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Original poster

Would you get the ick if you were called "boobs"?!

139 replies

Namechange85 · 09/08/2022 09:33

As the title says really. I've been casually dating a guy for around 2 and half months, so far I've had no reason to complain he's been nothing but lovely.

Last night I added a little affectionate word after the goodnight text, nothing heavy, just a welsh word for my darling. He replied with goodnight boobs!!!

It has totally put me off him as I feel that's all I must be to him. Am I overreacting?!

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GreyCarpet · 09/08/2022 12:49

StarlightLady · 09/08/2022 12:23

No, l don’t think it’s good but I do think you are over reacting. If everything else is going well you just need to say that you are not keen on that and move on.

My sister calls me slapper!

Again, your relationship with your sister is not comparable with someone the OP has been dating for 10 weeks..

SequinsandStilettos · 09/08/2022 12:55

I'd reply honk honk but I am not very mature for an old lady.
Or I'd have written Booby McGee to you.
I use that when I have a revealing top on.
But I suspect he meant babes.

Pyewhacket · 09/08/2022 12:55

DiscoStusMoonboots · 09/08/2022 09:48

The whole John McCririck thing (calling his wife 'Booby') was even worse that just noting her body parts. He called her Booby after the Booby birds in Oz as she was apparently 'a bit stupid and all over the place'.

Truly was a prince among men, that one. Apologies for derailing the thread!

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He referred to his wife as, The Booby - " and the buffoon act sold him short. He was a skilled journalist whose investigations uncovered a couple of betting-related scandals in the 70s. Producers almost invariably turned to McCririck when there was a serious interview to be done."

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 09/08/2022 12:56

Pyewhacket · 09/08/2022 12:55

He referred to his wife as, The Booby - " and the buffoon act sold him short. He was a skilled journalist whose investigations uncovered a couple of betting-related scandals in the 70s. Producers almost invariably turned to McCririck when there was a serious interview to be done."

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Not sure what your point is?

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Namechange85 · 09/08/2022 13:04

So he meant boobs!!! Confirmed that as if it was no problem and continued a conversation about something else.

I am so upset, I feel like an idiot for being upset but it's a clear indication of how he feels.

Just not sure what to do now, it's really made me see him in a different light

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Pyewhacket · 09/08/2022 13:04

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 09/08/2022 12:56

Not sure what your point is?

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That he wasn't as stupid as he looked. Maybe !.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 09/08/2022 13:06

Pyewhacket · 09/08/2022 13:04

That he wasn't as stupid as he looked. Maybe !.

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Just massively disrespectful to his wife.

butterflied · 09/08/2022 13:07

Namechange85 · 09/08/2022 13:04

So he meant boobs!!! Confirmed that as if it was no problem and continued a conversation about something else.

I am so upset, I feel like an idiot for being upset but it's a clear indication of how he feels.

Just not sure what to do now, it's really made me see him in a different light

That's just so unattractive in a grown man. I'm sorry. Perhaps tell him how you feel and see if he completely lacks emotional intelligence, but I understand how upset you are. I'd be, too.

Pyewhacket · 09/08/2022 13:09

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 09/08/2022 13:06

Just massively disrespectful to his wife.

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And yet they were married for nearly 50 years !!!!!!.

yellowsmileyface · 09/08/2022 13:45

Ah, that's so disappointing! It seemed such a ridiculously odd thing to say I was sure it was a typo.

In that case, it would definitely be a dealbreaker for me too. I really can't wrap my head around why he thought that was appropriate to say!

foxlover47 · 09/08/2022 13:54

See I don't like it when it's a new person saying "night sexy " or "morning sexy "
Either , some of my mates think it's okay but I just see it as that's what it's all about so I can see why you wouldn't like it
And he confirmed it wasn't a typo so it's just his way with words 🙈

GreyCarpet · 09/08/2022 14:02

foxlover47 · 09/08/2022 13:54

See I don't like it when it's a new person saying "night sexy " or "morning sexy "
Either , some of my mates think it's okay but I just see it as that's what it's all about so I can see why you wouldn't like it
And he confirmed it wasn't a typo so it's just his way with words 🙈

I've got a friend who thinks it's 'cute' when men on online dating, who she's never met, say goodnight/good morning sexy 🤷🏻‍♀️

When I did online dating, it was an instant block from me.

