Attending funeral

[Frankie81a]

BIL had died funeral is at 10am I live 160 miles away and have to drive on two notorious traffic motorways M1 M25 It is not really feasible to have to leave about 5 am on the morning to get there which then means travelling the day before.
After the funeral there is the wake which if having a few drinks means another stop over.
Would it be awful if I did not go and watched the video link instead I do not want to let my sister down. But feel two days out for a funeral and my other half having to take time off work is making me have doubts about going. All the rest of the family live local to the funeral. Feel a bit miffed that it was booked so early in the morning knowing I was the only one needing to make the long journey. What would you do ??

I didn't go to my BIL's funeral because I was 400 miles away and I was 8 months pregnant and on bed rest. I was fucking gutted but I really couldn't go.

Your excuses are fucking pathetic. It's 160 miles. So something like Nottingham to Guildford? Leave at 5am. Get a cheap hotel (somewhere most of the way there if it's too expensive near the venue).

Do you have a very narrow life where you never leave your own town or something? I've done 160 miles as a twice a week commute before. I am honestly baffled by this reluctance to do it as a one off.

She probably didn't have that much choice of dates and times btw. I assume you've never organised a funeral?

She probably didn't have that much choice of dates and times btw. I assume you've never organised a funeral?

Yep you don't necessarily get loads of choice!

I reckon this OP is a wind up.

Do you like your sister? If so then go. If you never want to speak to her again then don’t go because that’s the sort of fall out I’d expect for not attending BIL or SIL funeral