you pay for it all

It looks like the account was set up but there's no likes, or subscription or info on there. It's just blank.

If he has used it for porn and interacting with people then it's over 100%.
That would be like me joining tinder and getting dick pics.

you can only “view” people you’ve subscribed (eg paid a monthly fee) to. I don’t think you can view anything as all behind paywall. I’m really not sure if you can delete stuff though

hellosunshineagainxxx · 10/10/2022 08:52

Im in my 30s and a few of my male and female friend subscribe because they feel its more ethical than mainstream porn as they know the people aren't being exploited. Subscriptions can run out after a month if you have that option on the sub, so he could have had them but then need them hence it not showing anymore. Also some onlyfans offer free subscriptions with then paid access to the more nude stuff so could also have been that. It will show as of on bank statements

Dyawannafeelhowitfeels · 10/10/2022 08:52

Dyawannafeelhowitfeels · 10/10/2022 08:50

you can only “view” people you’ve subscribed (eg paid a monthly fee) to. I don’t think you can view anything as all behind paywall. I’m really not sure if you can delete stuff though

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Oops sorry OP, I’ve just read there’s free performers who upload content without subscription/charge

hellosunshineagainxxx · 10/10/2022 08:52

Could have had them but then not renewed*

Watchkeys · 10/10/2022 08:56

just wanting to know how I go about seeing if he's paid or paying for anything

You ask him. If you don't trust his answer, or it's the answer you don't want, it's over.

I'd suggest it's over anyway; what kind of relationship are you having if you don't trust him?

YellowTreeHouse · 10/10/2022 08:58

There’s lots of free porn you can access on OnlyFans. You can also subscribe to some pornstars for free.

So no, having an account there doesn’t mean he’s paid for anything and even if he was subscribed he might not have paid.

I have an account, I’m subscribed to lots of free ones and just look at their “enticements” but I never pay for anything.

BrimFullOfAsher · 10/10/2022 09:01

Even if he'd jad previous subs that expired it would still be on there with the option of renewing again showing.

Also, there would likely be messages in the inbox as there is generally at least the automatic message sent from the person when you subscribe.

It's VERY possible to pay to subscribe but bit actually interact. As PP said, it's a way of accessing porn and making sure the performer actually gets paid.

baileys6904 · 10/10/2022 09:02

Ffs the first initial posts are juts drama filled content just to get a reaction that fits their narrative. At least @hellosunshineagainxxx has given a more balanced ( and accurate! Answer)

And only fans is not just porn. It's content that is viewable via a subscription. Yes that could be porn. It could also be a celebrity showing more of their life and in fact, that's more how it was marketed initially.

OP ask your husband but like a pp, if you checking this far, the trust is not there in the relationship and is probably not worth the energy.

For me, not something I'd be bothered about but then again I'm very happy in my relationship. However it's a very individual thing and only you can decide

WhatAPoolava · 10/10/2022 09:05

I’m on onlyfans, but I’m on onlyfans for the cooking and parenting vlogs, not the porn.

could be innocent, could not be. I don’t personally understand why people would pay to watch porn when you can watch it for free on the hub anyway.

Andypandy799 · 10/10/2022 09:25

@OnlyDivorce How did you find out he was on OnlyFans were you snooping?

totallyoutnumbered · 10/10/2022 09:29

Can't you just ask him? If the answer is no then you have your answer in my opinion. I couldn't live like that ever again

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OnlyDivorce · 10/10/2022 09:43

I was setting something up and saw it in the inbox. Logged in and changed the password so will see if it is used.
Men lie. I don't feel guilty for checking my husband isn't accessing filth.

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Shiningstarr · 10/10/2022 10:06

OnlyDivorce · 10/10/2022 09:43

I was setting something up and saw it in the inbox. Logged in and changed the password so will see if it is used.
Men lie. I don't feel guilty for checking my husband isn't accessing filth.

Everybody lies, not just men.

Andypandy799 · 10/10/2022 10:23

Well I would just ask him what he was using it for

tiddlywinks2 · 10/10/2022 10:49

OnlyDivorce · 10/10/2022 08:44

I just need to know if you can access info and interact on there for free or if you pay for it all

It looks like the account was set up but there's no likes, or subscription or info on there. It's just blank.

If he has used it for porn and interacting with people then it's over 100%.
That would be like me joining tinder and getting dick pics.

Nothing is free on OF. He will be paying for it.

I would be furious, it's not just porn, it goes a lot further than that.

YellowTreeHouse · 10/10/2022 10:58

@tiddlywinks2 Yes it is. Why are you lying? There are free and paid subscriptions.

I have an account and I subscribe to lots of free accounts that post enticements. I don’t pay for anything but see a lot of good content.

tiddlywinks2 · 10/10/2022 11:16

@YellowTreeHouse apologies, I googled the business and took my information from there. It says it's for content creation and it's a paid for service.

BeckyGoLightly · 10/10/2022 11:20

OnlyFan prostitutes often go live on TikTok where you can message them directly live. They are also on Twitter, Reddit, Instagram and SnapChat to name a few platforms. For the prostitute, it's work and exposure. Sometimes these prostitutes drop offers like heavy discounts, free contents and previews. You don't have to pay to interact or view some things but the more you pay the more your prostitute will pay you attention. I think you can pay using Gift cards or as a pp said, he could easily open a bank account for his smut.

Men are very conning when they want something.

YellowTreeHouse · 10/10/2022 11:35

tiddlywinks2 · 10/10/2022 11:16

@YellowTreeHouse apologies, I googled the business and took my information from there. It says it's for content creation and it's a paid for service.

“It” can “say” whatever “it” wants.

OnlyFans is a service that allows content creators to create free or paid pages, or both.

You can have an account there and never pay for anything, like me, and you never have to interact with anyone either. I’ve seen lots of good stuff and never paid or spoke with any of the creators.

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