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Boyfriend lusting over women on internet

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Blashed · 26/08/2022 12:22

Hi everyone

I need some advice on whether i am being over reactive. I am 28 and have been with my partner for 2 years and a handful of times there has been issues of him following provocative pages on social media of women (not celebrities) shaking their asses in next to nothing in provocative positions. It makes me feel insecure and unworthy and i had profusely explained this to him during the first few times its happened. Following this he unfollowed the pages.

My self esteem has its highs and lows and these situations take a toll on me. A few days ago he accidentally sent me a youtube video of similar content that i believe he was sharing with his friends and pressed wrong button to which it came to me.

He told me it was an accident he was meant to send something else , then he said he thought i would find it funny and following this told me he sent it to me because she looked like me (fyi she looked nothing like me).

I had ended the relationship during the heat of the moment as i felt so low within myself and not worthy enough. He is now saying he dosent think its a dumpable offence and its only a video despite me explaining countless times how much it hurts me to see him doing this.

Am i over reacting ? Please i am going out of my mind. I love this man but sometimes shit like this makes me feel so low within myself. I would appreciate the advice.

OP posts:
wellhelloitsme · 28/08/2022 12:54

@PastMidnight

Eh?! You literally said you 'don't have a problem with' it aka are fine with it. Calling other people disingenuous for simply reminding you what you've said is ever so strange. Even stranger to say they're claiming you said things you haven't said. When you did...

Here's your quote:

I stand by my assertion that prostitution and men enjoying looking at naked women will be around for a long time to come. personally I don't have a problem with that

HTH

PastMidnight · 28/08/2022 12:59

wellhelloitsme · 28/08/2022 12:54

@PastMidnight

Eh?! You literally said you 'don't have a problem with' it aka are fine with it. Calling other people disingenuous for simply reminding you what you've said is ever so strange. Even stranger to say they're claiming you said things you haven't said. When you did...

Here's your quote:

I stand by my assertion that prostitution and men enjoying looking at naked women will be around for a long time to come. personally I don't have a problem with that

HTH

If you read the rest of the post and the posts in between, you will see that I explain my position. Please see my post to 5128gap at 11.05 today. I guess you would prefer to pick a fight than have a sensible discussion about the points I raised though.

wellhelloitsme · 28/08/2022 13:06

Good grief you're exhausting and contradictory @PastMidnight

I have a feeling you could pick an argument in an empty room and still feel like both the victim and the 'winner' by the end of it.

Enjoy your day!

PastMidnight · 28/08/2022 13:09

wellhelloitsme · 28/08/2022 13:06

Good grief you're exhausting and contradictory @PastMidnight

I have a feeling you could pick an argument in an empty room and still feel like both the victim and the 'winner' by the end of it.

Enjoy your day!

Have a good day too.

Irridescantshimmmer · 28/08/2022 13:28

He disrespected you and despite you making it clear to him he disrespected you again.

You are right to dump him, it would have been never ending if you stayed with him so you broke the cycle.

Your instincts are spot on

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