Dating thread 234 ... spooky times ahead

[BelladiMamma]

New thread!

Could someone else please copy and paste the rules ...?

@NoDatingForOldMen no, not last night. Did again today but was pretty much same

So here the thing, most men don’t get to see other erect penis close up & we are not provided with a measuring stick, you just have what you have,.
so when someone who has probably seen more erect penis than me makes a comment she is either lying to make me feel better or is telling the truth,
so I opt on the side that makes me feel better…

NoDatingForOldMen

ah I’m sorry , it madE me giggle

but I didn’t want to make you feel bad at all
this is a safe friendly space
so sorry

@Thisisworsethananticpated don’t worry about it 😂😂, I’m sure you say the same….

@Slothmomma oh dear, are you talking around a couple of minutes?

round 2 with a condom should be okay ( I would have thought)

@NoDatingForOldMen yeah not very experience foreplay wise and piv was just a couple of mins

Slothmomma

ah . Can you imagine being comfortable enough with him to slow things down , coach him

and do you feel the chemistry to do that ?

Oh dear, how old is he ?, could it just be an over excitement thing

@NoDatingForOldMen he's 44 and active so think it was over excitement

@Thisisworsethananticpated yeah I think I'd be ok in coaching him to improve the experience

Oh poo @Slothmomma that's an interesting update. Sorry it wasn't all swinging from the chandeliers (whatever that means).

It is all triage data gathering imho and needs to be tested and not always a good outcome. It was the same with my recent iron when we did first sleepover then second sleepover and after the third sleepover we gave each other a big old fade (well he did but I wasn't that bothered by that time)

It is what it is (a bit disappointing) and probs doesn't warrant an instant binning. Worth another sleepover?
Has Medic been in touch in raptures about how amazing his night with you was?

Im still (ridiculously) cringing at all this condom talk. I need to work through whatever stupid stupid issues I've got.

Tried to tel myself I would take loads more dates before boudoir trials next time but then don't want to invest time in someone I'm not compatible with between the sheets.

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss

why cringe ? Everyone has their thing
we are all learning in this late life sex renaissance

I’m also a shag em fast
always have been and can’t envisage that changing
I like that now I’m older , I’m not slut shamed for it !
which is grim but cest la vie …

Slothmomma

its cool you think that
and I think slowing down sounds like a good idea

he might have been single for a while , watching (god my hate grows for it ) pornhub a lot

and if it doesn’t work , you’ll be fine either way

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss yes he's already been in touch saying how much he enjoyed our time together

@Thisisworsethananticpated I think he has been single a while and had said he's a little out of practice

@Thisisworsethananticpated It was a meet from Feeld, planned so if the social went well I'd go back to his...he's a very fit 35yr old😍

I have been emotionally unavailable in the past but with counselling I feel more emotionally available....but I'm very good at having sex with no emotion which is great when I'm looking on Feeld for an FWB (I'm also on Bumble for a relationship)

I hope very young man doesn't bail....most who have a MILF fantasy actually just want the fantasy of it and not the reality.
Is it tomorrow you should be seeing him?

@Slothmomma Sorry to hear about the not so great sex....

Personally I like to get them in bed early to check sexual compatability as that is hugely important for me.
I know some allow a few more chances to check for this but if the first time is mediocre I'm not returning😱😂

@Slothmomma Sorry forgot to ask what the niggle is......is it worth a wait and see approach?

@SortingItOut I don't know what my niggle is so definitely waiting to see and not act hastily

SortingItOut

i kind of want him to bail !
im so 😴 and can’t be arsed to cougar up
ive overdone the exercise this week

my bet is he will claim covid as said this morning he felt iffy

anyway great Feeld is yielding fruit 🍎

@Slothmomma that certainly sounds like he was a bit too keen, I have sometimes found the the first few times with a new partner can be tricky as things don’t always “click” first time and a few “goes” are needed, have also found as as an older man sometimes you have to take your time

This makes perfect sense to me, and is a very healthy way to take compliments!

Im still (ridiculously) cringing at all this condom talk. I need to work through whatever stupid stupid issues I've got.

why ?

I don't know @NoDatingForOldMen I just can't imagine how or when they'd be introduced or insisted upon. It feels so awkward.

I may not be in a situation to need them for yonks as coming off the apps for winter.

In terms of comdoms I just say when things are getting hot and heavy "I've got some comdoms" and they either say great and I get them out or they say they have their own. Last guy just pulled his out and put it on with no need to say anything- very cool.

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss that’s fascinating, as ms no show had told me she had been through menopause so was no chance of pregnancy & she was a bit surprised (and I think very slight bemused) when we dtd for the 1st time and I put one on.