Husband following women on Facebook

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We had a conversation about instagram models earlier on this year
out of curiosity I typed into Facebook his name and clicked on photos to see what he was looking at based on something I read on here
low and behold amongst normal stuff , loads of onlyfans style pictures of women
they aren’t friends it’s more pages I think but following
the likes and images don’t pop up on my newsfeed I really hope they don’t pop up on other peoples 😞

I can’t really bring it up right now, but a lot of the likes are recent id have to bring it up at the right time , I’m just trying to unpack this
in his mind I don’t think he gets it
sorry to offload

Bump xx

He gets it, he just doesn't care. He just another pathetic perv who disrespects his wife. Gross. Get rid.

Thanks for your response

it eats away at you it’s horrible

This. I'm amazed at how many men do this. Its so sleazy.

You don't have to live like this, op.

I think it’s the embarrassment of I was snooping and found this etc that would e awkward for me

I need to overcome it

Could you say the photos he likes come have up on your Facebook homepage/page suggestion section?
If he's liking public pages/photos/groups, rather than those set to private, then anyone on Facebook can see he's liked them without snooping.

Maybe it’s a possibility

although he may wonder why it’s taken 2 years

Has anyone else had this situation and how was it dealt with?

I think this is annoyingly Very common. I went through the same experience except it was on Instagram and I found my boyfriend had been liking pictures of other girls although they weren’t only fans.. in a way it’s almost worse because he knows them. But anyway, I was thinking of how to bring it up and he noticed I was being “off” and quiet. So I simply just said “I noticed you have been liking other girls pics on Instagram and I feel like it’s really disrespectful because I’m your girlfriend and if others see that and those girls themselves knowing about me, it makes me look stupid” and he promised he wouldn’t do it again. He didn’t even think to ask how I would have found this out (which was by deep diving into females he follows of course 😂 ). But we all do it and i guarantee he will be more embarrassed about what he is doing than you will be about your detective skills

It was me who gave the facebook tip, sorry it's caused you pain but I think it is so grim and men should be confronted by it.

What I do is then click on the woman's profile and see what other stuff he's liked, what comments they've written. It's a good test for husbands/partners or people you date to see what kind of man they are.

What bit of Facebook do you start at? Ie how do you know which profiles to look on?

@stickynoter

You search for the persons name, but instead of clicking their profile you leave it on the results page (where all the people with that name are listed).
Then click 'photos' from the options along the top.
Then 'see all from friends' and you can see what they have liked.. if you sort by date posted it shows you even more.

It only shows public photos but you can see enough from this.

Not at all @CookPassBabtridge it’s better to be armed by knowledge I suppose even if it is gutting

the thing is @Marmitelover93 we have had that very conversation before 😞

I’ve not had the conversation yet it will probably be soon , it’s like having a brick in my stomach,

a lot to unpack in my mind

I've had issues with my husband doing this regularly. On Instagram especially. It's so disrespectful

@Mrstiggywinkle44 how did you deal with it if you don’t mind me asking?

It's not happened for a while since I had a serious go at him but I find it difficult to cope with. It's very disrespectful. What I did do once is I added a load of male model profiles to mine and started liking them all, and shared photos on my fb of hot men like Henry cavill and Ian somerhalder lol to get my own back. Sounds stupid but it made me feel better. They just don't seem to get it how much it can hurt x

THIS I've said the same. X

That's pretty scary! Wonder how many arguments this will cause!!!!

I would take the piss out of him OP.

Yes it's totally sleazy but it's also incredibly just sad.

I would go full sarcastic cow. "Ooo look at you with your little likes to all the onlyfan ladies. Oh do you want them to like your pictures back? Will your little willy feel important if it gets a little like back from barbie87?. I bet they just sit at home all sad and alone waiting for little fuckers like you to gaze at their, clearly unfiltered not doing it for hits and ad revenue photos, and when they see you click the like button their hearts and fannies do little flutters, all the way to the bank most likely."

You get the idea.

Well, never one to shy away from an argument that benefits no one I thought I'd have a look.
I'm impressed by my other half's loyalty on the likes to be fair, doesn't mean he's not appreciated things he's seen but hadn't felt the need to tell anyone

Well that’s it I’m actually not bothered about private porn watching, we’ve done it together before it’s the public ness of it all ,very disrespectful to me plus it’s ramped up after I had my toddler it seems

all very sad 😞

also I had this conversation about instagram very recently but has obviously just decided to carry on

im glad your search wasn’t too bad

He's basically using Instagram as his private wank bank, and doesn't care about your feelings regarding it because it makes him feel good.

Yes me. I called him out on it. Said I didn't want to be with a pervy little creep, then packed his bags.