To not know why he says this stupid thing and how to answer

[OneSugarOneSpoon]

BF of 7 months has this wierd habit of having a conversation with me that goes like this..
Eg . He will say something along the lines of " right I'm going now as I need to collect My daughter" . I'll say " ok" then he will reply " oh great...so you want me to leave then?" Or something similar. Same if he asks do if I mind if he goes playing golf or whatever...I say no..then I get this silly " oh don't you want to be with me then?"

It can be about anything really, but he often does it in relation to his kids ( "Alice wants to sit by me...oh you've let her...don't you want to be next to me then "etc etc)

I've actually started being quite snappy back as I've no idea what he's trying to achieve. Otherwise he is fine , but this totally winds me up.

Any thoughts wise MNetters?

I've seen this, it comes from insecurity. Mine didn't start it until after having a breakdown. Prior to that he was never 'needy' and demanding of attention; ironically one of the things that attracted me to him in the first place. I see now that was a red flag in itself.
After he became unwell it was always 'you'd rather do X than spend time with me', even going so far as to say I'd go to work or play with our son to avoid being with him. I'd call him out on it and carry on regardless. But it never changed. In his case it was insecurity and mental health driving it, but there were definitely some element of attempts at controlling me in there; he knew I wanted him to get better so tried to use that. Also the 'you'd rather go to work' comments developed into 'you'd rather go to work because you're having an affair with a colleague'. You don't want to experience that level of abusive controlling behaviour, believe me!

Sorry it's turned out this way but think yourself lucky. He's showing you who he is already, and you don't like it. Heed the warning signs and walk away, before he won't let you leave.

Dear Lord OP, he is simply awful.

A nasty piece of work.
Needy, insecure.
Humiliates his children for sport.
His ex left him because he is controlling?

Help yourself.
Don't be blinded by his career.
He's a horror.

Deliberately stopping you from doing something until HE gets a hug or kiss?

Ick.
So fxxking annoying.

How'd you work that out?

That would give me the ick op. Proper ick. Dunno how you take it.

Sounds like the boiling the frog has begun.

How needy and unsexy. And probably quite damaging for his kids' future relationships too. Let him know that and that no, you have zero interest in monopolising his time. You want a full human being for a partner who is capable of amusing themselves.