Would you get the ick if you were called "boobs"?!

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As the title says really. I've been casually dating a guy for around 2 and half months, so far I've had no reason to complain he's been nothing but lovely.

Last night I added a little affectionate word after the goodnight text, nothing heavy, just a welsh word for my darling. He replied with goodnight boobs!!!

It has totally put me off him as I feel that's all I must be to him. Am I overreacting?!

Cariad is a lovely thing to call someone. Boobs is not!

I'd reply "was that a typo?!" and see what he says.

My ex BIL was Welsh he tried to teach me a few words etc, I thought it was a really tricky language to understand, really complex grammatical rules,
I think you might have called him, darling, or love or boyfriend depending on where hi is from ?, but a proper Welsh speaker would correct me.

how old is he op?

I think age makes a difference here. Is he an over excited horny teenager, or a more mature man in his fifties for example.

I don’t think he’s ran a mile but I think right now it’s sex for him. You’ve been loving and he’s firmly put you back in your box and told you it’s just the shagging.

He's not a teenager, he's a divorced man in his late 30's.
He has a teenage daughter which makes it even more disgusting, I'm sure he wouldn't appreciate his daughter being called boobs!!

I am genuinely gutted, but yes can see that I've been well and truly put in the just a shag category.

Cariad is used as 'sweetheart'.
It's not like declaring undying love, you'd use it with a child too.
Like Precious, Sweetheart, Darling.

Affectionate.

I think your “ick” at this word is amplifying other subconscious stuff that you have sensed but not consciously logged yet.

It’s totally out of sync / character from what you would expect from a late 30s divorced man - disrespectful and emotionally immature. Yuck.

Why did his marriage end?

“I am genuinely gutted, but yes can see that I've been well and truly put in the just a shag category.”

Note that genuinely gutted feeling - it’s your boundary and your truth - don’t let it fade or be compromised.

I think you''re over thinking this. He probably was trying to come up with a sweet name, was probably racking his brain and that as all he could come up with. He as obviously trying to keep it light hearted and not too heavy.Boobs isn't great admittedly but I don't think its a dumping offence / ick factor. Just send a light hearted reply saying something like "gawd, don't call me boobs" . I cannot imagine that is all he thinks about you, he was just trying to be witty and failed!

Have you asked him if he meant to write boobs? That would be my starting point....

I have been called this as a nickname. It upset me greatly. This was a male work colleague. When I complained it was shrugged off and I was told it was just a joke. This was in the early 1990's working in a bank branch. He would even shout it across the banking hall in front of customers if they needed my help. Other colleagues including women thought it was just banter and joined in.

So yea I would bloody hate for anyone to call me that.

I really think you should just ask him if he meant to write that. I feel like you could be jumping to conclusions and writing him off completely over a misunderstanding.

You say you tried the autocorrect thing yourself but not everyone's autocorrect works the same.

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Aren't you being just a little precious considering everything else with him is good? It's just a word after all. Go ahead and dump in and let him be happy with someone he can have a laugh with

Sounds like a teenager that hasn't realised that women are more than boobs and bums.

Total ick

Me and my OH call each other 'Boo' as a term of endearment...but this often morphs into Booski, Boo-man, Boo-head, etc...do you think he could have meant something like that? I would ask him otherwise you'll tie yourself in knots, potentially over nothing.

It's now nearly the afternoon. Have you replied to him? Did you ask him?

Boobs is hilarious after all.

Don't you laugh randomly at body parts op? Look at the above poster with their anus!

I haven't replied yet and now it's the afternoon feel it'll look a bit weird to ask what he meant?!

Tbh I just feel like completely ignoring him today but that's probably more immature than calling me boobs

He called her that because a booby bird is so thick it gets itself run over rather than move . Nice way to describe your wife, eh?

OP, that would put me right off but if he really is as nice as you say I'd talk to him about it and say you don't like it.

No, l don’t think it’s good but I do think you are over reacting. If everything else is going well you just need to say that you are not keen on that and move on.

My sister calls me slapper!

Well, yes. I wouldn't be keen on anyone who thought that was appropriate. To me, it shows what he really thinks about you.

I knew a couple who called each other 'boobs', pronounced like a cross between 'bubs' and 'boobs'. I never ever thought of it as breasts. Just mention it and see what he says. Could have been innocent, could have been icky. No point dragging it out.

I've asked if it was a typo....let's see!

I'm not Welsh, so if both of you are then please ignore me, but I'd thought "cariad" was more generally affectionate - someone you care for, not necessarily someone you consider the love of your life/a long-term romantic partner/soulmate.

That aside, even if you'd used a term he found too serious - why reply with "boobs"? That would not be OK with me unless it's an in-joke or a typo/autocorrect error.

I'd ask him, but perhaps not over text - in person discussion is best if possible.