I am at the end of my tether with DP.
DP has always seen nudes as no big deal, and would scroll through porn subs on reddit casually throughout the day. I hate it but have been made to feel like I'm the abnormal one as men around me do the same, and a ridiculous number of women I know have adopted the attitude of "well what's wrong with that".
Recently, I've found out that he has not just been scrolling, but actively sexting and messaging with these women. He's never sent any photos back, as far as I'm aware, but he's seen their nudes as they've all got them on their profiles! Confronted DP but he's baffled and thinks there's nothing wrong with it because it's just the internet and just a fantasy as he'll never meet these women. Apparently he talks to them for variety and sometimes just casually when he's bored.
Was clicking around his reddit profile and there was a comment someone else made wrt to someone else's relationship with thousands of upvotes and awards talking about how it's controlling for partners to police online interactions especially if it's just fantasy. Am I the insane one here? DP doesn't seem to care and thinks I'm overreacting over nothing but it feels like he's cheated on me??