Boyfriend angry at me for booking a trip ....

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I surprised him this morning with a city break for Valentine's Day to Paris.
I've always wanted to go and thought it would be a lovely weekend away.
He's angry at me for not discussing it and said it's because I'm "selfish " "only child syndrome"

I honestly didn't do it to be bossy or over bearing..I just wanted to do something nice.
I've paid for flights /transfers /hotel so it's not like I'm asking for anything from him.

Should I have asked him first rather than surprising him?

Wow he's a joy sucker isn't he 😟

Seems he over reacted. Is there a reason for this? Has he mentioned issues with those things before. I guess at least you should have checked he was available on those dates.

Well he doesn’t need to go then, does he! Take a friend instead. Honestly what a twat...

He sounds a bloody misery. I'd be thrilled if someone did this for me. What's he like generally?

So who will you be going to Paris with? You have 6 months to find a new partner who’ll appreciate it

Take a friend or go by yourself. He sounds nasty.

Some people genuinely hate that sort of surprise. He's being unreasonable to attack your character like that though, you seem to have done it in good faith with the best of intentions.

He is always like this unfortunately
Can't get excited for anything till the day then finds the tiniest things to moan about
Tbh I should have known but I got excited at 2am this morning and just booked it.
It's always me doing the planning of trips
He is happy to lie in bed day in day out and play fifa
I like to do fun things and maybe I should of known better

Take a chum.

Leave that hump at home.

No you shouldn't know better at all.

In fact, I'd say dump this fun sponge before he erodes your self esteem and find someone who appreciates your kindness.

Sounds like you're planning trips frequently that he doesn't want to go on therefore can't be expected to be as grateful as if it was something he actually wanted to do. Are you sure you're compatible as a couple. As I'm sure someone who enjoyed travel would love you doing these things.

How long have you been with this miserable sod?
I'd be seriously considering my options if I were you.

How long have you been together?

A fairly new boyfriend did this to me once, although the destination wasn’t Paris, it was somewhere else I had no interest in going. I know it was supposed to be a nice surprise, but I didn’t like being told when and where I was going to be going, that I was going to have to book time off work and especially that I was then supposed to act happy about it.

I think booking surprise trips is really only something you should do when you know that person inside out and are booking somewhere you’re sure they have wanted to go for a long time. Honestly, a Valentines weekend in Paris sounds more like a treat for you than a gift for him.

We have been together 2 years now and live together.
It's not just travel -it's anything
If it's a nice day and I suggest a walk to the beach or a pub lunch ..he will scrunch his face and suggest staying in to watch Netflix or play games on his phone

How long have you been together? I think I'm the kind of person who would like to be involved in the planning and booking process if going away so to be honest I can understand him feeling a bit off about it... Maybe he had different ideas about what the two of you could do together or where you could go. Do you have money to also go somewhere he wants to go or is that your trip for the year decided?

Having said that I agree his comments were nasty and overly personal.

Sounds like he has well and truly burst your bubble 😞, life is supposed to have it's fun and romantic times and you were clearly trying to bring that into your relationship. I don't like surprises either but it's not like the flight is this week or anything. I would say fair enough and cancel/take a friend and rethink what you get out of this relationship.

You should know better
Than to waste any more time on this boring Dickhead

No we normally do a couple of city breaks and a main holiday so he can decide where else we go..this wasn't even a planned thing
Just a spontaneous treat

FGS! Dump this loser!

I’d think about a future without him tbh. Life’s too short to be with a grumpy get. Why would you want to spend the rest of your life with him. Imagine all those years ahead of you having to put up with this rubbish. Add kids to that and it doesn’t look a bright happy future at all.

Bloody hell.

I hate last minute surprises. This is not one of those and 6 months is plenty time to get planning/excited.

Fun sponge? And then some. He’d suck the sun down from the sky by the sounds of it.

Get him binned. Love your carefree fun life with someone different. Someone who will appreciate things. Someone who actually wants to be with you.

Seriously what is the point of him?

He sounds a delight, calling you selfish for doing a nice thing I mean... What are you getting out of this relationship?

Take a friend to Paris.

Dump him. He's not a good fit for you. Move on to someone who appreciates spontaneity and joie de vivre. He sounds dreadfully dull.