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OnlyDivorce · 10/10/2022 05:58

Found husband has subscribed to OnlyFans... just wanting to know how I go about seeing if he's paid or paying for anything?
Account looks blank and empty of any subscriptions! I'm wondering if he signed up to have a look at what's on there but changed his mind or can you delete stuff.
I've changed the password so he may figure out that I've located it.

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Watchkeys · 10/10/2022 11:39

OnlyDivorce · 10/10/2022 09:43

I was setting something up and saw it in the inbox. Logged in and changed the password so will see if it is used.
Men lie. I don't feel guilty for checking my husband isn't accessing filth.

It's not a matter of feeling guilty, it's a matter of you being in a trusting relationship. Your assertion that 'men lie' is worrying; does it follow, for you, that because your husband is a man, he's likely a liar?

That's you not being in a healthy place, whether he's betraying you or not.

People lie, but not all people. Some people 'access filth', some don't. If you don't like the idea of your partner 'accessing filth', and you think he might be, and would lie to you to cover it up, your relationship is in a mess worse than him watching porn. If you can't believe what he tells you, you can't believe the vows he made to you.

Not all men lie, just like 'not all women gossip'. The historical stereotypes aren't true for everybody, or even for most. You don't have to assume that lying is a likely part of your marriage, due to your partner being a man.

Andypandy799 · 10/10/2022 11:50

YellowTreeHouse · 10/10/2022 11:35

“It” can “say” whatever “it” wants.

OnlyFans is a service that allows content creators to create free or paid pages, or both.

You can have an account there and never pay for anything, like me, and you never have to interact with anyone either. I’ve seen lots of good stuff and never paid or spoke with any of the creators.

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God she’s admitted the mistake. Stop gaslighting

Andypandy799 · 10/10/2022 11:51

Watchkeys · 10/10/2022 11:39

It's not a matter of feeling guilty, it's a matter of you being in a trusting relationship. Your assertion that 'men lie' is worrying; does it follow, for you, that because your husband is a man, he's likely a liar?

That's you not being in a healthy place, whether he's betraying you or not.

People lie, but not all people. Some people 'access filth', some don't. If you don't like the idea of your partner 'accessing filth', and you think he might be, and would lie to you to cover it up, your relationship is in a mess worse than him watching porn. If you can't believe what he tells you, you can't believe the vows he made to you.

Not all men lie, just like 'not all women gossip'. The historical stereotypes aren't true for everybody, or even for most. You don't have to assume that lying is a likely part of your marriage, due to your partner being a man.

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Well said

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OnlyDivorce · 10/10/2022 12:20

I didn't ask about whether you agree men lie with all due respect, I asked if you could access free content or what it looks like to have an account.
I'll soon see if he logs on again as he'll reset his password.

He has tiktok. Probably sits watching shit on that all day as well.
I just find the whole thing so grubby.

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tiddlywinks2 · 10/10/2022 12:25

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Watchkeys · 10/10/2022 12:34

I didn't ask about whether you agree men lie with all due respect, I asked if you could access free content or what it looks like to have an account

Fair point. We're all at liberty to stay in shitty relationships, I s'pose. Have a good day.

YellowTreeHouse · 10/10/2022 12:36

@tiddlywinks2 Again, irrelevant. I have an account and I don’t pay for anything. There are free and paid subscriptions.

You can read as much rubbish as you want but unless you actually use the site you don’t have a clue.

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BeckyGoLightly · 10/10/2022 12:48

@Shiningstarr OP is obviously posting upset and didn't even say anything bad to you. Being told your comment is not what she wanted to know doesn't warrant such a nasty reply. That was below the belt. I guess you must be having a bad day, too.

Shiningstarr · 10/10/2022 12:57

BeckyGoLightly · 10/10/2022 12:48

@Shiningstarr OP is obviously posting upset and didn't even say anything bad to you. Being told your comment is not what she wanted to know doesn't warrant such a nasty reply. That was below the belt. I guess you must be having a bad day, too.

I replied to her 'men lie' by saying everyone lies, not just men. But she said she wasn't asking that, only info about onlyfans.

I'm having a good day thanks.

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OnlyDivorce · 10/10/2022 13:02

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Ha. Cheers. Obviously it's my fault for not being lovely enough.

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Andypandy799 · 10/10/2022 13:34

@OnlyDivorce your only option is to ask him, you don’t need to see if he try’s to re-access and reset his password

Andypandy799 · 10/10/2022 13:35

@OnlyDivorce also I do feel for you to be in this situation, it’s not right and I would be pissed off

Watchkeys · 10/10/2022 13:45

Andypandy799 · 10/10/2022 13:34

@OnlyDivorce your only option is to ask him, you don’t need to see if he try’s to re-access and reset his password

Nah, there's loads of options. Not healthy ones, but that's up to OP. She's made it clear she doesn't want any advice on the relationship.

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OnlyDivorce · 10/10/2022 13:47

Andypandy799 · 10/10/2022 13:35

@OnlyDivorce also I do feel for you to be in this situation, it’s not right and I would be pissed off

Thanks. I feel so disrespected. Here I am raising small children and tired and running around all day and what is my husband doing..just making onlyfans accounts.
Oh to have the time to sit tiktoking and searching for content we all know onlyfans is really made for.

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Watchkeys · 10/10/2022 13:55

Do you still do stuff for him? Cook his dinners? Wash his socks? If so, why? Why not lighten your load? His load is light because he has chosen for it to be light. You need to make choices for yourself too.

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Yeah of course, must be the woman's fault if he's doing something shitty. What misogynistic BS.

Andypandy799 · 10/10/2022 14:28

Your feelings are valid and he is a shot for doing this to you whilst you raise your children which is exhausting. He better have a good excuse

Andypandy799 · 10/10/2022 14:28

He is a shit

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OnlyDivorce · 10/10/2022 22:48

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Yes when I think of onlyfans I automatically think diy videos.

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Hawkins001 · 10/10/2022 22:54

@OnlyDivorce
He could use it during the day when it's e.g. A quiet hour ect

Dotcheck · 10/10/2022 22:58

hellosunshineagainxxx · 10/10/2022 08:52

Im in my 30s and a few of my male and female friend subscribe because they feel its more ethical than mainstream porn as they know the people aren't being exploited. Subscriptions can run out after a month if you have that option on the sub, so he could have had them but then need them hence it not showing anymore. Also some onlyfans offer free subscriptions with then paid access to the more nude stuff so could also have been that. It will show as of on bank statements

‘Ethical’

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OnlyDivorce · 10/10/2022 23:06

I don't get a quiet hour to look at other people's dicks so I'm not delighted if that's his new hobby.

It's obviously to escape me (which is good to know) and next time he isn't 'lovely' I'll download it as well and check out a few guys on there.

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OnlyDivorce · 10/10/2022 23:07

Hawkins001 · 10/10/2022 22:54

@OnlyDivorce
He could use it during the day when it's e.g. A quiet hour ect

While he's at work?

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