Hi everyone,
I'll try keep it as short as possible. I got pregnant after daring someone for 3 months. The pill and morning after pill weren't enough to prevent pregnancy and so my angel boy is now here.
The father had become very depressed during my pregnancy and became more and more emotionally and verbally abusive. He always had anger issues but they went extreme. I didn't see him at all the last 2 months of my pregnancy and barely heard from him. He didn't care.
He says he cares for his son, yet He has also become verbally very agressive whilst me holding his newborn son. Something I do NOT want my baby to grow up with/around.
ATM theres no contact between father and baby because it became unsafe and abusive.
I hope in the future they can have a relationship though.
Now, the next issue. He has also let us down financially and never helped with rent for the new place we got together to raise the baby in. I've paid the deposit, 6 months upfront and another 3 months but the landlord now wants to evict because I cannot pay another 6 upfront because the father never financially helped. So I'm in a very sticky situation housing wise.
So that leaves me with hard choices. One choice being moving back home to Holland (from London). There I'd be guaranteed a home, I'd have my family, my friends and their kids, a safe environment, good care systems and schools etc. Plus I would be able to brearhe again and find my happiness back. I wouldnt have to rush back into work and leave my 3 month old at nursery.
So theres a lot of plus points. Except one... which is obviously moving my son away from the father.... I'd be happy to facilitate travel Cost etc.
But what do I do? Stay here? Struggle, be lonely, have min support, end up in baby and mum unit etc etc. Or go back home and have everything I need to be a good mum.