Why would he be wearing his 'sexy' underwear to work?

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I've NC for this as it's embarrassing.

So my partner works nights in a manual labour job and always has done. Tonight before he left he bent down to give our DD a kiss goodnight and I noticed he was wearing certain underwear.

He only ever wears that underwear when sex is on the cards. He bought it entirely for my benefit or so I thought. It doesn't do much for me to be honest as I'm not particularly into extravagant pants but there we go.

They're not 'everyday' boxers and definitely not the sort of thing you'd want on display to your colleagues which would definitely be the case as there's alot of bending and lifting in his job. Think moving boxes etc.

It took me by surprise so I asked him why he was wearing his "sexy" underwear to work. He said "I'm not" to which I replied that I'd just seen them.

He was tripping over himself to explain how its because they're comfortable and airy. He sweats alot at work and gets hot. He then went on to say that he had put a towel in his bag aswell to use to wipe his head and face when he gets too hot.

Based on my OP alone would you find it suspicious?

He's in his uniform in the pictures yes.

He has been home at the expected time after all of his shifts for as long as I can remember, with the exception being last Friday when he got paid but then he always does a mini shop after work on payday so that time is accounted for.

He hasn't been argumentative at all no.

I've had opportunities to look through his phone as he leaves it on the bed side cabinet when he's asleep, no lock on it. I've never checked before but I'm going to try and have a look tomorrow.

Thank you to you and others for the pointers. I'm definitely going to keep my wits about me and dig a bit deeper.

I think that data on photo is just your phone details not the location etc.

I suspect he’s over compensating for a reason.

message and say you look busy. I’m off to bed. Knackered. See you in morning.

Then try and get on his Google maps timeline.

I don’t see how turning up there really helps as he could be meeting before work/ during work/ after work. If he’s cheated before I don’t think he can complain if you insist he turns his location on and you monitor his phone. I don’t think there’s much you can do tonight. I’m sorry, having doubts like this is a horrible place to be, and often it’s a case of waiting a while and see what happens. Possibly nothing else will but I’d just stay vigilant

I definitely think he's overcompensating. But could it be something like - he's crushing on someone at work? Flirting, wanting ego boost?

I would still be absolutely livid. But my point was that there's be no evidence of this really.

I do find his reactions very strange.

I think the towel thing would worry me more. If he regularly took a towel to work you would know because it would be in the wash, it isn't as hot as it has been, plus the warehouse would have regulated temperatures to protect the stock surely. 🤔

I'm going against the grain here and am going to say that his weird 'guilty' behaviour might just be 'OH FK, I've pissed her off' stress.
All the extra attention could be his way of trying to make things ok.

He seriously needs to cover his arse, literally.

He's had his current phone for about 2 years. It says 'new' as I saved it when he'd just changed his number but I never bothered to update the name.

I'm going to do exactly that. Sit tight and keep an eye on things.

Is sexy mens underwear code for clean and free of holes 🤣

me too!

Good idea! Take care, try and get some sleep and look after yourself!

Quite. He's working in the frozen aisle, according to that text. Why would he need a towel to mop his sweaty head?

Indeed. The pictures were taken from the frozen aisle, the fridges (and a customer walking with a basket) in the background.

I shop there occasionally and it's definitely cold down those aisles.

He can sometimes spend hours in the warehouse though, lugging boxes around and loading containers.

The towel thing is v weird IMO. He has been working during hotter nights than tonight and never felt the need to take a towel, not that I know of anyway.

If he had booked a night off, would it be possible for him to go into work and take the photos or is the supermarket or warehouse shut to the public?

He looks sad in the pictures which is either due to him being upset or deliberate to make me feel bad for wrongly accusing him.

Aaah this is shit. What a head fuck.

Apparently the towel is to keep his bottled water cold (??) and to wipe his face and head when he gets sweaty at work.

You can get an app called Exif data that tells you all the details, time, place etc from a photo

Maybe because he has been rumbled...
My dp cheated on me when he worked nights as he used to go to the girls house after night shift /early hours for a quickie.
So could he have maybe planned that?

It could all be innocent and a bunch of lads having bants on the laid back night shift and he was embarrassed you caught him in those pants and maybe he needed the towel because they do make him sweaty. Maybe it's a dare to wear sexy pants because they've got a new female manager and want her to catch a glimpse. You know how silly groups of men can be. Surely you'd have to have been with someone a long time to feel comfortable being seen in the mesh pants. It wouldn't be a new relationship thing?

The exif thing only works if sent a ms a text I think though. Not photos on WhatsApp. I’ve just had a little play with it.

Why would he happen to have numerous selfies stored of him on another day at work looking upset? They were clearly taken when he sent them...

😂

It could all be innocent and a bunch of lads having bants on the laid back night shift

Erm, no. That's not what happens.

This. It's so fucking weird.