CF Acquaintance turned up today despite refusing invite

[Grumpusaurus]

We live in a popular tourist destination and after numerous people took advantage of us, we nip it in the bud now. Most seem to follow the same script by contacting us out of the blue and mentioning that it would be so lovely to see us. I now answer in a very friendly manner that it has been years since we last heard from them and it would indeed be lovely to catch up over coffee in a nearby spot when they are in the area. This does tend to put an end to most of those potential CFs, however, one acquaintance pushed back and asked to stay with us at the beginning of September. I told her that this would not be possible, especially as we have a very tight deadline and will be working flat out to finish a commission. DH and I are self-employed craftspeople and sometimes we do work all day and most of the night to finish pieces and the DC stay at their grandparents during that last push. Not heard back from the acquaintance since July even though she clearly read my WhatsApp message.

The doorbell went this evening, I ignored it as DH and I were in the middle of working on our commission but someone kept pushing the bell. Our property is an L-shape so you can see from our workshop who is at the front door. CF acquaintance was standing there with a suitcase! DH is more of a people pleaser and while really cheesed off was about to answer the door till I told him no bloody way! He redeemed himself by immediately agreeing. The bell went a few more times and then got a flurry of WhatsApp messages, which I ignored. She eventually left after half an hour. I am almost bemused by the cheek of it but there is no way I am going to let anyone railroad me into being their free accommodation and greatly inconveniencing us, especially while we literally get up to work all hours and fall into bed. DH is fretting about her coming back but I told that we will just continue to ignore the doorbell. We have a back gate to a dirt track we can stealth like leave the property if she is holding a siege at the front door 😎 There are plenty of hotels and B&Bs in the area, albeit quite dear. Who does that! A rhetorical question but am just shocked by the cheek of just turning up after saying emphatically No!

It was just after 8pm when she sent the first message while at the door. So not all that late.

I'd be worried about leaving a lone woman stranded on my doorstep at 10 oc'clock at night.

What 'stranded' with her car parked at the end of the drive.

I'd be worried about leaving a lone woman stranded on my doorstep at 10 oc'clock at night.

What 'stranded' with her car parked at the end of the drive.

I read @Zilla1 's contribution as rather funny satire, otherwise they would be totally bonkers 😁

We are finished! Tomorrow, the people from the specialist haulage company will come to pick it up. They will sign for it and from then on are responsible for packaging and moving it.

Not heard from CF. At least not directly… A dear friend messaged me a little while ago. She is one of the kindest souls but a bit dippy and was the one who gave CF my address, thinking that we were close friends too. She asked me if we were away at the moment. We chat quite frequently but her question seemed a bit random. So I evaded her question and asked instead why she was asking, having an inkling. Apparently, CF had called her for a chat and wondered if we were around, as she would love to catch up. No mention of rocking up at our doorstep uninvited etc. My friend is easily distracted, so I waffled on about something else and she forgot to ask me again 😄

@sunglassesonthetable but then she'd have to sleep in her car. Ok at this time of year but not in January etc, she'd freeze to death!

but then she'd have to sleep in her car. Ok at this time of year but not in January etc, she'd freeze to death!

who says she "has to" sleep in her car? She can drive to a hotel.

I don't think you can travel to someone's house and declare yourself 'stranded'.

but then she'd have to sleep in her car. Ok at this time of year but not in January etc, she'd freeze to death!

who says she "has to" sleep in her car? She can drive to a hotel.

I don't think you can travel to someone's house and declare yourself 'stranded'.

So it's OK then ?!

After all it is this time of year. In fact, its always 'this time of year' even in January.

FFS shrunkenhead you're wetter than a haddock in a bathing costume!

If someone mugs you in the street you're the type to take them to an ATM so you withdraw more cash for them 'cos they must be desperately in need........

Try not to be so bloody ridiculous 🙄

Just wow. Well done changing the subject, OP. Until your latest update, I thought you wouldn't be seeing her again, but now I think she might try another visit this week. Do your children know not to open the door to cheeky fuckers strangers?

Congrats on finishing the work!

@Qik

*So it's OK then ?!

After all it is this time of year. In fact, its always 'this time of year' even in January.*

Where do you live?
When can we come and stay with you ?
I assume you'll be OK with that.

@hop321 Are you ever tempted to send them a text - “since we did not hear back from you,your membership to Hop summer house has expired” 😉😂

WTF! Have you sniffed something? Did you even bother to read the bloody thread?! CF flew from the UK to a tourist destination in another country, hired a car and rocked up at our place, despite being told that she was categorically not invited and that we were super busy due to having a deadline for an important project. There are untold hotels and other holiday accommodation around here and now the main tourist season is over, you can easily get a room albeit still quite pricey. This is an acquaintance we hardly knew who was an arrogant snob until she found out that we moved to a place that has at least, during the summer one of the highest celebrity per square meter counts and where sun loungers earn more per hour than some people! And for ridiculous argument's sake, in January you generally walk around in a T-shirt as we have very mild winters. Just stop embarrassing yourself with your idiocy!

Ooh are you in Monaco grumpasuarus?

Are you ever tempted to send them a text - “since we did not hear back from you,your membership to Hop summer house has expired” 😉😂

Inspired, I might try that. If only we'd hadn't moved on from the days of yore when post was the preferred communication, I could have simply returned the self-inviting missives with 'not known at this address'.

In all seriousness, we're looking at taking the rather more permanent solution of trading the cruddy hotel facilities for a two bedroom flat in central London. Which wouldn't even accommodate my two teenagers but with the definite advantage of not having to provide swimming towels for every child and adult in my locality all bloody summer...

Skeggy.

No, that area is really densely built up and there aren't really any vaguely affordable, larger, more rural plots outside of Monte Carlo, or in Roquebrune/Menton and Cap-d'Ail on the other side.

Although, I spent years in Old Blighty, I never made it there. But I have been to Hemsby which has a gorgeous beach.

Don't drop your guard just yet, especially if flakey friend called on your land line, which means CF can know you're at home, and available for freeloading.

Not sure why you have directed those comments at me?

@marcopront Think you got the posters mixed up. @Qik was not the one going on about CF being stranded

Oh she flew from the uk to stay with you!?
the simp in me feels slightly bad imagining a woman in a foreign country and having to find somewhere to stay,when she thought she’d have something gaurenteed.

Flew, hired a car and - by the sound of it - drove on the right. Is also manipulative and holds down a pretty impressive job. CF has resources.

@dropthevipers My friend messaged me. She is not flakey but she really sees the best in people and is one of the few people who seems to actually like CF. The rest of us snort at the faux spiritual bullshit CF spouts and we all know she is a bully. My friend seems oblivious to it but then again, CF has been very nice to her on the surface. I did not have the heart to have a go at my friend for passing on my address, as she thought CF was sending me something (she never did). But now I have a lot more time and a clearer head, I will call her for a proper catch - up soon and tell her that I don't like CF and if anyone else wants my contact details to check with me first.