Would you date a heavy drinker?

[AllIdoiswork]

Just that really. Drink plays a very important part in this guy's life both socially and at home. He always has a drink on the go and when I go to his house there is always a glass of cider on the side! Any social event involves drinking and I noticed that he takes cans of cider to work (manual profession). His hands shake although he says that's because of something else! I think its the drink. I am not a big drinker myself but it bothers me. Thoughts?

Grim.

Nope I love a drink and I wouldn't like to date someone who was tee total, however your new bloke sounds like it's gone way too far ... taking drink to work!!

He's not a 'heavy drinker' He's an alcoholic.

Raise your bar and end it now. You're in for nothing but misery if you don't!

God no. Drinking at work makes him more an alcoholic than a heavey drinker. Run as fast as you can. You'll be in for a life of utter misery with someone who relies on drink so much.

Nope
Any sniff of this in any future relationships for me and I'm gone
After having an alcoholic mother and stbxh, no chance

No. I would say I’m a heavy drinker (will have lots of wine on a Saturday, and will pretty much always drink when going out for a meal / seeing friends). Me and DH will often have wine at home with the Sunday roast, but the big red flags from what you have described are:

• always having a drink on the go
• taking drinks to work
• the shakes

This suggest a reliance on alcohol to get through the day and for me would cross a line.

No.
He sounds alcohol dependant, which will end in your tears.

I think that too! Everything seems to revolve around drink tbh! I think it would start to get me down.

Raise the bar. He's an alcoholic. I can't understand why you're even questioning this.

I'm sorry but no. Two past relationships with alcoholics (have no idea why I didn't learn from the first one). They both ended badly. Please don't put yourself through this. Good luck x

No, I wouldn't date an alcoholic, which this guy is.

No I wouldn't, he has a drink problem!
How would he manage a relationship when he can't cope with life without drinking through the day. His health will be if not already be suffering.

Nah. That's not a heavy drinker, he takes booze to work ffs. You'd be mad to get involved.

On a wider note, I would date someone who liked going out and getting drunk, liked having a party now and again but not someone who drank several times a week and sat sinking can after can at home.

So, occasional binge drinkers please line up here. 😂

The shaking is not due to something else.
Taking cans of cider to work is awful.

He is far more than a heavy drinker. Taking drinks to work is 😳.

Drink will always come first, not you and all plans will revolve around it. Not a life I’d want

No. He's an alcoholic basically @AllIdoiswork , or stands a strong chance of becoming one. Not good partner/husband material.

No, that’s beyond being a heavy drinker. I like a drink, not unusual to overdo it on a weekend and maybe have a drink of an evening after work, which I’ve cut right back on.
His sounds like addiction which is a horrible thing to live with.
I wouldn’t want to play second fiddle to any substance in my relationship, so it’s a no from me.

No way

Good Lord no

Nope. Nothing attractive there.

No. I've seen alcoholism close up and don't want to be near it again.

People whose lives revolve around drink also tend to be pretty boring, even if they're "high functioning".

Hell no. A thousand times no

My friend is marrying a raging alcoholic next month and is in complete denial about it. It's like watching a slow car crash. I drink but this is somebody who can't get out of the door in the morning without something and is at the pub at 11 am at the weekends. I would run a mile personally.

Absolutely not!!! Your life will be hell

I think he is a functioning alcoholic tbh. I like to drink socially and at a party but not like that! There are enough bottles and cans in his recycling bin for the whole street!