Hourses for courses, I guess 🤷🏻‍♀️

There will be a woman out there with low enough self esteem that she giggles at being called 'Boobs' and sees it as a compliment 🤷🏻‍♀️

WaveyHair · 09/08/2022 14:05

Maybe a tad clumsy but it is not as if he does it all the time? Men like boobs,
my partner is very fond of mine and asks after them when away to make sure
i am 'looking after them properly'.

It is a bit of a giggle now & it works two ways as well. He knows never to call me love though - that is just disrespectful.

foxlover47 · 09/08/2022 14:08

@GreyCarpet I'm
Totally with you on that I would block/ unswipe too
It's a total turn off

Aikko · 09/08/2022 14:08

Namechange85 · 09/08/2022 13:04

So he meant boobs!!! Confirmed that as if it was no problem and continued a conversation about something else.

I am so upset, I feel like an idiot for being upset but it's a clear indication of how he feels.

Just not sure what to do now, it's really made me see him in a different light

Dump and move on. He's not for you most likely.

DiscoStusMoonboots · 09/08/2022 14:12

@Pyewhacket I never said he was stupid - he was far from it, by many accounts. My point was that he called his wife stupid, hence the nickname.

Staynow · 09/08/2022 14:12

WaveyHair · 09/08/2022 14:05

Maybe a tad clumsy but it is not as if he does it all the time? Men like boobs,
my partner is very fond of mine and asks after them when away to make sure
i am 'looking after them properly'.

It is a bit of a giggle now & it works two ways as well. He knows never to call me love though - that is just disrespectful.

Yeah not a good sign OP, not respectful and clearly shows what box he's put you in. When someone tell you who they are (and who you are to them!) believe them. Mind you the above gives me the ick more - asking after them and making sure you're looking after them? Grim. Are women really happy being valued for their tits? Do you really ask if he's looking after his dick for you WaveyHair?

CandyLeBonBon · 09/08/2022 14:18

How odd. Honestly he might as well call you 'sugar tits' and be done with it!!!

CandyLeBonBon · 09/08/2022 14:18

And what's wrong with 'love'?

Twattergy · 09/08/2022 14:21

Last time I was called that was 35 years ago but a gobshite teenage boy at school.
It was a 'hilarious joke' because I was totally flat chested.
So yes, massive ick.

Bubblesdublin · 09/08/2022 14:23

My ex used to call me "hot lips" Didnt go down well.

imnotwhoyouthinkiam · 09/08/2022 14:25

My sister calls me Boobs. My niece calls me Auntie Boobs. But as others have said that's not the same thing due to a different relationship.

If a new P called me boobs I wouldn't like it. IMO it shows what he thinks of you. And while my boobs are great, they aren't the best or the most important thing about me.

Annoyedwithmyself · 09/08/2022 14:33

Gah that's presumptuous and unsexy. And Cariad is such a nice term as well. I honestly thought it was going to be a typo. Have there been any other instances or suggestions of this sort of thing with him or has it been nice until now?

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Namechange85 · 09/08/2022 14:34

We've got on so well the past 10 weeks although have only been able to meet up a handful of times due to our DC and other commitments.

I am annoyed with myself for starting the whole name calling thing as I did last night, but I suppose it's shown me what I deserve to know sooner rather than later. So, so disappointed ☹️

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Namechange85 · 09/08/2022 14:38

Annoyedwithmyself · 09/08/2022 14:33

Gah that's presumptuous and unsexy. And Cariad is such a nice term as well. I honestly thought it was going to be a typo. Have there been any other instances or suggestions of this sort of thing with him or has it been nice until now?

Things have been lovely up until this! He's even planning a city break abroad for us soon, planning social events with friends etc. We message on and off all day every day, to walk now will really upset me. But it's clear I think way more of him so I should protect myself and steer clear 😢

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