Ridiculous rant

[SusieKew]

My boyfriend hates it when I yawn mid convo, he expressed this to me months ago. I didn’t think it was that rude because he knows me and knows my intentions are pure but it happened tonight and he’s had a go at me but tbh I just feel like he’s given me the biggest Ick. It’s just yawning, I’m really not seeing the big deal. I’ve been away on business for the past few days. I got back this evening and the first thing I did was join our therapy session. I am tired and he knows this. While we were chatting once the session had ended we were both yawning (something I don’t care about when does it), but the last time I yawned in the convo he lost it and made all of these sarcastic comments which made me withdrawn from the rest of the convo. I find his whining about my yawning so unattractive. Am I being unreasonable? It annoys me that he doesn’t it as me choosing to talk to him over my tiredness!

Bin him.

Life really is too short for this crap!

Fuck that. Therapy after a year? Get out of that relationship.

You should be walking on air at this point of the relationship, not in therapy!
He's not the one for you.

Throw this one back, OP.

Couples therapy is for people who want to salvage a relationship they spent years building and establishing and investing in.

You’re investing time trying to salvage a relationship when you’ve not even built the foundations yet.

And you don’t have the building blocks yet because the two of you are fundamentally incompatible.

No wonder it feels like bloody hard work.

Run!! If he’s this controlling and quite frankly odd after a year then wait until he’s got you trapped into a marriage.

I hope you're not paying a penny piece towards the therapy. I can't imagine you're getting it on the NHS, so it must be self-funded.

why are you allowing yourself to get swept along with it, it's madness!

Cant you just tell him to FO, you've got better things to do with your life than sit on a zoom therapy call bored stupid.

He sounds so weird! I don’t understand ths yawning thing but maybe he was told not to yawn mid convo when he was younger…

Jumping to therapy just so he can have a professional say that he’s right and you’re wrong is so strange. I have no clue how you agreed to that in the first place? It sounds like too much effort

This relationship is going nowhere. End it.

The yawning thing is a red herring, you don't need to resolve it because if you were in a relationship with a decent, reasonable person then this simply wouldn't be an issue. Stop trying to negotiate here, you will never be happy in this relationship and you don't owe him your compliance with his expectations.

OP - read your posts back. Your BF isn’t right for you. He complains when you yawn, he’s got you both in therapy because he says you complain too much and he doesn’t want to hear anything negative (but is happy to dump negativity on you) and he doesn’t want to see you while you’re in therapy. It’s all so weird. Why are you fighting to stay with this guy? It sounds utterly joyless.

After just one year this is too much. He’s too much.

I don't see the relationship going anywhere but how often are you actually yawning for this to cause such huge issues anyway? Could there be something underlying causing you to be too tired? Have you had your thyroid checked lately?

Op he sounds very high maintenance, and like a bit of a control freak. This is only a year in, is it really making you happy? Does he meet your needs?

I wouldn't entertain this nonsense. Bin him and have some fun.

What are you getting out of this relationship OP?

I wouldn't be in therapy trying to salvage a 1 year relationship, if it's bad enough for therapy after only a year I'd be getting out.

In your next therapy session how about you bring up his complaint about you yawning.

Good qualities or not he sounds too much like hard work.

I've had many conversations with DH and other people and even if I feel tired, I rarely yawn mid conversation. I simply don't need to or feel the urge. I certainly dont have to suppress it. I would say either you are chronically sleep deprived, in which case improve your sleep regime, or something medical is going on. The yawning must be very frequent to have actually become a bone of contention and maybe someone yarning at you has given him a significant ick?

So he’s forced you in to therapy sessions because you complain too much to him but it’s okay for him to get annoyed with you over a completely natural and uncontrollable body response? This is totally unreasonable and bordering on controlling. You need to get rid.

Your therapist must be laughing their socks off… either that, live in a massive house and desperate to earn the money to heat it!

a year is barely even on the radar as far as relationships go. You literally don’t know each other.

he however is showing you who he is. Intolerant, critical and controlling

he’s trying to make you fit into what he wants you to be, and none of it is in your best interests

you’ve only started out in this relationship and it’s not working. Sure there are some bits that are pleasant, but he’s being very clear about how he sees the future and that’s looking miserable. Don’t fuck your life up for a single day longer. Don’t fall for the bullshit sunken cost fallacy. End this relationship today.

then you can - justifiably- yawn when you’re knackered from travelling

this man is not for you. You will find better, you will feel a lot better without him.

I'm sorry, what?

Do you realise this is insane? I mean, flat-out barking? You're in couples therapy with a boyfriend of a year? And he doesn't think you should see each other while you're having it? And you can never be the least bit negative, or yawn?

This relationship is not remotely working, and it never will.

I hope it's him alone paying for the therapy and not you because you're wasting your money if you are.

He's got an unrealistic view of how life works.

Omg please run away now ! So many red flags others have already expressed !!

Do you have self esteem issues? Please do not allow this man to diminish you. Leave him, he’s abusive.

You do know he is bonkers right? Sounds like he needs therapy for his own issues and shouldn't be anywhere near a relationship.

Don't bother logging onto zoom. Bin him, live a real life.

You're having the wrong therapy. What you need is your own therapy to work on your self esteem. As in, why you stay with such an absolute bell end