Been with partner a year and she hasn't proposed...

[getthesuitcasefromthevan]

Last Sunday was our 1 year anniversary.
I honestly thought she was going to propose.
She planned a night in a lovely hotel,lovely meal.
I honestly thought she was going to propose after a really great year.
I don't know what to do now...do I mention it to her?
I feel like we are just drifting along now with no proposal
I just feel a bit deflated.
I thought our 1 year anniversary would be the proposal
How do I approach this?

(Same sex relationship)

A year isn't that much time tbh. And you could have asked her?!!

Have you discussed marriage at all?

Have you talked about marriage? One year isn’t very long really

TALK TO HER FFS

It's been a year. That's no time at all.

A lot of people don't even move in with each other until a year

I have mentioned marriage yes.
She has a grown up son 20 and I'm not getting any younger.

What's the age of her son got to do with it?

Why is it up to her?

It's been a year, what's the rush?
And why couldn't you have asked?

Is there some reason why you wouldn't ask her to marry you rather than the other way round?

Maybe she's thinking 'why hasn't she proposed?'

Why haven't YOU proposed if you want to marry her?

@fufflecake just incase people thought we were early 20s and young..I was just telling people we were slightly older with previous life experiences

Why the rush? Can't you ask her instead?

We have lived together since 5 months so it just seems like a natural progression.

Crikey, that's moving quickly.

A year is only just the beginning still, slow down.

My (lesbian) friend has a theory that it’s because lesbian relationships often aren’t (or weren’t?) taken seriously so they feel they have to legitimatise the relationship via an engagement

Could be.

I know my own lesbian relationships moved so much faster then my hetero ones.

But neither have you?

Why on earth has my message been deleted?

I have been in lesbian relationships myself, am I not allowed to talk about My own and friends experiences?.. This forum is BONKERS

I was with my ex (male ) for 4 years but never moved in together etc
Then I met my partner and it just kind of happened to move quickly
I do know there's always talk how relationships move quicker
I think I just built it up in my head there was going to be a proposal

I think you would be crazy to be engaged after only a year, have you never had relationships longer than this that hasn't worked out?